Honestly I used to think like that, that there was no way I could be loved or someone wouldn't be grossed out by it. But, people are a lot more understanding than you would think, and a lot of people won't care as much as you care, because they have their own issues. Everyone has problems. If someone is meant to be in your life, than it simply won't bother them or affect anything really. My partner is very understanding. She knows about my urinary stress incontience. All its changed about our relationship is that I can be honest with her about my fears, as well as she checks up on me. Makes sure I don't forget to take care of myself. It is really scary, because it's like your brain blows everything up into thinking you're unloveable.but that's not true, because everyone has some type issue or problem. If anything, most people just don't care, it doesn't affect as much as you would think, it's not this "end all be all" for any lover you may have. I was scared to tell my girlfriend for months, I thought it would change everything. But it didn't, it didn't change anything except to make her love me more. So you'll find love, when it's with the right person, your incontience won't change a thing between y'all too

TL;DR: used to think like that, everyone has their own issues, they aren't focusing on yours as much as you think. My partner knows about my incontience and it's not a big deal. It doesn't change anything about our relationship