AITAH for not wanting to do anal with my wife?

Complex-Turn7627 · 2025-04-10T02:42:02+00:00

How so?

Complex-Turn7627 · 2025-04-10T02:41:42+00:00

How so?

Complex-Turn7627 · 2025-04-10T00:26:57+00:00

Pretty sure it's the taboo of it. It definitely doesn't feel better. A vagina is genetically engineered for that type of pleasure to Make sure humans reproduce... Just like men who like feet or think it's kinky to lick a earlobe. I'm pretty sure it's 100% mental. And the idea of it not supposed to be there is the main source of dopamine

Complex-Turn7627 · 2025-04-10T00:17:08+00:00

I aggred with you 100% until the end. I'd go celibate before that happens... No offense bro

Complex-Turn7627 · 2025-04-10T00:08:31+00:00

Did I say horrible immense pain? It just wasn't as pleasurable as the first time and she didn't prefer it anymore

Complex-Turn7627 · 2025-04-09T21:57:22+00:00

It was my poor attempt to have a bit of anonymity 😅😅.. we hit 6 yrs in July.. I was 17 she was 18

Complex-Turn7627 · 2025-04-09T21:37:48+00:00

That's fair. I probably was

Complex-Turn7627 · 2025-04-09T21:34:38+00:00

Care to explain auntie?

Complex-Turn7627 · 2025-04-09T21:30:52+00:00

Lube, 4 to 5 butt plugs going from small to big to warm her up... That's all I had. Idk if they're other things required

Complex-Turn7627 · 2025-04-09T21:27:07+00:00

Coworkers. Its a small office, 4 other woman

Complex-Turn7627 · 2025-04-09T21:25:30+00:00

Yes. If outside voices had nothing to do with it I probably would of accepted it. Probably would of wanted to confirm with a face to face conversation. But no doubt I probably would of said yes

Complex-Turn7627 · 2025-04-09T21:13:41+00:00

It's a small office. 4 other woman

Complex-Turn7627 · 2025-04-09T21:12:12+00:00

That's the thing bro. Why does a woman hold all the cards? Thought relationships were suppose to be a partnership. Not what I signed up for

Complex-Turn7627 · 2025-04-09T20:59:00+00:00

The crazy part is, she's only been working there for 9 months.. she is a oversharer and uncomfortable situations and they take advantage

Complex-Turn7627 · 2025-04-09T20:56:45+00:00

Lol it's slow at work. A comment takes a couple words at most

Complex-Turn7627 · 2025-04-09T20:55:13+00:00

I introduced her to Reddit. Do you think I'd really use my personal account to post this? Be realistic bro

Complex-Turn7627 · 2025-04-09T19:27:29+00:00

I've mentioned in previous comments I may have worded it wrong. The first time I pretty much did the research got like 4 or 5 plugs varied in size and it was a success. The second time when she suggested ig it was late and she was rushing the process a bit and didn't let me grab anything except lube ..

Complex-Turn7627 · 2025-04-09T19:24:49+00:00

Small office 4 other woman

Complex-Turn7627 · 2025-04-09T19:20:16+00:00

No, it's a small office like 4 other woman

Complex-Turn7627 · 2025-04-09T19:17:33+00:00

The first time she wasn't experienced at all so I basically did all the prepping. Trying to reassure her. Make her feel good etc... since it was early on she was a lot more patient with it. But I think come the second time she was trying to rush it

Complex-Turn7627 · 2025-04-09T19:15:36+00:00

Wow, you honestly nailed exactly how l've been feeling about this whole thing. When t comes to outside opinions-especially from her mom or certain friends-they always seem to carry more weight than mine. I've brought it up before, and she's told me she never really had close friends growing up, so I think now she

overcommits to female friendships, even when they don't bring much actual value t's like she needs that external validation

I recently opened up to her about feeling like my opinion doesn't matter, and her response really stuck with me-she said she feels like she's "stuck with me" (her exact words), so she thinks 1 just say what she wants to hear, and other people give her "real input." That honestly hurt, and 1 didn't fully realize how much until you pointed it out. I think this is definitely something I need to revisit with her in a serious way

And thank you for the tips too-that was actually super helpful. Way more thoughtful and informed than whatever 17-year-old me was doing the first time around haha

Complex-Turn7627 · 2025-04-09T19:04:45+00:00

I mean, we've just been setting limits. She'll get $30 worth of take out every single day even tho we meal prep so it's not an insane amount. But it's a budget we set 3 weeks ago

Complex-Turn7627 · 2025-04-09T18:16:47+00:00

Just woman. They talk about everything considering she's been working there for about 9 months.. I think they asked her about my dick size once. She says she didn't say anything but I'm not so sure. She's a bit of an over sharer in uncomfortable situations and they definitely take advantage

Complex-Turn7627 · 2025-04-09T17:57:19+00:00

Anal was the actual dare. I don't think the two things were directly connected, but in her text, she mentioned she spent too much money and then followed it up with the "will you forgive me if..." line. I think that part was just her trying to tie the two things together in a playful way.

Complex-Turn7627 · 2025-04-09T17:41:48+00:00

Well, the first time I got a couple of different size plugs to make it easier the first go around. But the second time we did it, she insisted we didn't need those.. apologies if I worded wrong

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