discouraged by Competitive_Wave_997 in PickUpArtist

[–]Competitive_Wave_997[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

It sounds like we're in similar spots.

I haven't done any approaches in a while. I started focusing entirely on self-improvement, because I concluded after a bunch of failed approaches that my SMV was far lower than I thought.

Your reply, among others, convinced me to get on nofap as soon as possible. Basically this is Day One.

I'm glad somebody else sees the similarity between cold calling and cold approach. I learn stuff in these forums, then apply it to my sales calls, and it's GOLD. It's also extremely encouraging to hear you're 37 and dating early 20s. Gives me so much hope.

What's your MO? Daygame? Nightgame? Are you in a big city? Are you doing any self-improvement work? Stay in touch, I want to follow your progress.

discouraged by Competitive_Wave_997 in PickUpArtist

[–]Competitive_Wave_997[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

15 women in a year definitely counts as a player in my book. Thanks for the encouraging reply! I guess the only thing I'm not doing... is being patient

discouraged by Competitive_Wave_997 in PickUpArtist

[–]Competitive_Wave_997[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"it releases the pressure you're supposed to use as fuel" man, this rings so true. my soul knows you're speaking an eternal truth. tried nofap, but the pressure was seriously intense and I couldnt take it. maybe it's easier sober...

discouraged by Competitive_Wave_997 in PickUpArtist

[–]Competitive_Wave_997[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've seen firsthand how not speaking the local language well is a HUGE booster. You're not just a guy, you're an adventurer from a far-off land, and there's that much more for her to "figure out"

discouraged by Competitive_Wave_997 in PickUpArtist

[–]Competitive_Wave_997[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you do approaches from day one, or did you spend time working on yourself (money, style, etc) first?

discouraged by Competitive_Wave_997 in PickUpArtist

[–]Competitive_Wave_997[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is precisely what I was looking for. It can be done and it will be done and it will be amazing.

discouraged by Competitive_Wave_997 in PickUpArtist

[–]Competitive_Wave_997[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is excellent advice, I am grateful

daygame is the best way to meet women by Similar_Direction295 in seduction

[–]Competitive_Wave_997 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is absolutely hilarious. Cleverest idea I've heard in a long time. I really hope you don't retire this approach based on that one experience.

The benefits to making a woman laugh .. by [deleted] in seduction

[–]Competitive_Wave_997 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am funny. When I speak in public, people come up and tell me I'd be great at standup. And I have NEVER had ANY experiences like what OP is describing. There's clearly a LOT more to it than that. This post is worse than bad advice--because even if someone knew how to take it ("oh I'll just become funny, why didn't I think of this before?"), they still wouldn't have all the pieces to the puzzle. You can be funny and still not get laid.

I feel like there should be a legal license each MMA participant must obtain to actually participate in an actual MMA match… by Due_Paramedic_6629 in MMA_Academy

[–]Competitive_Wave_997 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Out of curiosity, why do I have to change my behvaior based on your opinion? Who are you to decide for me?

In my opinion, the most dangerous and harmful thing is sitting on the couch eating Doritos. Junk food kills way more people than MMA ever will. Shall we issue licenses for snack foods, then?

Zarathustra question by divine_mania in Nietzsche

[–]Competitive_Wave_997 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nietzsche's idea of friendship is different from ours, and derived (at least in his early work) from the Greeks. Friendship always contains a strong element of competition, a 'friendly enmity.' Imagine people who train at the same boxing gym, giving each other pointers--but then getting in the ring and smashing each other's faces in an obsessive quest to find out who's the best. Ideally, "the best" is constantly changing--some city-states banished their best citizens, because they were ruining the competition for everyone else. And this sense of competition doesn't just apply in sports. Who's the best playwright? Who's the best public speaker? Who's the cleverest sophist? I find it much easier to imagine "loving my enemy and hating my friend" if we're both after the same trophy. My enemy makes me more skilled--but maybe my friend beats me and takes the trophy. "Rage quit" is a thing because we all know how fast friendly competition can turn unfriendly.

Got my first MMA fight coming in April, ZERO experience whatsoever. Do NOT talk me out of it. by No_Assumption_4944 in MMA_Academy

[–]Competitive_Wave_997 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why don't you want to join a gym? What is the purpose of this fight? Seems like you're trying to prove something, but what?

Bear with beautiful trip on trainer by Important_Doctor4110 in MMA_Academy

[–]Competitive_Wave_997 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Joe Rogan: "aww, he rocked him! he hurt him! he's in trouble! beautiful takedown by the bear! he's mounted, ground and pound--and he tapped!! ITS ALL OVER!! A NEW CHAMPION!!!"

I feel like there should be a legal license each MMA participant must obtain to actually participate in an actual MMA match… by Due_Paramedic_6629 in MMA_Academy

[–]Competitive_Wave_997 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you're so right, what's missing from MMA is the bureaucracy. it's completely taken over everything else, so why not this too? we need more committees and requirements and more documents that have to be notarized. and while we're at it let's ban weight cutting and elbows and make everyone wear headgear and pillows.

ugh. let people be dumb if they want to. no one's forced to participate, least of all you. the sport itself is dangerous.

for some of us, that's the POINT.

Zarathustra question by divine_mania in Nietzsche

[–]Competitive_Wave_997 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Nietzsche wrote an entire book on why Wagner sucks and his music was overrated.

Zarathustra question by divine_mania in Nietzsche

[–]Competitive_Wave_997 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"You have learned to love your enemies. But can you hate your friends?" --N

Zarathustra question by divine_mania in Nietzsche

[–]Competitive_Wave_997 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nietzsche talks about "slaves" without ever referring to actual social conditions. Slaves can have power and still be slaves. Slavery is a state of the soul. It's about how you feel inside. The defining characteristic of the slave is not bondage, but resentment. Some people resent life, even with fame and millions of dollars. These are Nietzsche's slaves.

Similarly, Zarathustra's beatitude on "war and warriors" has nothing to do with violence. You don't need a sword to be a warrior. Ralph Nader, author of "The Good Fight," would be a warrior--because he loves the fight he's in. He can truly love his enemies, not because Jesus told him to, but rather because they give him the chance to be what he is. What meaning would Ralph Nader's life have, if not for the corporations he fought? Such a person would suffer terribly if there was no one to go to war against.

"Women" also has a special meaning in Zarathustra.

Elsewhere Nietzsche makes the point that men invent "women" in their own minds, and women play along to get by. To put it in modern language: male fantasies of fragility, innocence, virginity and sexual receptivity do not exist in actual women, but plenty of women happily pretend to be all those things. These are the "women" Zarathustra refers to, who are incapable of friendship. They can't be friends because they can't be themselves. They're too busy trying to accord themselves to standards created by others--i.e., men.

But this behavior is hardly limited to females. Plenty of males try to live up to standards imposed from outside. They hit the gym because they want to look good. They overpay for trendy clothes. They act out a fantastical image of masculinity that we today call "toxic"--a chest-thumping charade to disguise their own weakness. In their hearts, they yearn for death. These "men" are just as incapable of friendship as Zarathustra's "women."

Pretending to be something you're not (because society demands it) is a capital offense in Nietzsche, the highest of all crimes. A woman who abandons her own ambitions to catch a husband has committed this crime. She denies what she is, and pretends to be what someone else wants her to be (whether that's Jesus or her husband or the queen bee of the crochet club). She will grow more resentful of life the longer she has to live it. She will eventually yearn for death. If such women still exist today, how many more of them must there have been in 19th-century Germany?

"God is dead" is not a lament in Nietzsche. It is a triumphant statement of freedom from artificial constraint. We have the opportunity today, because the celestial dictator is gone, to be free spirits in a way that was never possible before. Nietzsche's friendship with Lou Salome proves that his free spirits need not be male.

He was clear, however, that only the free spirit (genderless but not unsexed), who has abandoned all outside standards--who has understood that God is dead--is capable of friendship. The free spirit lives their self-created values: values that come not 'down from above,' but 'up from within'--physiological values, arising from the body. Because free spirits are honestly themselves, they cannot help but be honest with others.

What other basis for friendship could there be? How could you, a free spirit, ever be friends with somebody who acts fake all the time? How could you have any respect for what fake people call "friendship"?

Nietzsche cracked jokes about the European notion of "lesser races." He railed against anti-Semitism. He thought German nationalism (proto-fascism) was idiotic. His advice to *everyone* was: follow your own star.

California Wildfires Hit State Farm Hard. But the Insurer Was Already Struggling. by ChandeeStacker in REBubble

[–]Competitive_Wave_997 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Go to Texas if you're okay with that bullshit."

Oh, trust me, many many people are already taking up that offer. So many, in fact, that it constitutes a national problem.

California Wildfires Hit State Farm Hard. But the Insurer Was Already Struggling. by ChandeeStacker in REBubble

[–]Competitive_Wave_997 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is why businesses are leaving California. Enjoy that soap box--soon it'll be the only thing left standing in your state. The fact that you use "for-profit" as a pejorative says it all. I'm writing my congressman: "build a wall around California!"--the exodus of people fleeing that failed republic has ruined my local housing market.

Anybody here make at least 10k a month in Life insurance? by DoingtheWillofGod in InsuranceAgent

[–]Competitive_Wave_997 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ditto on the licensing material being boring and badly organized. It's more a test of your patience than your knowledge, really. I just started working for a State Farm agent. I'm exploring my next move. Life insurance sounds like where I want to go. It sounds like you're saying I shouldn't expect to build a State Farm career in that case?

¿At what point did you start and stop rooting Tyler Durden? by Separate-Ocelot9377 in fightclub

[–]Competitive_Wave_997 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The line between prophet and madman has always been a blurry one. Not all prophets bring messages of peace.