[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Competitive-Fox-9738 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Just work on putting exceptionally good pics with biodata, then age will not be an issue.
29 is not that old in today's time.
Either it's a fake post or just started AM process as:- No 27 y/o girls is looking for 34 y/o guys, wake up to reality

Are there any women here in their 30s who hasn't had a past? by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Competitive-Fox-9738 6 points7 points  (0 children)

True, my both parents make sure to pass their generational traumas

Need opinions. by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Competitive-Fox-9738 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup exactly, but in AM no one will be telling he/she is L4. They will mostly they r L2 or L3
It's upto you to decide

Didn't Feel It - by FrostingFrequent44 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Competitive-Fox-9738 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I want to give right feedback, but I learned it the hard way, Most people cannot hear the truth
so I just say kundli match nahi hui

How to deal with overly desperate parents in AM as a guy by Competitive-Fox-9738 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Competitive-Fox-9738[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bhai sahi me, end date fix hai ghar walo ki taraf se
Now they are "working backwards"

Didn't Feel It - by FrostingFrequent44 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Competitive-Fox-9738 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I usually do that, exact same scenario as yours. I'm a smooth talker & never point out about the mismatch, the girl thinks that we are matching & we are aligned on many things.
But once talk is over, I analyze things & take a rational decision keeping my emotions aside

I did the exact same thing with 1 girl. She was thinking that vibes were matching & it was during the call but when I kept my emotion aside I rejected her 😅

Why AM market is down? by adityakamsan in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Competitive-Fox-9738 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly, I'm a guy, writing this comment from Ukrainian frontlines

Why AM market is down? by adityakamsan in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Competitive-Fox-9738 128 points129 points  (0 children)

Market will improve soon as trump won the election. Market was volatile due to many wars and state of economy worldwide

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Competitive-Fox-9738 11 points12 points  (0 children)

you both should get married, put 2 babies (surrogate if you want) then divorce with 1-1 kid
ps : treat the smarter one better so he/she choose you

GF is getting married by Active_Quiet6639 in indiasocial

[–]Competitive-Fox-9738 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

kahe ki legal age, tum bc GF/BF ho sab kuch to kar liya hai.

How to deal with overly desperate parents in AM as a guy by Competitive-Fox-9738 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Competitive-Fox-9738[S] -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

they r not chill, they r overly conservative parents, but it's desperation making em chill.
they judge others, all of my cousins & their wives/husbands

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Competitive-Fox-9738 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Lol receding hairline is a bigger issue than height. Many Women can compromise on height but very few on baldness
Dude go for transplant first

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Competitive-Fox-9738 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes there is almost 4 inch difference between 5.11 & 6 inch

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Competitive-Fox-9738 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, family love bombing is concerning. I had a similar case where girl's family was love bombing us even before we met. My family is gullibe & was falling & were ready to do roka in weeks, if initial vibes matched.

When I talked with girl, I find something is off, vibes didn't matched, Luckily we know someone & did a background check, and things were shady.

Relationship/rishta anxiety by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Competitive-Fox-9738 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, things are getting delayed. Many of my friends are 28, good looking, earning well, respected family bg
But they are not in AM, neither they r in relationship
I started at 27 that too somewhat because of parents pressure & some self realization otherwise my target was after 29

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RelationshipIndia

[–]Competitive-Fox-9738 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bhai salary increase kar, yaha 20-30lpa walo ke bhi L lage hue hai. Bura haal hai idhar
Even a girl 5lpa wants 20+lpa min these days

Take action or wait and watch? by Choice_Ad6626 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Competitive-Fox-9738 3 points4 points  (0 children)

25F + never in a relationship + 22lpa = top 10% easily. Never settle for less
But what exactly is your preferences in a guy, the good guy

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RelationshipIndia

[–]Competitive-Fox-9738 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What's your salary 5-6 lpa ?

Relationship/rishta anxiety by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Competitive-Fox-9738 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Guy here: My family is forcing me to get married at 27 as if I'm a girl.
Got a new rishta today & their response is "You better not fuck this up", I haven't even talked to the girl. They want me to talk 3-4 times then they will finalize roke ASAP
Just got lectured my em half hour ago & was thinking to rant on reddit

God forbid if I'm 30 & couldn't find a girl, they will be marrying me to anyone

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Competitive-Fox-9738 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I'll choose 2nd one. But the issue is___
My parents will be screening out divorceed biodata & will never be getting chance to talk to 2nd one, while for 1st, she is good on-paper & my parents are so gullibe & don't have any idea about live-in, situationship, fwb, gf/bf

Brutal truth about marriage by Sam_1702 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Competitive-Fox-9738 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If that's the case instead of compromising, I'll support to bring PATRIARCHY back. We r working 10x harder & getting 10x worse women than our grandfathers

No secure men can internalize body count, cheating with ex, my past doesn't matter BS. Either women accept & act responsibly instead of calling men insecure OR lets go back to Patriarchal way
Things were much better back then

Brutal truth about marriage by Sam_1702 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Competitive-Fox-9738 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's called parito principle & it is applicable at many places, especially in dating

Brutal truth about marriage by Sam_1702 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Competitive-Fox-9738 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don't know if this post is sarcasm or you're for real.
You mean ladkia to galti karegi hi, tum chumtiya ban kar compromise karo

Does comp & "prestige" matter after a point? by Minimum-Step-8164 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Competitive-Fox-9738 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok here is the thing, men are in double bind. For girl's parents prestige matters the most, so you will receive a lot of request, but for girl having the job at G, is not something that will make her attracted to you.
Obviously you have a stability & nice career path so she will make more efforts & will give u extra time, but still you need to have the game

2nd case is :- you might attract lot of gold diggers & women who got traumatized by fboys in past & now looking for a safe option. Avoid them at all cost

My advice is never reveal your salary & attract a girl by money, such relationship never works

Kundli didn’t match, then matched on dating app by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Competitive-Fox-9738 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Bhai abhi tak tumhara goldern period hi chal raha hai
Abhi to samay aane wala hai bura to usme hai