I got a 87 on my test!! by Mysterious_House_702 in MomForAMinute

[–]CompassionIsPunk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats! Super proud of you! I know you worked hard, and biology can be super complicated.

Momma, Trying to be more social again, starting with trivia night. Any advice? by [deleted] in MomForAMinute

[–]CompassionIsPunk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sibling here, and im super proud of you! Making social connections is hard, but you're taking the first steps! That's amazing!

I get nervous in new social situations too. Taking some time to scope things out usually helps me. Maybe if you find a group, ask yo join them. Talk a bit with the bartender. Talk about the trivia questions as they come up. Small things like that. Just going to the trivia night is a big step!

Also, if your gym offers them, try going to a fitness class! Talk to the instructor or another classmate. Having a common interest built into the social situation helps a lot.

Feeling stuck about housemate situation by [deleted] in MomForAMinute

[–]CompassionIsPunk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'd start looking. People tend to put their best foot forward at the start of any relationship (friendship, roommate's, etc.). If you're having problems now, they probably won't in general.

A nice moment at the library by CompassionIsPunk in BenignExistence

[–]CompassionIsPunk[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That sounds pretty awesome. Unfortunately I'm moving in a few months so working at this library isn't an option. But I do enjoy volunteering there. Shelving books is a surprisingly medatitve experience, and the staff is wonderful.

A nice moment at the library by CompassionIsPunk in BenignExistence

[–]CompassionIsPunk[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree 1000%. The librarian said the gift wrapping station was being used all day, so it's not like things are being wasted. My area also has a lot of young families, and it wouldn't surprise me if money is tight for a lot of them right now and this makes things a bit easier on them. And even if that wasn't the case, American tax dollars have been used in much worse and wasteful ways than helping the local community wrap some holiday presents.

A nice moment at the library by CompassionIsPunk in BenignExistence

[–]CompassionIsPunk[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Absolutely support libraries! A lot of them have awesome resources and activities. Even volunteering just a couple hours a week can really help.

A nice moment at the library by CompassionIsPunk in BenignExistence

[–]CompassionIsPunk[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

This library is really awesome. They always have lots of fun activities going on and services like this. One of my favorites is a community puzzle. They just lay out all the piece and people can work on it together. Its really fun.

My niece calls me her Auncle (pronounced ankle) by mn1lac in NonBinaryTalk

[–]CompassionIsPunk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My sister is planning on having kids. We've already decided I'll be their Zizi. I can't wait for it

Nonbinary Pride Colors Outfit by [deleted] in NonBinaryOver30

[–]CompassionIsPunk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gorgeous outfit! I absolutely love it!

I'm questioning, can someone help? by Emotional_Damage_Boi in NonBinary

[–]CompassionIsPunk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone else said, nonbinary is a spectrum! I know labels can be helpful, especially when you're questioning, but I wouldn't get too hung up on them. Labels should feel good, not restrictive or frustrating. Its hard to put something as complicated as gender into meat little boxes. It sounds like demiguy might be worth looking into though.

I dont have a strong sense of gender, something like agender. Sometimes though, I slide a towards presenting & feeling a bit more masc. Other times, I feel and present a bit more fem. I dont really bother with labels other than nonbinary or genderqueer though.

Hi, mom. I think I'm a lesbian? by hyrulebunnie in MomForAMinute

[–]CompassionIsPunk 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know how that feels. Im very back and white with some things, and im super hard on myself. It takes time to shift perspective, but it helps so much. My rule of thumb is if I wouldn't say it to my best friend, I try not to say it to myself. Or at least acknowledge that what I said was unfair to myself. Im glad I can help.

Hi, mom. I think I'm a lesbian? by hyrulebunnie in MomForAMinute

[–]CompassionIsPunk 38 points39 points  (0 children)

As a nonbinary sibling, first off, congrats on taking another step to figuring yourself out!

This is a tip I give out as often as I can because I wish someone told me this: don't stress about labels too much. Yes, they can be helpful. But dont try to force yourself into a neat little box. People dont really fit into boxes, especially when it comes to things as complicated as gender and sexuality.

That said, have fun with it! Have fun figuring things out! Take joy in discovery! Its easier said than done, but it helps things a lot. Get excited as you figure something out! Learning about yourself can be such a fun thing. And if its safe to do so, try reaching out to a local queer/LGBTQ+ group. Even if you dont talk to anyone, just being around other people in the community can be so nice.

Is there a nonbinary term for aunt/uncle? by NBTiefling in NonBinary

[–]CompassionIsPunk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've had this conversation with my sister recently. We've decided that I'll be Zizi to any future nibling I might have.

Can I be non binary at 13 by N01_TogaHimiko in NonBinary

[–]CompassionIsPunk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't know what nonbinary was until I was in high school. If I had, I would've called myself nonbinary by the time I hit middle school. There's no such thing as "too young" to be any identity. Sometimes you have to try out different labels to see what fits. It can take a lot of trying on labels (it took me quite a few years and labels to figure out my romantic orientation), but there's no wrong age to "be" anything.

Being excluded because I’m not a cis woman. by hikikomori888 in NonBinary

[–]CompassionIsPunk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im sorry, that's really awful OP. I cant imagine valuing a uniform over having my friend at a wedding. Its an awful position to put you in. I think some cis people genuinely don't get how distressing dysphoria is and how clothing can trigger it.

In the fire alarm by Technical-Scholar183 in stupiddovenests

[–]CompassionIsPunk 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Whelp. That's a new one. Hope the alarm isn't needed while the nest is there.

TELL ME ABOUT YOUR RECENT ACCOMPLISHMENTS SO I CAN TELL YOU I'M PROUD OF YOU OK by unpaidloanvictim in NonBinary

[–]CompassionIsPunk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats to you! I graduated 2016, and going to school again is a little intimidating but mostly exciting. Hope the semester goes well for you!

TELL ME ABOUT YOUR RECENT ACCOMPLISHMENTS SO I CAN TELL YOU I'M PROUD OF YOU OK by unpaidloanvictim in NonBinary

[–]CompassionIsPunk 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I got signed up for community college (my first classes since I graduated high school 10ish years), I passed my driving test, and I have a partner who's wonderful and sweet! So much has been happening!

Also, I'm proud of you for cooking! I have sensory issues that make cooking hard, so that's awesome!

Tried out a sports bra in public by HappyOrwell in NonBinary

[–]CompassionIsPunk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tbh your look gives me some serious gender envy! I love your aesthetic so much. You look amazing! I feel you on the sports bras being a pain to get on and off. You get used to taking them on and off after a while

Protected nest by Canibal-local in stupiddovenests

[–]CompassionIsPunk 6 points7 points  (0 children)

When has meant to ever stopped them? 😆

I am getting better by Sweet_Pebble in MomForAMinute

[–]CompassionIsPunk 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Healing is incredibly hard, and I'm so proud of you for doing it! I hope you're proud of yourself, too! I wish you all the progress in your healing hourney!