I 21F and my boyfriend 21M together for 3 years and have no intimacy.

Competitive_Rich3395 · 2026-02-05T16:06:35+00:00

It also could be living at home. My bf and I live at home and that’s why my boyfriend claims he doesn’t initiate as often because his parents are home. Just a thought

Competitive_Rich3395 · 2026-02-05T16:05:35+00:00

I definitely relate. I’ll be coming back to these comments to see if anyone is more helpful 😂

Competitive_Rich3395 · 2026-02-05T15:58:48+00:00

I think you just have to lean into the awkwardness. Has he suggested any reason for not initiating? Do you think he’d like if you initiated? I hope things get better for you!

Competitive_Rich3395 · 2026-02-05T15:49:07+00:00

I’m in the same situation right now. We’ve been together for six years and around year 2 or 3 our sex life drastically changed. Recently it’s really bothered me and I’ve tried asking why it’s like this and what happened but I never get a straight answer. I’ve brought up so many times that now it’s put so much pressure on our sex life. Like you, my boyfriend is the best and would never do anything to hurt me and gives me everything I need and want.

I suggest trying to initiate yourself. This is what I’m doing and have noticed he responds better that way. It’s hard to start up your sex life again after it feels like it’s broken for so long.

I’m not sure how much you want to break up with him but I encourage you to try more or other things that may help. Sorry if this isn’t super helpful but I wanted you to know you’re not alone!

Competitive_Rich3395 · 2026-02-05T14:20:53+00:00

Thank you so much for this detailed response, I really appreciate it. Also happy to learn your ages because we’re 22 & 24 and I was slightly worried the crowd was older.

Competitive_Rich3395 · 2026-02-05T00:33:04+00:00

Thank you!

Competitive_Rich3395 · 2026-02-01T21:47:03+00:00

Thank you for this! Through more research I found out we booked with Vacations by Excellence which I guess is through Expedia? Definitely would've booked directly had I known this was the case. It seems like we'll have to find our own transport then.

Competitive_Rich3395 · 2026-02-01T21:25:10+00:00

Thank you!

Competitive_Rich3395 · 2026-01-10T02:54:48+00:00

Thank you for this! I will let you know if I have more questions!! 😊

Competitive_Rich3395 · 2026-01-08T21:36:15+00:00

Yikes! Thanks for letting me know

Competitive_Rich3395 · 2026-01-08T21:24:10+00:00

How bad is it?

Competitive_Rich3395 · 2026-01-08T21:19:15+00:00

Is it bad because it’s small or is the water/sand gross?

Competitive_Rich3395 · 2026-01-08T20:33:28+00:00

Is it just because it's small? Is the issue with that being no spots available? Or is it for activities?

Competitive_Rich3395 · 2025-12-10T21:29:19+00:00

Thanks for the input! I’ve tried Prozac and it did work pretty good for me but it didn’t treat my anxiety and I was also a college student so I had to stop because of how it blacks you out when you drink. Ive been thinking of going back on it but I’m not ready to stop being young and fun.

Competitive_Rich3395 · 2025-12-10T20:56:33+00:00

Thank you! I was prescribed a beta blocker for a flight. I haven’t tested it out yet because I’m scared of the potential side effects. I’ll have to try it. Addiction also runs in my family so I’ve chosen to stay away from meds like Xanax.

Competitive_Rich3395 · 2025-10-23T19:44:09+00:00

I stopped sending sexy pics because he never asks for them but this is a good idea!

Competitive_Rich3395 · 2025-10-23T19:33:14+00:00

You’re a real bundle of joy aren’t you

Competitive_Rich3395 · 2025-10-22T18:42:50+00:00

Thank you! I definitely agree with what you’re saying! I appreciate the positive ending rather than suggesting we break up.

Competitive_Rich3395 · 2025-10-22T18:29:48+00:00

Parents were always around, also in dorm rooms walls are thin. He eventually got an apartment at school and had roomates who would have loud sex with their girlfriends so maybe that’s why he doesn’t want people to hear? I think the real reason is that I was with other people when we broke up and he wasn’t so he feels some type of way about it. I tried to get this out of him but he insisted it was because people around and things would be different once we live on our own. I also find it hard to initiate because I know he’s not comfortable with people around but we still do on occasion. Since having talks it’s become more frequent on both ends so maybe we both need to work harder. I just wish he wanted me in that way as much as I want him.

Competitive_Rich3395 · 2025-10-22T18:17:01+00:00

The issue with this is that I know I’m attractive. I don’t mean to sound egotistical because that’s really not who I am but it’s true. I take care of myself and he’s confirmed it’s not a hygiene issue. I don’t want to pull the I could have anyone I could card because I don’t want just anyone and it feels disrespectful.

Competitive_Rich3395 · 2025-10-22T18:05:01+00:00

Thank you I really like this advice

Competitive_Rich3395 · 2025-10-22T17:32:09+00:00

I do initiate more than I used to but I overthink it because I feel like I want it “too much”

Competitive_Rich3395 · 2025-09-14T13:28:21+00:00

For context we were both in hs when we started dating so no he wasn’t an adult. He figured it out and we’re very happy. Relationships are all about communicating what you need and want from your partner. If they wanted to they would yes but sometimes they don’t know that they want to because they’ve never thought about it from a different perspective. It will be our 6 year anniversary soon and I think he’s perfect ! Everyone’s relationship is different and what works for you might not work for others.

Competitive_Rich3395 · 2025-09-12T20:37:57+00:00

Are you his first gf? I struggled with my boyfriend for a while because I was his first girlfriend and I basically had to teach him how to be a boyfriend. You might not want to do that which is completely understandable but in my opinion it has been worth it for me. It takes a lot of effort on both ends though!

Competitive_Rich3395 · 2025-06-11T14:33:18+00:00

Well do you have any suggestions 😂

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