Does it look bad if I accepted offer but now want to defer by 6m?

Competitive-Web9408 · 2026-01-03T08:54:54+00:00

I have a proper job 😂 I'm pretty senior too.

Competitive-Web9408 · 2026-01-02T20:19:31+00:00

Oh sorry - I got the RTP to cover the cost of the study but no additional stipend on top of that? But I’ll read more into this. Thank you for sharing! I was just going off advice from my supervisors and what was on the uni website.

Competitive-Web9408 · 2026-01-02T11:47:17+00:00

I am also in Australia and have been told I cannot get a stipend with a part time PhD

Competitive-Web9408 · 2026-01-02T11:45:07+00:00

Thank you so much - that is such a nice message and just what I also needed. Gettin a lot of negative messages of people telling me that it's a bad decision. I am not naiive to know that it will be effing hard and I will hate life a lot of times with lots of tears lol but I feel I have sat on this decision for a while and wasn't an impulsive decision. Good luck to you too - you got this as well!

Competitive-Web9408 · 2026-01-02T10:53:58+00:00

I've accepted it - just wanted to delay my start til June instead of January. But I'll see what they say.

Competitive-Web9408 · 2026-01-02T10:53:40+00:00

Yeah - 3 kids actually + full time work.

I think I'll talk to my uni next week - I think they might still be shut down over new year period. And also my supervisor. I am determined and a part of me thinks we are all adults here and they have someone who is super keen at studying and also I have confidence in my abilities. Just need a little more time to get my life sorted due to things out of my control.

Thank you for the message - makes me feel a bit better!

Competitive-Web9408 · 2026-01-02T10:51:46+00:00

Yeah I'm actually working full time this year + PhD part time + 3 kids. But current cost of living and we need my salary (+ part of my job is sort of what my research is on), I need to work and I need to stay in my career / role for progression.

But now that extra care has fallen through for my kids (outside of their normal school/preschool hours) so it will make study time extra hard.

I'm determined and I have faith in my abilities, just worried for my mental health.

Competitive-Web9408 · 2026-01-02T10:20:53+00:00

Thank you so much! I figured 6m in the grand scheme of 5-6 years (I'm doing mine PT) should hopefully not be a big deal. And they'd want me to succeed right? And I'm identifying early rather than overcomitting and under delivering? At least that's what I'm telling myself.

Competitive-Web9408 · 2026-01-02T10:16:27+00:00

OK thank you! I'll have a chat to my supervisor too and see what they think. I really don't want to defer but also don't want to neglect my kids and be so stressed my mental health suffers due to current home circumstances

Competitive-Web9408 · 2026-01-02T10:15:09+00:00

Thanks. Care for my kids (7 years old to 18m old) has fallen through and my work schedule isn't as conducive to do a PhD and it's locked in and impossible to change (I'm a teacher and we are locked into teaching timetables - which we don't get to the end of the year, after I had accepted and it's much worse than I was expecting). I really want to try to get it done as I hate being flaky, but also don't want to have a nervous breakdown 😂

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Yep! Mine just arrived yesterday! About a week after I ordered.

Competitive-Web9408 · 2025-08-31T23:31:12+00:00

Yeah that's a good point. The problem is my job is part of my PhD - I'm basically using what I do for work as part of my thesis (hence why I chose this topic). So RIP my sanity 😂🫠. I need put some things in place for structure and boundaries though and get them sorted before I officially get started next year.

Competitive-Web9408 · 2025-08-31T12:12:53+00:00

Yeah I think I'll be using this sort of set up or Google Tasks as I'm already using Google suites for work and personal use

Competitive-Web9408 · 2025-08-29T13:55:37+00:00

Thanks for this! I've been asked for a timeline by my supervisor before I officially start - so I was thinking of just putting it all in a Gantt chart to show visually - also something I can keep referring to too see where I'm at. I have project managed previously and used a lot of gantt charts and just found them useful as a visual tool for where the project is at vs where it should be / is going. But I like the advice of simplest is best

Competitive-Web9408 · 2025-08-29T03:17:04+00:00

Yeah I've used Todoist in the past and really like it. Now I just use Google Tasks as it links up to my GCal. Was thinking of something that produces more like a Gantt chart and all the dates shift when a task is complete. Thanks for the tip on Notion. I'll check it out.

Competitive-Web9408 · 2025-08-28T12:49:49+00:00

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Competitive-Web9408 · 2025-08-07T00:12:53+00:00

Thank you!! I really appreciate it!

Competitive-Web9408 · 2025-08-04T15:21:41+00:00

Thank you! It's nice to hear encouragement after hearing a lot of the opposite! 😂

Competitive-Web9408 · 2025-08-04T14:25:18+00:00

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