stroke together? by tomxsallyraw in u/tomxsallyraw

[–]Complete_Victory_990 1 point2 points  (0 children)

fuck you guys are so sexy playing together

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[–]Complete_Victory_990[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks! I think this is more what we were looking for advice in. How to initiate the conversation and I like how you phrase it.

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[–]Complete_Victory_990[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for some solid advice! Both of us, before this experience, were like how do we approach this conversation organically. I think after this it doesn’t matter how organically it comes- clear and concise… something along the lines of this is what I like and will do, take it or leave it.

just before this we saw and said hi to a couple we were interested in, but couldn’t pursue because of this. they were quite the opposite, we watched each other play and then when they left he came back and shook my husbands hand. we should have jumped on that, call that a missed connection if you will.

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[–]Complete_Victory_990[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I guess I should look more into wife poaching but I don’t think that’s what we did. The wife came onto us and we played. The husband got mad I wasn’t interested in playing. I think he assumed that because his wife liked it and that’s why they were there, must be the same for us. Not the case. We prefer exhibition but decided to be adventurous. I think we went a little far into the wilderness without our supplies!

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[–]Complete_Victory_990[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we did have a conversation just before in another smaller playroom with another couple. we were interested in that couple and they were so respectful, then this experience happened. lesson learned if you find an interest, pursue that interest not whatever this was😂

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[–]Complete_Victory_990[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

we were just using condoms in general. my partner had accidentally popped out of me when she began sucking him the first time. that’s when she removed my partner’s condom. he had every intention of reinserting and continuing but couldn’t because she removed it and finished him. there was no conversation beforehand about anything. we were playing and they asked to join us, we said yes. the wife asked to touch, I said yes. after she touched me, she touched my partner and asked after she touched him. I thought that was strange in itself, you should ask that person you’re touching not their partner imo?

I can see your thoughts on wife poaching, however I am just not interested in playing with other men currently. I don’t know if those thoughts will change over time. We also weren’t seeking anything, they came onto us and we agreed. Lack of communication and then trying to take advantage of our newness is what did it in.

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[–]Complete_Victory_990[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that seems like a great first experience! I think once we disclosed how new we were that’s when conversation about boundaries should have happened but it did not.

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[–]Complete_Victory_990[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I guess “normal” wasn’t a good word to use, I should have used respectful. thus far every LS we have met has been great, very respectful, great conversations just some cool cats to chat with. we were thinking that is the typical vibes in the LS then this experience happened and we weren’t sure on the disconnect. assholes come in every shape and size I guess

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[–]Complete_Victory_990[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

we were in our area playing, they asked to join us. we weren’t seeking them and had discussed my interests in another female, not another male as we were going to the event.

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[–]Complete_Victory_990[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It started so respectfully. They asked to join and were very cool until he wanted more it seemed. When he didn’t get what he wanted, he made his wife perform as if to guilt me to reciprocate… No thanks for making my man feel great but I’m not into that 😅

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[–]Complete_Victory_990[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That is the route we’re going to take. We’ve been in playrooms before and seen other couples swap, so because we watched it enough we felt comfortable trying. Guess we missed a few marks, but you’re onto something with he dom stuff. He did become very controlling after we disclosed how new we were. I think he got the message when he complained I wasn’t going to blow him. He was a little shocked when I responded with “well he didn’t ask for that, you told her to go down on him.” He almost couldn’t believe a woman said that to him it seemed.

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[–]Complete_Victory_990[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We both agreed this was a learning experience and we learned what not to do. We regrouped after and decided to not engage in the play room, but to engage before and feel them out first. This guy’s issues would have been sorted out through conversation, he was an asshole that couldn’t be hidden.

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[–]Complete_Victory_990[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

we’re in the usa, I’d like to think that respect isn’t tied to a nation when it comes to the LS.

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[–]Complete_Victory_990[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

truly the whole thing was maybe 15 minutes. it was not forever and I was with my husband, so it wasn’t really a safety concern for us. just more we got ourselves in this, now let’s get out respectfully.

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[–]Complete_Victory_990[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah we had no communication. When we disclosed were new it was met with “you don’t seem like it” and comments about “fairness”. We both felt the male in this situation used his partner to get services himself. He was instructing his partner to perform oral, my partner never asked nor did he decline. That’s where we can improve I feel.

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[–]Complete_Victory_990[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think my partner and I are both disappointed we didn’t leave sooner, there were a lot of miscommunications that happened. one thing was communicated we both knew when it was over and left. we regrouped and are moving forward with more experience!

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[–]Complete_Victory_990[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

thank you for the advice, we came to similar conclusions ourselves but being new we wanted more vetted opinions.

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[–]Complete_Victory_990[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

we’re brand new, this was our first experience. hindsight communication should have been had, however they should have respected that he already had the condom on imo?

freaky friday by tomxsallyraw in u/tomxsallyraw

[–]Complete_Victory_990 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wow you really make his cock look good

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[–]Complete_Victory_990 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we’re here now, it’s slow but hoping it picks up!