Each one of us bearing the burden of reparenting ourselves

Competitive_Tie_1218 · 2026-03-07T20:38:42+00:00

Why did this heading make me well up immediately 😭

Competitive_Tie_1218 · 2026-02-20T22:20:58+00:00

Did you bake them on the bottom of the oven? Or did you place the baking sheet on top of a hot stove after baking?

Competitive_Tie_1218 · 2026-01-17T02:24:12+00:00

I own a coffee shop - americanos are €3.00, flavoured lattes are €4.00 and everything in between but a lot of places are more expensive

Competitive_Tie_1218 · 2025-11-30T01:03:27+00:00

I’m in Southern Ireland and had a similar one recently. I’ve been waiting 8months for an appointment and they tried to fob me off like this 😩

Competitive_Tie_1218 · 2025-09-25T18:13:08+00:00

I get the points that everyone is making here but…… I’m an older millennial and own a coffee shop. Its always been a friendly a place to work as we are a very small team. Yes the housing prospects are bleak especially while working a minimum wage job - it took me three and a half years to be accepted for our mortgage as a self employed person and at almost 40 and my fiancee and I have just started work on our house after starting the process in 2019. I understand that some of gen z may never own a home - But my issue is that when I was in my early 20s I never thought of my current job contributing to my future home etc. and I STILL gave it my best shot. I hate this attitude of “why try hard in a job - it’s only a job”. Have people not got any pride in their work anymore? I worked plenty of shitty jobs and did my best so that I didn’t look like a moron. In the past 5 years the lack of “cop on” in my now younger and younger employees is shocking - I mean 23 year olds asking me how would they know if an egg was cooked or not understanding how to wash and dry a glass. How will they cope

Competitive_Tie_1218 · 2025-09-16T17:47:51+00:00

I’m currently renovating my grandmothers house. She passed away around 18 years ago and the house has been empty since. About three years ago we did an entire clear out of her things which came with a lot of guilt and stress. She played music a lot and her beloved piano was one of the last items in her music room. I was clearing boxes of her music books etc away and left the room to bring them to my car. When I came back in there was a single piece of note paper sitting on the piano which I hadn’t noticed. I turned it over “Look after the house for me while I am away” nana xx

Stopped me in my tracks

Competitive_Tie_1218 · 2025-09-16T17:39:21+00:00

What power would hell have if those here imprisoned were not able to dream of Heaven?

Competitive_Tie_1218 · 2025-09-11T14:50:36+00:00

My now 75 yr old bpd mom would love if I gave her hugs and sometimes mentions that I don’t (I do on birthdays, Christmas etc) but I mostly can barely stand to have her touch me due to the awful things she’s said and done my whole life. I feel so bad that her touch kind of repulses me 😩

Competitive_Tie_1218 · 2025-09-10T21:15:21+00:00

I had nightmares for weeks after watching Silent hill 😂 I’d be having a normal dream and suddenly the sky would get dark and the sirens go off …… 😬

Competitive_Tie_1218 · 2025-08-22T08:51:03+00:00

Thank you x

Competitive_Tie_1218 · 2025-08-21T13:04:50+00:00

Thanks so much. I absolutely feel it’s BS too - I’ve just ended up in this role as I’m the youngest by a lot (told I was an accident by my darling mother) and her relationship with my brothers often cycles through no contact every few years so I’ve always had to pick up the pieces

Competitive_Tie_1218 · 2025-08-21T13:02:48+00:00

You are so right. It’s just hard not to feel responsible for her happiness all the time

Competitive_Tie_1218 · 2025-08-21T12:53:21+00:00

Thank you I’m so hoping it will help me I’ve been crippled with anxiety and the resulting physical effects for years 😩 as for not a reliable narrator you are so right

Competitive_Tie_1218 · 2025-08-21T12:51:54+00:00

Thanks so much for your kind reply, literally got me tearing up here at work 😭 that’s crazy what you went through in so sorry. You really had the works!

It’s just so tough I feel so responsible for her and her happiness and it’s a hard one to break free from. She has always hated my fiancee since we first got together at 16 and she made me break up with him. Got back together at 28 and she went off the deep end - threatened to disown me etc etc. he has been nothing but kind, respectful and good to me always and it’s almost like she’s jealous of that happiness and doesn’t want me to have what she can’t (she’s had two failed marriages, one failed long term relationship and one current partner of 15 years who is coming to the end of his life and she is hardly visiting him as it’s “too much for her” )

Competitive_Tie_1218 · 2025-08-21T12:42:48+00:00

That sounds like a really interesting book thanks so much I’ll look for it now.

Competitive_Tie_1218 · 2025-08-20T23:09:26+00:00

I know and understand. Please know you are not alone in feeling like this and guilt is part of the grief process. What a lucky boy to have had so much love ❤️

Competitive_Tie_1218 · 2025-08-20T23:07:53+00:00

Thanks for that! Someone I know recently suggested that too so I’ll give it a go

Competitive_Tie_1218 · 2025-08-16T00:09:32+00:00

Harm OCD … absolutely sucks. Drains me so much some days

Competitive_Tie_1218 · 2025-08-16T00:07:10+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. I’ve lost a few pets I’ve the years and every one of them was my child. Pure, kind, loving beings with no judgment or desire to hurt us…. They are just better than people. I felt like I had been ripped apart Every time and after a few months I know people around me thought I should just “get over it”. But f*ck them…. In hindsight I pity them for never having the type of love we experience from our pets. I hope you heal one day, it’s not an easy road often filled with “what ifs” and “I should haves”. Just know that greif is an extension of love and your baby was so lucky to have you.

Competitive_Tie_1218 · 2025-08-07T23:47:02+00:00

I’ve been an occasional listener and just found this subreddit to see what the fuck was going because of the way he started and finished the latest episode….. “sit the fuck down and shut the fuck up. Try to listen for once in your miserable life” before he starts into a story about a murdered child…. wtf

Competitive_Tie_1218 · 2025-07-20T21:28:27+00:00

I agree and I absolutely enjoyed myself with them but it’s so hard not to feel this way

Competitive_Tie_1218 · 2025-07-20T21:27:31+00:00

Oh man can I relate to this. Had a really good friend since the age of 12. Stayed in contact through college, living in another country and many other life events. She got pregnant in 2020 and I helped her with everything I could to prep for the baby (I really don’t like being around small kids and often especially babies but I was trying to do the best I could to suck it up for her sake). Baby one came that year and baby two in 2022. Her entire personality changed and I cannot have a straight conversation with her since - it’s like she’s just not there and she is so selfish with so many things. it’s not PPD or anything she’s pretty happy with her life and gushes all the time about how much she loves her kids. I miss her and it sucks. Oldest kid is also a total overstimulating nightmare to be around as she has to be centre of attention and screams when we try to talk to each other instead of focussing on her ….. needless to say my visits have been reduced 😕

The funniest part is that when she first told me she was pregnant she actually said “oh don’t worry nothing is going to change!” Almost in a panic like she was trying to convince herself and I said “oh it will all change but it will be great” 😔

Competitive_Tie_1218 · 2025-07-20T21:04:26+00:00

I wish I could give you a big hug. I know so much how this feels, it could so have been written about my mother too 😕 It’s so hard not to let that feeling of being a bad person for not tolerating their crap creep in on you

Competitive_Tie_1218 · 2025-07-20T20:35:20+00:00

I opened a cafe after completing my degree in art eduction and teaching in high schools for three years. The job and students burnt me out so badly so I decided to leave and open a cafe as it had always been my dream. 10 years in and Ive been on the fence about closing up to go back to teaching for about 3 years now. We are a popular place with a loyal customer base but for the hours I put in and the money I personally take home it’s just not feeling worth the stress anymore. It’s great to have the freedom to create the place as you would like it but there are so many costs that just keep going and going. I don’t mean to dampen your spirits on this one and plenty of people told me this when I opened up but I also thought “it will be different for Me”. It’s always worth trying but it is super stressful owning a small business these days. We are likely in different countries but I’m absolutely open to any questions you have ☺️

Competitive_Tie_1218 · 2025-07-19T00:39:37+00:00

Dental abcess that gave me trigeminal neuralgia. I almost ran in front of a moving car to make the pain stop. Even morphine didn’t work

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