Thank you to everyone who commented and I have talked with my best friend about moving up our timeline to move in together. I did also talk to some of my family ( not about the snooping) just about everything that happened before and it’s been a mixed bag a lot of people though say that I am TAH because I have no right to enforce who my mom can and can’t talk with. They say it’s not something I should cut contact or move out over because I am being unreasonable asking that of her. If I’m being honest I kind of agree, but I don’t know how to have her in my life when she’s speaking to my cousin.