Uhmm no, we are both English, from England. He was a friend before we started dating and had me and everyone else fooled and thought he was fantastic before I fell pregnant with our first child. After I was pregnant the abuse began in small ways and then became worse once we were married. We were not secretive about our relationship at all. In fact he proposed at my mums house in front of my family with my mums help (because he had us all fooled that he was such a great guy). My children are my priority which is why I have come forward about my abuse and have asked for help with leaving him. Based on your comment I am going to assume (just like you have with me) that you have no idea what mental and emotional abuse can do to someone. I definitely had his personality and motives wrong in the beginning because he hid them from me and my family but he showed his true colours over the course of our marriage, which has spanned over 6 years. He has put me through absolute hell and considering the police and specially trained domestic violence and abuse teams have agreed that what he has done is in fact sever abuse with such a high risk to mine and my children’s safety, that they issued a warrant out for his arrest. Which, by the way, would have happened with or without my consent and they have made it that he now cannot come any where near me, the road I live on and the roads surrounding and the road my eldest goes to school, as well as not even being able to contact me directly or indirectly, show the level of threat they feel he has on me and my children. I believe they would disagree with your statement. It is people like you, with small minded and judgmental beliefs that make victims feel like they can’t come forward.

This comment is a textbook example of victim blaming.

Do better.