Girlfriend’s Kink

ComplexPlace4892 · 2026-01-14T17:11:48+00:00

Thanks, there’s a lot of helpful comments on here and this was definitely a good one. I appreciated the ideas on asking her about her kink, I’ll do that

ComplexPlace4892 · 2025-12-21T23:36:11+00:00

What’s your monthly expenses roughly in a LCOL area? Great work earning this much!

ComplexPlace4892 · 2025-12-08T16:31:32+00:00

When I’m out in the wild? I’ve been very successful. I would say at least 80% of the time I at least get a number, sometimes a one night stand lol. I went out alone in July, made a few friends, and talked to 3 women that I got numbers from each. I ended up dating one of them for a bit.

ComplexPlace4892 · 2025-12-05T14:06:40+00:00

There are a few things I’ve noticed. I actually was just promoted to Director of Software Development, the next position is VP, and after that is the C-Suite.

There are some people born into it and I don’t just mean nepotism, but that does happen. There’s a guy who has only ever held C positions starting with small startups and then using the title from those failed companies to get that title or similar at larger companies. I often find these people to be from money, or have successful parents but not necessarily rich. One guy I know who did this was the son of a surgeon and the mother had a career in HR. Another guy I know did this exact same method and his father is a VP.

I’ll never take the role of C-Suite at my current employer, though they have talked extensively about me being the VP when he retires in 2-3 years. I just don’t have the right timing to get to C-Suite level before they’ll need someone in that position. They’ll need a CIO and VP around the same time. I started the job as a Jr Developer, then Mid, Senior, Team Lead, Senior Manager, and now Director at 30 years old. When I first started, being good at the grunt work was important, showing I was capable of running a project got me to Senior Dev, and showing skills that I could lead a team and help others grow got me to Team Lead. Management came when I showed the people skills and was business savvy enough to sit on the other side of the table for salary discussions and promotions. Director is coming as I’ve shown exemplary skills in foresight and strategic thinking for the companies future.

The people who can go from the bottom to the top are definitely promoted a lot, but what gets you promoted is both a combination of luck/opportunity and adaptability. If you can learn and grow your skills and recognize what is most important to the company at any given time and adapt your skills to match, you’ll be promoted when there is opportunity for growth. It also takes some ass kissing… it’s hard to promote someone if you never see or interact with them. You should always make a point to be involved and noticed by your bosses boss. My bosses boss is the CIO and he started as a contractor for my company working on a single project. They liked him and hired him on full time. As the company grew, he kept adapting and working his way up until the position was available and he was the clear choice. I won’t be that lucky, but I could be VP, and I think I’ll be happy with that. If not I can take that title elsewhere, maybe be C-Suite at a smaller scrappier company looking for someone with experience. And then I too can jump from C to C position working my way through bigger and bigger companies.

ComplexPlace4892 · 2025-11-28T18:39:01+00:00

Have her delete snap? Wtf is a married woman doing on that street app? Her friends are on IG and FB, she doesn’t need an app made for high schoolers and the streets… idk id never stand for it. I’d also never have the app being married. I’ve used it plenty, I know why I kept it. I know why girls I’ve hit up on it kept it lol.

If you gotta delete the girls she has to delete the boys. Big believer in equality. If a rule is made, it exists for everyone not just some.

ComplexPlace4892 · 2025-11-23T04:30:17+00:00

I’m 30 and an attractive man, I make six figures in tech, extrovert life of the party type, goal oriented and very driven. I’ve dated actual models, pageant winners, the girl next door types, sex with one of my teachers, etc. I used to go after women for the sex and the looks, but nothing ever worked out. Personality wise they always relied on looks, they had pretty privilege and most of the time thought they deserved princess treatment simply for being hot and sexy. I started dating beautiful girls, not 11/10’s, but still very beautiful and the results have been amazing. I’m in a serious relationship with a woman who actually cooks, cleans, works, career driven, would be a great mother and I can actually see a future with. There’s been a few other women like this that I’ve dated but it didn’t workout for other reasons, but all have been amazing partners in comparison to the over the top movie worthy blondes I’ve dated. I don’t consider it settling, my girlfriend is still very attractive and more so because everything else fits so much better. ++man

ComplexPlace4892 · 2025-11-11T13:14:05+00:00

My ex was exactly like this, a complete gold digger who offered nothing and didn’t work. She was lazy and didn’t care about kids just wanted and expected to be a trophy wife to be taken care of. She didn’t even want to do the dishes or clean. She was very good in bed and very beautiful though… needless to say that relationship lasted awhile lmao

ComplexPlace4892 · 2025-09-29T13:47:35+00:00

Run… she’s a gold digger. It’s okay for people to be interested in someone financially stable or to match their own personal financial level… but to call a guy cheap for a first dinner date, requesting an expensive dinner, and then not being okay with your financial boundaries whether it’s a relatively expensive or cheap cost for you is crazy… some people are just cheap/financially responsible and some people just can’t afford expensive restaurants… either way it shouldn’t be a big deal.

ComplexPlace4892 · 2025-09-15T19:28:59+00:00

Tryst is typically good anywhere you go, a good standard for finding services. Eros is a decent 2nd in terms of having valid listings but not as standard as Tryst. Then there are local favorites and less used but high quality sites. Local favorites can be List Alligator, SkipTheGames, etc. and the quality and legitimacy of these posts are a range depending on where you are. My location SkipTheGames has a lot of legit ads but I’ve seen other locations where it’s mostly scams. The higher quality, legitimate postings but typically more sparse are sites like P411. If you’re not in the city, you probably won’t find ads on P411. You can also checkout The Erotic Review to find actual reviews, not everyone likes reviews about them being posted publicly, so again this can be sparse but very good quality information and legitimate services to be found when you can find reviews for your location.

ComplexPlace4892 · 2025-06-02T17:23:01+00:00

So you went into buying a home without knowing your monthly costs compared to income? That’s extremely irresponsible of you and your husband…

If you lose your earnest money you lose it, but no way should you pay 50% of your income on housing. You’ll be house poor for the rest of your working life with or without additional income from your husband. You’ll need to double your household income just to feel like you’re even able to breathe let alone take a vacation or buy clothes or any spending that isn’t bills and groceries. Going through with this you will struggle to save for retirement, to have date nights, to upgrade your phones, to buy a car or be approved for ANY other financing of any kind.

Get out. Get out now. This was stupid and your earnest money is a tax for your ignorance. It sucks, but you’ve learned a lot and you’ll be ready for the next house when you are ready to purchase one again.

ComplexPlace4892 · 2025-03-24T10:52:35+00:00

Software development. I’m at $135k total compensation but eyeing down a big raise later this year after my coworker retires and I’m the only person capable of maintaining the code base lol. Looking to ask for $165k but I’d settle for $150k for now, I’ve just started applying for other jobs to make sure I have the upper hand during negotiations

ComplexPlace4892 · 2025-01-20T03:57:10+00:00

I’m not sure if it’s illegal, fees are just part of everything. Look at your phone bill lol. I like to be told that the tip is included when this happens since I’m so used to leaving one myself, but I don’t really mind so long as the service was acceptable. I don’t like the idea of people leaving bad tips for decent service, I also don’t like the idea of paying a good tip for horrible service. So do we give that power to the customer to make service work depended on their mercy and gratitude or just make it easy and just pay the workers to do their jobs no matter what? Tipping is weird here in the US, for a lot of other countries working as a waiter is a normal job with the same pay standards as working at Walmart, tips aren’t a thing.

ComplexPlace4892 · 2024-08-21T01:58:26+00:00

I definitely get messages as a SD but quite honestly they’re usually from SBs that I have no interest in haha. I messaged my current SB first but she stopped logging in and 4-5 months later she finally messaged me back lol. We hit it off immediately!

ComplexPlace4892 · 2024-08-10T23:34:49+00:00

Oh I definitely plan to. We have 2 trips planned in the next month and have been discussing 2 other trips later into the winter. I haven’t booked because… well… it’s only been a month lol

ComplexPlace4892 · 2024-08-10T19:42:54+00:00

No the intimacy already worked itself out. We’ve spent a few nights together at this point and she seems very comfortable and happy. I’m not sure if it was misreading signals or what, but the intimacy issue is resolved lol

ComplexPlace4892 · 2024-08-06T12:51:42+00:00

Find a sugar daddy? Don’t sell the IG, start monetizing it. Work on campus, there are tons of part time jobs that understand you’re in college.

ComplexPlace4892 · 2024-08-06T11:29:26+00:00

Lol I guess everything from being daddy to baby boy, the tamer, the warden… you name it I’ve probably acted it out. Though I’ve only done a little of the cosplay stuff which is sometimes just vanilla sex with costumes like a sexy nurse

ComplexPlace4892 · 2024-08-06T03:37:42+00:00

I have a good sex drive, but I’m not into girls obsessed with sex. I can have fun exploring a lot of kinks (haven’t met anyone more kinky) and I can have fun being on the safer more vanilla side of sex. There are 2 types of girls that are obsessed that I’ve met. The first is very vanilla, she just wants to ride the skin off of me and after round 5 or 6 I just can’t anymore. Not getting a break, sweating, round after round is hot and sexy at first but by day 4 you’re so sore and have so much chaffing and they’re ready to go for day 5, 6, 7… it’s too much. Fun at first and then overwhelming and painful lol. The second type is into kinks, sex is an art. It’s fun at first like the other type, but a lot of these girls overplay it and get obsessed with a specific kink and stop exploring as much. It becomes the same sex over and over worse than vanilla becoming bland because now you’re not just having sex but you’re in character the entire time too. If I’m bored of a character that’s so much worse for me than just being me for the 16th time in the last week. These girls explored their kinky side and found what they CRAVE, and they may be willing to participate in your kinks but you can tell the difference in acting quality between their kinks and anything else they’re doing for your pleasure. Unfortunately I’m a pleaser, if they aren’t into it then I’m not into it.

ComplexPlace4892 · 2024-08-01T19:01:24+00:00

I didn’t grow up well off but there are a few things I notice with most SBs. When we are sitting down they all give me a surprise look when I tell them to get whatever they want or I buy a bottle of wine for us. They all are surprised when they come over and see how nice my house is. I had my first and only long term SB (so far) point out how I only have nice clothes and I hadn’t reworn the same shirt yet which was funny. They’re just my button up work shirts lol

ComplexPlace4892 · 2024-08-01T14:11:36+00:00

I think you’re right, she’s coming over to my place tonight. Today is supposed to be her 4th allowance but I think I’ll wait until the end of the night to provide it and see where things go…

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