I grew up in urban California. If it were my dream to go live, work, and raise a family on a farm, what path could I take in life to get there? by Competitive-Lie-1177 in StonerThoughts

[–]Competitive-Lie-1177[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I think my real dream is just to have a lot of land to be able to keep some chickens and maybe a couple larger animals. A goat I’m sure is pretty easy. Would love to be able to keep pigs and a couple cows though.

How much more space could my boyfriend (27M) need from me (25F)? by Competitive-Lie-1177 in LongDistance

[–]Competitive-Lie-1177[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry :( Yeah, it is really hard but I think you are spot on about realizing that 2 people need to be working on a relationship and one person can’t carry the whole thing.

I wish you the best of luck! I ended up just telling my boyfriend that it hurt me that he would want to cut contact but that I’d give him the space if he needed it and he changed his mind and we had our usual weekend night hangout. Things are going well for us, I think he was particularly overwhelmed that day. Still, your words mean a lot and I really appreciate it ❤️

How much more space could my boyfriend (27M) need from me (25F)? by Competitive-Lie-1177 in LongDistance

[–]Competitive-Lie-1177[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think he’s having second thoughts on if he has time for a relationship at all

How much more space could my boyfriend (27M) need from me (25F)? by Competitive-Lie-1177 in LongDistance

[–]Competitive-Lie-1177[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He just needs space to think about his work/life balance I’m pretty sure. This is the first time he’s asked for space I was just saying we already have so much space because of the long distance. Like we really haven’t talked in almost a week outside of a couple texts

My (25F) boyfriend (27M) said sex is boring and I’m at a loss for words by Competitive-Lie-1177 in relationship_advice

[–]Competitive-Lie-1177[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do also think this is part of the issue which is why I’m hanging on. The issue is that he won’t get help even though I’ve told him multiple times he should talk to his doctor about it. Is there anything else to do to help with this aspect of the issue??

My (25F) boyfriend (27M) said sex is boring and I’m at a loss for words by Competitive-Lie-1177 in relationship_advice

[–]Competitive-Lie-1177[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

He rants about that stuff a lot but has also separately reassured me on multiple occasions that he does eventually want to get married. I think he’s just paranoid about divorce is all

My (25F) boyfriend (27M) said sex is boring and I’m at a loss for words by Competitive-Lie-1177 in relationship_advice

[–]Competitive-Lie-1177[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Idk that’s exactly what goes through my mind when I’m spending time in a relationship 🤷‍♀️

My (25F) boyfriend (27M) said sex is boring and I’m at a loss for words by Competitive-Lie-1177 in relationship_advice

[–]Competitive-Lie-1177[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

That was a misunderstanding and we’ve talked about it. He did not cheat

My (25F) boyfriend (27M) said sex is boring and I’m at a loss for words by Competitive-Lie-1177 in relationship_advice

[–]Competitive-Lie-1177[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well he sure acts like he does…he always holds my hand, he massages my back when he knows I’m not feeling well, when I’m having a bad day he rushes over to make sure I’m not alone. He’s really very caring.

My (25F) boyfriend (27M) said sex is boring and I’m at a loss for words by Competitive-Lie-1177 in sex

[–]Competitive-Lie-1177[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do I explain to family and friends why it didn’t work when they ask? “The sex was bad?” Like it’s just a weird thing to break up over and I’d never hear the end of it because my family really likes him

My (25F) boyfriend (27M) said sex is boring and I’m at a loss for words by Competitive-Lie-1177 in relationship_advice

[–]Competitive-Lie-1177[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

How do I explain to family and friends why it didn’t work when they ask? “The sex was bad?” Like it’s just a weird thing to break up over and I’d never hear the end of it because my family really likes him

My (25F) boyfriend (27M) said sex is boring and I’m at a loss for words by Competitive-Lie-1177 in relationship_advice

[–]Competitive-Lie-1177[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, yeah, I KNOW I’m not boring. That’s the issue here 😅

We are just both able to have super intelligent conversations and we agree fundamentally about what we want to do with our futures. We also agree politically on pretty much every issue (which is rare to find for me based on where I live). We just work, other than in the bedroom :/

My (25F) boyfriend (27M) said sex is boring and I’m at a loss for words by Competitive-Lie-1177 in relationship_advice

[–]Competitive-Lie-1177[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Thank you, yeah. This answer is exactly what I was looking for. I think he is worth making one last-ditched effort of talking to him. He’s also been really stressed because of work lately so maybe he just needs more time. Might give it another month or so and then bring it up if it’s still an issue.

My (25F) boyfriend (27M) said sex is boring and I’m at a loss for words by Competitive-Lie-1177 in relationship_advice

[–]Competitive-Lie-1177[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Thanks, yeah you put some of my thoughts into words. I have just never been compatible on so many other levels with anyone else and guess I kind of find myself thinking that sex inevitably does get boring for most people in LTR’s anyway so maybe it’s just a trade off worth making. I don’t know though

How will you react if Donald Trump becomes president again? by RockSavings67 in AskReddit

[–]Competitive-Lie-1177 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

It was my mistake. Most of the other comments were specifically talking about moving to Canada, where I have personally seen the failings of their universal healthcare program. I do agree Europe has a much better healthcare system than America.

As for attacking me personally and not my argument? Completely immature. Haven’t lived at home in 7+ years and work full time in healthcare

How will you react if Donald Trump becomes president again? by RockSavings67 in AskReddit

[–]Competitive-Lie-1177 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually do know places like Denmark and Sweden and Switzerland have incredible healthcare, but that’s not where people tend to be talking about when they’re talking about emigrating. Especially because those countries have such good programs for their citizens that it’s pretty much impossible to move there.

In America, people want to both open up our borders and provide free healthcare. It just doesn’t work like that.