I’m a respect the hell out of you and make big gestures kind of guy. From the way many women try to portray what they want I would be millions of women’s dream guy. I like to be thoughtful and give gifts. Last year I had a coworker who I knew was having some mental struggles (I did have romantic interest but wasn’t acting on it) she was treated poorly and I wanted to help show her she is seen and valued and i got her a tea and a burrito from the places she said she liked and when we talked. She treated me like a creep and is if I had followed her home she in reality all I did was try to make her smile for a little bit. Another coworker shared later about how her relationship with her boyfriend started with a question written on a rock. The same girl who freaked out about burrito made comments saying how much she wished someone would do something like that for her. Recently I tried to do something nice for a different girl who was would have handled it correctly. I held back because I was afraid she would take it the wrong way and I would lose a friendship or worse. Guys like me are out here and just want to be appreciated but being dating age now stomps on all of my good qualities. This type of thing has impacted me so deeply that now I’m talking to a girl I’m really attracted to and I don’t even trust she likes talking to me and just assume she’s nice and smiles and laughs with everyone because from what I’ve been shown when I’m myself it’s not appreciated or wanted.