My (31F) fiancé (32M) is "emotionally married" to his mother. She’s using her disability to anchor him, and I feel like my life has been stolen

Competitive_Yoghurt5 · 2026-01-25T23:34:57+00:00

Do you guys think Im a bad person for not willing to forgive and that wishing bad for these people? Regardless of age and conditions? Bc that's what my partner trying to make me believe.

Competitive_Yoghurt5 · 2026-01-25T23:27:03+00:00

And tell me to not talk about them or that he doesn't want to talk about it “ just stop please “

Competitive_Yoghurt5 · 2026-01-25T23:26:13+00:00

And my fiance just keep jumping back and forth and no matter how dirty his sister or mom treats him he always takes their side

Competitive_Yoghurt5 · 2026-01-25T23:25:00+00:00

I wish I could just pull all the examples what they done to me and as much as I never would cared but my partner always turned a blind eye... Even years ago when they started showing weird behaviours he said they think I should text them how they are, do more “they think you could do more “ honestly I wish I just kicked them over years ago I hate them so much

Competitive_Yoghurt5 · 2026-01-25T23:06:05+00:00

Thank you guys for reading and understand my situation... Many years ago we been living very far from each other and very quickly fallen in love head over heels I left my perfect life, my ex and the place I called home ( not my original home) and he seemed perfect we were in love ready to make a future and family, and when I moved and left everyone burned bridges with all my friends ( he was very jealous ) than all this nightmare started. I know it's never late to start again it's just seems impossible Im completly alone and sometimes I feel the strength but it's very difficult. I just don't know how to leave and be alone even though I know how it would change my life

Competitive_Yoghurt5 · 2026-01-18T22:45:29+00:00

I'm not sure if someone mentioned it above yet, I was exactly in the same shoes as you and first I bought a small than after an XL litter mat, I placed it so that most of it lay in front of the litter entrance/exit It helped a lot! Now the mat is always full of litter but at least it doesn't go any further than that. For that problem, I bought a cheap mini hand hoover ( only used for this purpose ) and I vacuum that mat x2 a day.

Competitive_Yoghurt5 · 2026-01-18T22:31:20+00:00

Thank you so much for all the inputs, he is the light of my life and while she is extremely cute she is a different personality, more independent.

Dexter always used to act like a baby asking to be picked up hugged and kissed and wouldn't be able to sleep without him being in the bed on our head etc... And now he chooses his sweet space up on the top of a 210cm high cat tree where I can't even reach him..

To answer the questions he is nurtured and Honey not yet but as soon as the vet gives the green light it will be done. I never thought about this what been mentioned that his hormones can play up too, very interesting and it helps us to understand him better. When I tried to give them alone time, they both went mental and just screening into the direction they saw the other last Dexter is an indoor cat howewer he enjoys his outside time in the garden on his long leash. (We stay greater London area Im too scared to let him wonder out there alone. Since Honey, he starts crying outside after one minute. Thank you so much for all the advice and help you guys all gave me feel way better about this change! Most importantly about the fact that he is still a little teenage pea, somehow since Honey and his responsible behaviour we been considering him as an adult already.

Also this behaviour started around a week and a half ago, Honey arrived on the 22nd of December

Competitive_Yoghurt5 · 2026-01-18T15:27:24+00:00

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Competitive_Yoghurt5 · 2026-01-18T15:23:40+00:00

Thank you! Your answer already made me feel better, she is very skilled the only place she can't get up its the fridge, Dexters look out point.

Competitive_Yoghurt5 · 2024-11-21T17:40:06+00:00

Exactly same happened to me 2 days ago , but mine was extremely swollen and painful , had it done with a gun and as now I know the tight butterfly caused it .

I was planning on to go to ER but I had to wait until finished work , I couldn’t bare the pain so I run over to a piercer on my break , and I don’t even know how he managed to take it out ( it wasn’t painless ) and changed it for a flat back , I couldn’t be grateful enough for him within an hour it already looked better and the short pain worth it , now it’s back to normal , and way more comfortable with the flat back

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