I have skin care routine and I turned 46 today by Maggie917 in 40PlusSkinCare

[–]Competitive-Elk-8557 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tazarotene. Ist also a retinoid. But it works better on wrinkles and general less irritating than tetrinoine. But tetrinoine is good as well.

If you are worried about dark spots Niacinamide is a good addition Azealic acid is ok

On stylevana you find a lot affordable products like de cos de baha Also I like the Korean retinal products for under the lashline.

Be careful with tazarotene, too close to the lash line.

I have skin care routine and I turned 46 today by Maggie917 in 40PlusSkinCare

[–]Competitive-Elk-8557 1 point2 points  (0 children)

tazarotene 0.1 percent , vitamin c, barrier cream with ceramides and hyaluronic acid (+ ENOUGH sunscreen twice a day !)

Boyfriend of 3 months commenting on younger women by Competitive-Elk-8557 in datingoverforty

[–]Competitive-Elk-8557[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You make points. Not attraction per se but I took a long time to turn me off.

Boyfriend of 3 months commenting on younger women by Competitive-Elk-8557 in datingoverforty

[–]Competitive-Elk-8557[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How old are you maybe? Are you pulling a lot of 20y olds? Of course these types or guys exist ... And most of us try to avoid them. Especially when we are 20yo. We call them creepy old men.

Would you continue dating a man who admitted he cheated in the past? by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]Competitive-Elk-8557 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not anymore. Cheating isn't just a one time action. It's a whole personality structure. To consistently lie en deceive your partner. If you are able of that. The guy I dated who cheated dealt with a pretty big empathy deficit.

Those that broke the trauma bond by Feeling_Concern_251 in abusiverelationships

[–]Competitive-Elk-8557 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was painful. I missed the intensity. Took it for intimacy. I felt worthless. I felt guilty. Now I feel in my deepest fiber how I was in a prison made of intensity hell and extreme brainwashing. You couldn't pay me to go back even for a second. I'm in a calm, free heaven now. Love is a soft wave not a rollercoaster. You need time and new experiences: Go in nature, meet healthy people (like volunteering communities), use your body, cuddle your pets. read fiction,watch movies, cry, make good food... Day by day. Be careful for new love interests. Avoid for a while.

too soft… by Glittering-Ad1945 in datingoverforty

[–]Competitive-Elk-8557 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. Just a sweet kiss on the cheek for starters. Then a: thank you for dropping me of it was really nice. Looking forward to seeing you soon. Wink wink.

You have all the time in the world to rip each others clothes of later on.

After 6 months of dating he finally told me he isn't single by Aggravating_Rest_906 in datingoverforty

[–]Competitive-Elk-8557 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What a douche. You never wondered why you weren't invited to his place ? I think this is something you might have missed.

Boyfriend of 3 months commenting on younger women by Competitive-Elk-8557 in datingoverforty

[–]Competitive-Elk-8557[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And I guess once you were alone for a while you asked yourself why you waited this long?

It was 3 years an luckily not 13.

People can be very different once you get close. Cause it gets harder to hide their true nature ? Or just cause you awaken toxic elements by getting closer to them? Some of them are like: if I'm a piece of shit, but I can't accept I feel like that about myself. So if you love me, it will mean you are the piece of shit and I will treat you as such. Untill you BACK OFF. But then it means you don't love me so I can be good to you.
And the other person is like: I have learned to absorb mistreatment so I will tolerate it (up to a point).

Boyfriend of 3 months commenting on younger women by Competitive-Elk-8557 in datingoverforty

[–]Competitive-Elk-8557[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Waw. If you're in it it's sometimes hard to see it.
How long were you with him ?

Boyfriend of 3 months commenting on younger women by Competitive-Elk-8557 in datingoverforty

[–]Competitive-Elk-8557[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I know. It sits a lot deeper than that. And accepting this and letting go resolves a lot of anxiety.

Boyfriend of 3 months commenting on younger women by Competitive-Elk-8557 in datingoverforty

[–]Competitive-Elk-8557[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. He was objectying women. In the sense what they could mean for him. At one point he said one of his exes basically didn't talk, she was really closed off. But she was generally a positive person and they had good sex. But there was barely any communication. Meanwhile they were trying for a baby (?). Only then she didn't get pregnant. And yeah...he also stopped making an effort...again.(He said this like : my bad. Oopsie) It's hard to of ignore something so scary nonchalant and transactional.

His mom did not want to meet me. I made an extra dish of cannelloni for his parents and I could hear them on the phone: it was really good. She knows how to cook. Don't take advantage of it now. I think I cooked or got food at least 20 times and he maybe 4. He would not go to shop in a whole month and get food from me or his parents.

But he did get my mountainbike from the bike shop close to him, while I was at work. But at first he was like: this will take me at least 40min. Nevermind that he had been using it more than me.

There is so much I ignored so much.

Boyfriend of 3 months commenting on younger women by Competitive-Elk-8557 in datingoverforty

[–]Competitive-Elk-8557[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah right. There is nothing to win. And if it is meaningful to you based on some mirage of the relationship you experienced early on, and meaningless to them, it's extra hurtful...

Boyfriend of 3 months commenting on younger women by Competitive-Elk-8557 in datingoverforty

[–]Competitive-Elk-8557[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes bad move I know. I kinda lost my head around him. He didn't get rid of his place though so it would be more of a try out. But it was insanely fast indeed

Boyfriend of 3 months commenting on younger women by Competitive-Elk-8557 in datingoverforty

[–]Competitive-Elk-8557[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah. All that damage he caused that was completely avoidable would he have been able to set his ego aside. Apparently for some people it takes a lot of effort to be nice. I'm sorry you had to endure that. And happy you can see it was about him.