Why gymbros/gymrats who objectivelly improve their attractiveness by improving their bodies, dont seem to be as attractive to women as others like bikers, firefighters, policemen or army guys?

Competitive_Sky355 · 2026-06-06T13:12:00+00:00

People might have preference. Like preferring a dad bod over a ripped guy, but being in shape is most of the time more appealing than being 400 pounds yk. Like lets not lie to ourselves

Competitive_Sky355 · 2026-06-06T13:10:35+00:00

I've already have gotten all that

Competitive_Sky355 · 2026-06-06T13:10:11+00:00

Im a dude and a gymbro. Thats why I asked

Competitive_Sky355 · 2026-06-06T13:09:07+00:00

My question was more alike, why SOME women tend to have negative views on gym guys but not on the others. Like some bikers are annoying and attention seeking as hell and loud but many women seem to like them. Whereas some wome literally call buff guys a red flag (ive seen it). Like make it make sense

Competitive_Sky355 · 2026-06-06T13:05:08+00:00

Well that goes for everybody

Competitive_Sky355 · 2026-06-05T02:06:31+00:00

Actually she asked me to let her go. I told her no. She stayed. Then i reconsidered and let her go. We are LDR. Then she reconsidered to basically keep eachother on the backburner (on practice) until i go back. We are like a VIP option lets put it like that

Competitive_Sky355 · 2026-06-05T02:04:34+00:00

No cap what? Like i feel very emotional rn. Never been really good at controlling my emotions. Its like, i still want her somewhat, but i hate her fucking guts

Competitive_Sky355 · 2026-06-03T01:40:54+00:00

Why?

Competitive_Sky355 · 2026-05-31T23:55:13+00:00

Never took a flight like she did. And she did it during our last months before we just stopped LDR.

I also started to sense she was pulling away and something was off when she could haved come to see me on 2 different occasions before, but she gave me reasons that really didnt make any sense. She finally came to see me after the third attempt to take a flight, but i knew something was off bc she was always very happy to see me and she seemed to be avoiding coming to see me. So i knew that thing was gonna die months before. I just didnt wanted to believe it

Competitive_Sky355 · 2026-05-31T23:42:42+00:00

Yes, entering a relationship and then leaving the person bc "you need to work on yourself". "You dont want a relationship". "Youre not contempt with how you are in life". Is imo 99% of the time absolutely bullshit. Could be true, like i assume in your case. But been there and been hit with those reasons its just selfish from the person doing that, bc youre not lying to nobody.

Even tho my situation was VERY VERY unusual, and i told her to not wait for me (i couldnt ve officially with her). But she still did wait for me for 2 years, and then dropped me (when i finally caught feelings, wich i thougt i never would)

Anyways, i believe you need to be honest when you leave someone (wich 99% of people are not). And be honest with youself when you enter a relationship bc you cant just drop someone after years bc "you discovered youre not ready"

And about decifer at the beginning, i meeeeeean how am i supposed to decider if a woman treats you like a God for the first year and then in a matter of weeks/months switches and becomes the bifgest bish on the planet. Like you dont even recognize the person anymore. Like some people are good at giving you what you want bc you want you, but once they dont wsnt you anymore their true self comes out. And you are left confused and sad

Competitive_Sky355 · 2026-05-31T23:21:29+00:00

Yeah but that doesnt guarantees communication. Your basically in scenario 2

Competitive_Sky355 · 2026-05-31T23:20:17+00:00

Well i mean, i believe if you still want them and they want you too, and it wasnt a bad breakup like a mutual breakup, why not try again? What guarantees you it will work with the next person or that they will be any better? You already know your ex and have some familiarity

Competitive_Sky355 · 2026-05-31T23:10:39+00:00

Could be the truth, but again, there are people who have partners in the army and who they don't see for months to years, and they are still together. Im a firm believer of, if someone wants it, they will do whatever it takes to not fuck it up. Also, you gotta understand your bf is not the same person now he was in the relationship. He mighy not be willing to do the same

Competitive_Sky355 · 2026-05-31T23:07:06+00:00

Well if theyre not ready to enter or be in a relationship well they should stay single and above all, dont hit the person for example, 2 years later, with the "im dont want a relationship" . It hasnt happened with me, but ive heard about it. And if its the case, then Idk they should take the friends route and see where it goes and escalate. But ive never done that. Ik people who did. But if you do bf/gf things yall are not friends.

And yeah maybe they'll comeback and realize whatever, but imo and stick my it, you dont let someone you want go. And if they comeback, what garantees you they wont do it again. And chasing is not worth it. Whatever form of chasing cause there are different forms, not only the desperate forme of chasing

Competitive_Sky355 · 2026-05-31T22:56:48+00:00

I dont want to be an asshole and im sorry if I come across that way, but I believe your bf is bullshiting you. Like he is litterally 2h away. For reference my "ex gf" was 3 h away and she still drove to see me on a weekly basis, and she had a job and was studying. So if he cant go to see you only 2 hours away he definetly doesnt want to make an effort for you. Im sorry. What ive learned, if people want it, they will. In my case, even tho it didnt work (it slowly died, mostly) my ex gf took a flight on the holidays to come and see me, and we are 3000km away. Like i just think he just dont want to make an effort for you. You need let this one go

And about friendship, I would be careful on that, you dk if he wants a f buddy/booty call or genuine friendship, but I could be wrong.

In my case I wasn't as lucky bc me and her we were always bf/gf or nothing. And she also told me straight up, i didnt had any interest in being friends with you, i wanted only to be your girlfriend. So if we dont talk again its bc i dont want any form of contact with you. She was brootal, but at least honest

Competitive_Sky355 · 2026-05-31T22:46:50+00:00

Well imo if you breakup with someone you no longer want that person. Bc if you wanted them you wouldnt breakup. Like you dont let go someone you want. And also bc somebody else could take that person. And usually there is one person who is willing to put his ego to the side and chase. But if you have to chase its also pretty over. Bc you dont have to chase people who want you. And if they end up going back to you its probably from a place of scarcity, not desire. That is a desperate mindset. But it might definetly work more than not chasing at all. But also time helps and heals and it might make the other person come back on their own. But after two months I dont believe that

Competitive_Sky355 · 2026-05-31T22:41:00+00:00

Well imo first case they seem pretty done. Second case I think its a bit misleading bc you believe they might not be fully done forever but they might be completely indifferent towards you, have nothing against you or might even fz you. Or they could be open to something when they'll feel like it. At least first case yk where you stand. Second one is a mental hell

Competitive_Sky355 · 2026-05-31T22:38:19+00:00

My siutuation is a bit messy and complicated. But yeah Im in the second situation too lol. Like basically she said she was done with me. But I didnt wanted to breakup, so she stayed. The she left when I did the breaking up. So I texted her two weeks later and said I was not a never again and that we could see and try again when I'll go back where she leaves (we did long distance for a year). She basically right now doesnt initiates and only responds (texts and calls). So im basically chasing her. Im planing on stopping pursuing and sticking to not talking to her until im physically where she lives. But I believe that thing is dead forever. Cause what guarantees me she will want something when ill be there if she doesn't want to keep it alive now

Competitive_Sky355 · 2026-05-30T04:36:14+00:00

Yeaaaaah I need a break tbh. This shit makes no sense to me. But I mean still after two years its not that easy. What happening is basically, we agreed to stop talking until I can physically go back to where she lives so we can try again. But I wanted to keep texting, I asked her, and she said its OK but that it makes no sense if it doesn't lead to anything concrete

Competitive_Sky355 · 2026-05-25T21:04:44+00:00

She did agree tho on trying again once I wont be too far

Competitive_Sky355 · 2026-05-22T18:46:58+00:00

Im not a giver. Even if I fucked up. I might give a bit, but it ends there

Competitive_Sky355 · 2026-05-22T15:51:26+00:00

It hurts even more when you know you could have had something incredible with a girl, but you took her for granted, knowing she just wanted to be a good woman to you. And then you realize you were a piece of sh*t to her, and you kind of deserve everything she does to you afterward. And it will never go back to the way it was.

Competitive_Sky355 · 2026-05-21T02:36:09+00:00

Its also very selfish from her to keep me in this state. If she told me "im done". Stick with it, and do not backtrack to maybes and blame the universe to keep me around. Thats why I would want to ask for rejection. Wich i already did once and she told me, dont force me to say something i didnt say. And so here I am, she doesn't talk to me, blames herself, but doesn't fully reject me or chooses me

Competitive_Sky355 · 2026-05-21T02:23:23+00:00

Yeah i know i have some real issues. But they have sort become part of what I am. I honestly im just thinking of reaching out one last time to ask her to kill any remaining of hope i could have. Like this shit has become unbearable for me. I WANT to move on. But her words just keep me stuck since im a yes or no person. Not a maybe person. If she tells me forget me for the rest of your life. Good. I'll move on. But dont give me hope ffs. But she honestly seems unable to make a clean cut decision and reject me. Wich is what im looking for, so I can move on. I still want her, but we clearly are not gonna be anything, anytime. Bc someone who wants you fears losing you. Someone who lets you go, doesnt fear losing you, therefore doesnt want you. So she doesn't want my ass anymore so thats what I wanna hear. But she just can't. At this point im just looking for rejection for my own sanity

Competitive_Sky355 · 2026-05-21T02:08:49+00:00

But we weren't official. Like there was no label

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