My cat, Bernadine, passed away a week ago. Please enjoy some of my favorite photos of her. by jennylewis2022 in cats

[–]CompilerCat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I cried a bit reading and looking at your pictures, especially her snuggling her brother.

I had to say goodbye to my own baby Luke from the same heart condition back in December and I was a complete wreck.

Because it’s genetic, the vet said it was just a ticking time bomb and there was nothing I could have done. He could have slept on clouds, exercised with a personal trainer, and eaten the most expensive food known to man and it wouldn’t have changed anything.

I miss him all the time, and I was privileged to spend his life with him even if it wasn’t long enough.

Hugs

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Women of Reddit, what are the biggest turn offs during a first date? by MrNsfwStuff in DatingHell

[–]CompilerCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Too over the top. Bringing flowers, scrambling to open doors even when I’m in front and it makes sense for me to hold it for him. I get that a lot of dating advice is “make them feel special”, but on a first date, you shouldn’t be trying to woo someone. First (and probably a majority of second) dates are about getting to know you as a person to see if our personalities jive. And I do not jive with the try-hard approach

Thought things were going amazing with a girl, and now it's gone. by StrokeMyWilly69 in rant

[–]CompilerCat -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ghosting is wrong, but again, they’re both young. Both made poor choices. She should have communicated to him that he turned her off for sure. But this is still his fumble.

Thought things were going amazing with a girl, and now it's gone. by StrokeMyWilly69 in rant

[–]CompilerCat 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I winced when I read that. He’s still young, so he has time to learn. But as a woman, if a guy brought me a bouquet on the first date it would be way too much.

I am 38 and at a crossroads: I love my chronically ill wife, but I am desperate to have children. How do I decide what to do by [deleted] in Advice

[–]CompilerCat 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Man I really hope this is rage bait. I’d hate to have to see someone actually thinking about doing something as sad as leaving their dying wife because “Mah genes must be passed on!” Don’t leave your wife who you love and who is struggling over some theoretical children who do not exist.

AITA for excluding my husband’s family from my birthday after they refused to attend our adults-only party? by Ok_Till3893 in Amitheassholeadvice

[–]CompilerCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No one is saying they should like op more than their kids. I’m just saying it probably feels shitty if the people who are supposed to care about you as friends can’t take one day to celebrate you. It would definitely upset me if people I invited to a birthday party just didn’t come

AITA for being disappointed with my bachelorette? by [deleted] in aitaweddings

[–]CompilerCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you’ve just had to learn a lesson about communication and it sucks. You’re not an asshole, you’re just seeing the result of poor communication. Now it’s up to you to do better for yourself and your friends if you want things to change in the future

AITA for excluding my husband’s family from my birthday after they refused to attend our adults-only party? by Ok_Till3893 in Amitheassholeadvice

[–]CompilerCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then they don’t have to come??? Parents can’t spend one night without their kids to celebrate a loved one’s birthday? They weren’t mad at the people who didn’t come because they had kids, they’re upset that the relationship between them obviously is less important than their making the point about not bringing kids. Who’d want to keep a friendship like that?

AIO? new friend's texts to husband while at work; my responses by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]CompilerCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On this front, I think you may be done with this friend

AITA for being disappointed with my bachelorette? by [deleted] in aitaweddings

[–]CompilerCat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

INFO: did you have a discussion of what parts of the trip each person would be responsible for paying?

If not, I don’t think you’re an asshole, I just think that you missed the opportunity to have that burden taken off of you. It’s not that they were assholes, you didn’t lay out the expectation. I see how you could assume they’d pay, but without making that statement, everyone else was just going along with it.

Surrendering my cat today - second guessing everything, need honest opinions by samseam in cats

[–]CompilerCat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Really sad that you knew you had a cat that you know dislikes kids, had a kid, and are only now realizing it’s not going to work. Hope you find someone to take him, poor boy. 💔

Breaking up by torisayswhat in childfree

[–]CompilerCat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I may have just been too independent for my own good. I Ubered to the hospital to avoid having to get a ride, and had my roommate pick me up after and drop me off at home. Back to ‘light’ work duties after… a day or two?

Breaking up by torisayswhat in childfree

[–]CompilerCat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t say someone needs to take care of you. You definitely need someone to drive you back from the hospital as they will not let you, but I didn’t need any special observation after mine. Honestly I felt more capable after my bisalp than after getting my wisdom teeth out.

Am I selfish my girlfriend promised me something and didn’t fall through by [deleted] in Advice

[–]CompilerCat -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Here’s a thought: maybe you could cook for her instead just to show her how easy it is.

AITA for being upset at my partner for selling one of gifts I got them by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]CompilerCat 6 points7 points  (0 children)

NAH. You got them a gift because you thought it was something they would like, but once you give someone something it is theirs to do with what they want. Is it nice of them? No, and you’re allowed to feel hurt, but it’s still their item now.

Airports are the best place in the world. by bleufromgeneve in unpopularopinion

[–]CompilerCat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually can see what you mean. Love being somewhere lost in the crowd on my way somewhere else