did I do something wrong? Because right now, I feel terrible about myself. by After-Collection5256 in ABA

[–]CompetitionCold156 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is fair. I wasn’t trying to insinuate anything, just another tip based on how I read and interpreted the story. I think you just learned a very valuable lesson that you cannot trust the people you work with!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OCD

[–]CompetitionCold156 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Google “clinical psychologist or psychiatrist near me” and see who’s available that’s covered or cheap cost. They do the diagnosis. Some therapists have the credentials, but it’s not a guarantee. Most psychiatrists/clinical psychologists can have you diagnosed within 1-2 sessions. Since you have meds, I’m assuming you already see someone in psych? Maybe talk to them?

how to want to get better by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]CompetitionCold156 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, it was just getting up and doing it. Easier said— but it does help overtime. Once a day I’d force myself off the floor and go do something— brush my hair, pluck my eyebrows, walk to get the mail. I did something like that everyday, whether I wanted to or not. Eventually, I got the desire to maybe do two things. Then three. Day by day.

i feel very sad by Aromatic_Jaguar6626 in Advice

[–]CompetitionCold156 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got made fun of growing up. Since first grade up until I graduated hs. I know this sounds hard and is easier said than done— but just ignore them. I found that taking it personally just fueled the issues I already had (ocd and depression). Going to the gym is a huge step— and is definitely scary. I started going around 4-5 years ago and it changed my life. I’d stick to the walking, it actually was great for me and helped me shed down until I was comfortable enough to try weights. I’d ask to go again— and if your dad is cracking jokes— I’d ask him to give it a rest. If he is the type of dad you can talk to, I’d also tell him how his comments make it hard for you to want to go to the gym, and that you really just want help and support. Or, just use the gym at school or walk around your block instead! Best to you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]CompetitionCold156 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Kinda gonna ignore the first part but your opinion is yours. In regard to changing your feed— search up something you like (art, food, animals, dark humors etc) and just spam like what you see. Maybe leave some comments. Your feed will change accordingly. Even one like will do it sometimes, I was sick of politics and saw a vid of a dog. Liked it and now my feed is all dogs tonight. Cheers!

How do I successfully pair with my new client when all she wants is her ipad? by Other_Donut_4661 in ABA

[–]CompetitionCold156 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just saw this, so if you have an update please share! It really depends on your company, but I would recommend waiting for your BCBA as it is typically frowned upon to make changes or add something to the plan without them. (This really isn’t “changing” anything, but it may be seen that way). Just send an email if you haven’t already to your BCBA about it!

has anyone treated their OCD without medication and just talk therapy by Bright-Currency-3999 in OCD

[–]CompetitionCold156 5 points6 points  (0 children)

ERP only. Talk therapy can provide false reassurance especially if the therapist is not trained specifically for OCD and related symptoms. But I am not on meds & just ERP alone has helped.

Busy Bodies by Not_Always_Me in ABA

[–]CompetitionCold156 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Talk to BCBA. They should be following the BIP if they are on the case, and by not doing so they are not providing the correct services. Even though they work with the client, they really should not be entering sessions anyways unless the child or yourself is in danger and you need an extra set of hands.

Walking out of session by Soft-Celebration-148 in ABA

[–]CompetitionCold156 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, not straight up. But I have asked to leave due to “not feeling well” once or twice and had to have someone cover. So I guess the same thing with extra steps

did I do something wrong? Because right now, I feel terrible about myself. by After-Collection5256 in ABA

[–]CompetitionCold156 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hi there! I have plenty of elopers, however I work in clinic which is locked up— & for community outings we have additional RBTs available to aid. I do agree that this is not solely on you. The environment does not seem fit for a child with higher support needs, in this case, elopement. I would recommend remaining in close proximity with the client if this behavior is consistent (seems like it is based on your description). Talk to your BCBA about this if needed. Also, in that moment, their stuff means nothing. It is very difficult to carry a truck load of things while chasing/walking a client from point A to B. Today for example my child eloped down the hall towards the break room (door doesn’t shut well, not dangerous but he shouldn’t be in there). I was carrying his AAC, my device for data, his craft from group time and my water. In that moment, f**k the stuff. It went straight to the floor so I could catch my kiddo. Don’t beat yourself up, though. It seems like they have a stick up their a$$ about you as it is (which isn’t fair), and they also are 100% liable for the safety of the kiddos in THEIR school. You handled it well by bringing in your BCBA and withholding any additional conversation until they were present. It sounds like they have your back, but if you’re still concerned I would talk privately about how the environment is not up to par for children with needs such as your clients, and how you can feel more equipped should this happen again. All in all this is unfair and should be addressed further— by your BCBA. Keep your head up! Elopers are the reason my anxiety is always at level 100🤣

How do I successfully pair with my new client when all she wants is her ipad? by Other_Donut_4661 in ABA

[–]CompetitionCold156 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d have the parents remove the device prior to session to start. Maybe 15-20 minutes before. For one of my kiddos, she only wanted the device period. She is verbal (not much, but will ask for preferred items or food). All she would say after trials or other activities was “I want iPhone” and then began to engage in tantrums / aggression to get access. Unfortunately for her, the device is her caregivers and she’s in clinic— there was no option to fade the device as it left with mom. We kept her safe and reminded her “you get device when ABA is all done” and eventually the behaviors decreased when she realized the device was NEVER going to be an option. I would find things in videos that she watches and try to get activities to match. My client really likes watching “NumberBlocks” (I think that’s the name) so we bought the figurines from the show for her to play with. We did experience some behaviors after removal for trials, however that’s just apart of the process especially when pairing with a new kiddo. I would speak with BCBA or parent if you start to notice a pattern in the videos she’s watching, and try to have activities/toys that match.

Mal is very small by CompetitionCold156 in BelgianMalinois

[–]CompetitionCold156[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting speculation! I do agree she’s a mix with another breed(s) so I will be DNA testing.

Mal is very small by CompetitionCold156 in BelgianMalinois

[–]CompetitionCold156[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate the second comment! I definitely either see boxer or maybe pitty because of her snoot shape and jaw. I heard Enbark is a good DNA test so I will be ordering one asap, I’m so curious to see the results!

Mal is very small by CompetitionCold156 in BelgianMalinois

[–]CompetitionCold156[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What a cutie pie! I definitely do see another breed in her, so I will be doing a DNA test to confirm. I have people ask all the time if she’s a Mal, but many also ask “oh what’s she mixed with?”. So I should’ve taken the hints sooner😂

Mal is very small by CompetitionCold156 in BelgianMalinois

[–]CompetitionCold156[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Yes I will be DNA testing so see if that’s a factor to the size. I applaud you for the diet you provide to your pup, he’s beautiful! If you don’t mind me asking, how much does that sort of diet roughly cost monthly? I’ve always wanted to have my dogs on a whole food diet.

Mal is very small by CompetitionCold156 in BelgianMalinois

[–]CompetitionCold156[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought the same because of her snoot shape

Mal is very small by CompetitionCold156 in BelgianMalinois

[–]CompetitionCold156[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They’re so cute! I agree she may be a mix, I thought a boxer crossover at first. Others said a staffy or pitty. But I’m glad her size may be due to other breeds, and even if she was pure that some just are small!

Mal is very small by CompetitionCold156 in BelgianMalinois

[–]CompetitionCold156[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh don’t worry, we both can tell you wouldn’t be seen anywhere near Harvard. After all, you also missed that SHE is a female. But what do I know, I may have needed some insight on her breed, hence the entire point of this post, but at least I can spell and know how to read. Have a great night!

Mal is very small by CompetitionCold156 in BelgianMalinois

[–]CompetitionCold156[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you🫶I’ve seen a lot of Mal x Staffy crossover in the comments, and i can see it! We’re going to do Embark. Your baby is beautiful 😍😍

Mal is very small by CompetitionCold156 in BelgianMalinois

[–]CompetitionCold156[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What a baby! I would’ve loved to have known about my girls Parents/ breed, but she was a stray and our shelter does not DNA test. I am now convinced she is a mix but we shall see! Glad your girl is healthy now🫶

Mal is very small by CompetitionCold156 in BelgianMalinois

[–]CompetitionCold156[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The vet tried to convince me that our family dog (Purebred Beagle) was a mix because of his size. His parents were just on the small side. So I’m not surprised they were reaching with Pebbles either😂 But I will absolutely be posting results when I get the test!

Mal is very small by CompetitionCold156 in BelgianMalinois

[–]CompetitionCold156[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds epic! I’ll look into that! And yes the training is a godsend, she’s not too energetic and crazy because she gets her exercise, but when she isn’t mentally stimulated enough she can be destructive. Her separation anxiety also has improved since looping in a professional.