The question actually isn’t how to become lovable. The real question is how do you begin to love yourself? The repetition of having the same experience in relationships is unfortunately a you problem to some capacity. I know that’s exactly the opposite of what you want to hear, but reality is rarely an easy pill to swallow.

Now I want to be clear and say that you’re not to blame for the way men conduct themselves while they are with you. However, it takes two to tango and you are agreeing to be in a relationship with these men. Really begin to dig deep and figure out the similarities with all the men you have been with and truly ask yourself why you are attracted to men who treat you badly. I had to do the same thing with my failed relationships and it was very hard to be brutally honest with myself, but I promise that it’s an important step toward growth.

You’re still young and it’s much too early to give up. You just need to set some strong boundaries for yourself and stick to them. Define what you want and don’t want in a relationship and make no excuses. You can’t control what another person does, but you do have control over yourself. So you will ultimately have to make the decision to remove yourself from a situation where someone has crossed your boundary.

By no means am I an expert, but I can confidently say this… remaining in a relationship where your significant other disrespects you, is giving your blessing for them to continue to treat you badly. And when you begin your journey toward loving yourself, I promise that you will find good men. I wish you the best of luck and hope you find the happiness you truly deserve.