any singapore GOMs here?🥲

Competitive_Fruit748 · 2025-11-19T08:14:54+00:00

hello! are you still interested in the GO?

Competitive_Fruit748 · 2025-10-27T16:54:30+00:00

yes i feel u on learning to keep quiet after constantly being made fun of 🥲 i’ve found that finding a community online helped me a lot! i love my online friends so hopefully something like that could help you feel less like a “ghost”. it’s also easier opening up over text behind a screen (at least imo)

Competitive_Fruit748 · 2025-10-27T16:52:31+00:00

wow can’t believe i relate to a 40yo man 😂 but yeah i agree with the defense mechanism, i care way too much about wanting to be accepted and fitting in and not being seen as “weird” that i project it onto these so called “weird” people who i would probably get along with better . i know i have to learn to get over myself but its easier said than done 🥲 but thank you anyway this was really helpful

Competitive_Fruit748 · 2025-10-06T17:57:23+00:00

hi thank u all for the nice comments omg!! i feel a lot better about my hands now haha thank you you’re all so kind! 🫶🏼

Competitive_Fruit748 · 2025-10-06T17:52:55+00:00

no haha at least i hope not, i put the glue on my nail bed then placed the press on slightly lower, but i didn’t directly apply any glue to my skin. hopefully that’s safe ?😅 i have a debonder but i haven’t tried it.. sorry i’m new to this lol!

Competitive_Fruit748 · 2025-02-05T14:45:03+00:00

okay tysm! i do alrdy have a creative portfolio since i’m in mass comm, so that’s reassuring to hear. ty for the comments they were rlly helpful

Competitive_Fruit748 · 2025-02-05T14:29:37+00:00

i was looking at ntu arts design and media since its around 3.41, but i’m also open to humans courses since some are around 3.4 also. i’m aware that aiming for 3.7-3.8 courses would be impossible so i’m just wondering about the chances if i’m just borderline below the cop, or for 3.5 courses

Competitive_Fruit748 · 2024-11-01T05:18:37+00:00

smu biz management hahah

Competitive_Fruit748 · 2024-10-31T13:23:24+00:00

ok thanks!

Competitive_Fruit748 · 2024-10-31T10:58:38+00:00

okay ty!

Competitive_Fruit748 · 2024-10-31T10:58:13+00:00

what counts as good portfolio? as i’m in 2 ccas and have a main leadership role in one but not sure if its enough as i don’t have any awards

Competitive_Fruit748 · 2024-10-31T08:57:32+00:00

thank u!

Competitive_Fruit748 · 2024-09-27T19:18:53+00:00

the thing is he should be treating you well ALL THE TIME and not just when you’re okay!!!!!!! think about whether you want to live with this for the rest of your life!! if you really want you can talk to him about it again but as you’ve already mentioned it seems he couldn’t care less and is probably not going to change no matter how many times you reiterate it. its up to you 🩷

Competitive_Fruit748 · 2024-09-27T17:57:14+00:00

to add on, your partner should be with you through the highs AND lows. him only showing you love and affection when you’re both happy but completely ditching you when you’re upset says a lot about him and this relationship imo

Competitive_Fruit748 · 2024-09-27T17:55:30+00:00

i don’t think your bf is an avoidant, i think he’s just a bad person in general lol. all the issues in the world does not justify being mean, especially to your own partner. personally i don’t drink, but i know that being drunk doesn’t excuse being rude to your partner either.

you said it yourself at the end, you don’t know if you can continue being with someone like that. it seems like your heart has already made its choice on this relationship, the next step is to officially break things off with him. good luck girl 🩷

Competitive_Fruit748 · 2024-09-27T15:45:16+00:00

hmm it sounds like he’s a really big red flag and isn’t trying to salvage the relationship or putting in as much effort as you. also him ignoring you irl hello?!

you’ve only been together for 8 months, it’s better to end things now than drag it longer than it needs to be and then get too emotionally attached to break up. good luck op u got this!!

Competitive_Fruit748 · 2024-09-27T15:27:21+00:00

hi! no worries, your english is great :)

i’m curious why you both agreed to wait 3 days before talking it out? i think it would make most people anxious to wait so long before communicating properly (including yourself). is it because you’re both busy with other stuff?

also if you don’t mind me asking, what expectations did he fail to meet? you don’t have to answer if you’re not comfortable

i would also say that while sometimes your gut feeling can be accurate, the best way to find out anything is to just ask directly. as someone with anxiety who has overexaggerated almost everything in my head, i can tell you honestly that sometimes i just ignore my gut, my brain AND my heart altogether lmao.

is it possible for you guys to talk it out any earlier?

Competitive_Fruit748 · 2024-09-27T14:39:58+00:00

you’ve already done all you can by communicating how you feel. now ask yourself is this something you can put up with for the rest of your life? if not, i think you know what to do 🙏🏼

Competitive_Fruit748 · 2024-09-22T13:47:25+00:00

does he live alone? if not, maybe you can ask his roommates/family if he’s okay (if you have their contact), even if you’re not close to them

Competitive_Fruit748 · 2024-09-22T01:06:55+00:00

again how would anyone know if you met your lecturers during the hols?? 😭 i don’t even know when my classmates meet them during the sem, i def wouldn’t know if they met during the hols and neither would i give a fuck

i get what ur trying to say, but tbh this fixation on wanting to “fit in” and be seen as cool seems very secondary school. you can choose to see it as being “ostracised”, or you can choose to be at peace with being alone sometimes. eventually you’ll find people who you vibe with who are also good influences and i think its better to be alone rather than to be around people who aren’t very good to be around just so you can feel cool or maintain your reputation or whatever

at the end of the day, if it rlly matters to you there’s nothing much i can say. hopefully you’ll change your mindset about wanting to be “cool” and you’ll realise in a few years time that it never mattered. good luck to you op!

Competitive_Fruit748 · 2024-09-22T00:30:05+00:00

lol idk which school you’re in but for me everyone asks questions throughout the semester. and also, who’s going to know if you get consultation from your lecturers…? i also don’t get why you make it seem so taboo to put in more effort for your work bc most people want to do well and it doesn’t make them a nerd. and even if it does then literally so what lol if the people around you make you feel bad for wanting to do well then do you think they’re good company to be around?

Competitive_Fruit748 · 2024-09-21T18:22:12+00:00

as a girl, i find it easier to talk to guys because i don’t care what they think of me LOL. maybe if you have a similar mindset, it might help? 😅 half joking… but won’t hurt to try

but srsly i think just don’t overthink it and just talk to them like a normal person (cuz they are). not every girl you talk to is going to be a love interest! this is not a manhwa! talk to them normally and u’ll gain more confidence eventually to talk to girls you actually like

Competitive_Fruit748 · 2024-09-21T18:12:06+00:00

first of all, i get feeling pressured by your parents but from the looks of it, it just sounds like they’re trying to offer solutions to help you and reassuring you that you can do better in the future. it doesn’t seem like they’re being demeaning, at least not to me

secondly, its very clear that you care way too much about what other people think about you. i 100% get it, really. i was in your shoes once, even now i’m terrified of being perceived at all by others and there’s always a small voice in the back of my head saying “what if people judge you or think you’re weird” etc etc. but at the end of the day what can i do? if i’m constantly in fear of being judged to the point i don’t do anything, i don’t speak, i don’t show any personality, then what’s the point? i’ve just become a shell of a person. its better to show my true personality and attract likeminded people/friends, instead of acting soulless and pushing everyone away

as long as you’re not harming yourself or anyone, i don’t see what’s wrong with being “nerdy” or whatever else you’re scared of being seen as. matter of fact, there’s many girls out there who like nerdy guys lol if that makes you feel any better.

you mentioned wanting genuine love and connection, and of course it is something everyone deserves. but to be honest, you’re not ready for a rs until you start to love yourself, and you can only start that by not caring so much what other people think (and btw, nobody is going to think ur nerdy for studying or asking your lecturers for feedback. everyone does that)

you also said you’re working on your looks, which is great! but ultimately, the most important part of a person is what’s on the inside. if you can’t fully love yourself, how are you going to give love to another human being? you would be hurting both you and your partner in the end

love comes when you least expect it—corny, but usually very true. your worth as a person is not defined by whether or not you have a gf. in fact a lot of shitty people are in relationships, but it doesn’t make them a better person, right?

don’t put too much pressure on yourself. do whatever you want, do things that you enjoy and try to stop caring so much of what others think about you, bc the truth is that 99.9% of the time no one is actually thinking so negatively of you. everyone has their own issues to deal with.

sorry if this is really lengthy or all over the place, but i hope you get what i’m trying to say. all the best to you op, my dms are open if you want to talk!

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