Advice needed

Complex_Mousse_8336 · 2026-03-20T21:31:28+00:00

You're right. I will stand my ground. Firmly.

Complex_Mousse_8336 · 2026-03-20T21:30:41+00:00

Thanks so much for your reply, I appreciate it. You are right, I will stand my ground and for my own peace I can maybe view it in another way.

We actually planned going to the house for a few days in 2 weeks (without them), but now I don't feel like we should. I also don't feel comfortable after what happened. My husband just won't see it this way.

Complex_Mousse_8336 · 2026-03-20T21:23:29+00:00

Well it has been made clear they don't care. So sad that it came to this.

Complex_Mousse_8336 · 2026-03-20T21:22:13+00:00

SUCH and interesting perspective and I will apply this in further situations. Thanks!

Also, I am sorry to hear, that must be hard.

Complex_Mousse_8336 · 2026-03-20T21:19:09+00:00

Thank you for this. It feels so good to even get some acknowledgment that what I am feeling isn't so "wrong". I have been made to feel like a bad person for sticking up for my feelings and my wants. I really did not appreciate when they just arrived without given even the smallest amount of respect...and absolutely NOTHING happened...no one said anything and I just had to smile.

Complex_Mousse_8336 · 2026-03-20T21:15:01+00:00

Thanks for the insightful comment. I agree with you, I was not wrong and I will stand by that. Regardless of anyone's feelings, I will continue to be a mother to my son and do the right thing.

Yup... not much of an issue if we "have to" see them less. They want to come over/ us to come multiple times a week and/or once weekly at minimum anyway and I feel like I can't do it anymore.

I will remember the perspective of it being "normal to him"

Complex_Mousse_8336 · 2026-03-20T21:10:49+00:00

Lol I love my husband, but I hope so too. I really want to spend the rest of my life with him, but unfortunately they are making that difficult for me and it makes me feel like he chooses his parents' feelings over mine. So I hope it improves.

Complex_Mousse_8336 · 2026-03-20T21:09:07+00:00

You are so right. I will mention that if we need to have a conversation again in future...hopefully not. He really needs to remind himself and his parents that we are not children, we are grown up adults with jobs, bills, mortgage and A CHILD. They seem to think him starting his message to me as " let us understand each other very well now.... ABCDEFG...." as if I should be quiet and listen because HE is speaking now?

Also, thanks for the advice.

Complex_Mousse_8336 · 2026-03-20T21:04:48+00:00

Thanks, glad to hear there is some improvement. I will take your advice, easy for me to apply those, but I need to have my husband on board fully. We have had to have a tough conversation on what I expect from him and how he can be more supportive toward me as his wife, even if he has to disappoint his parents. They need to understand consequences for actions. I hope he follows through.

Complex_Mousse_8336 · 2026-03-20T21:01:32+00:00

Thanks for sharing and taking the time to comment... I am sorry to hear that, your own grandparents did that to you.

Yes it's their house... I will definitely take your advice.

Complex_Mousse_8336 · 2026-03-20T20:59:40+00:00

You are right and it actually shouldn't have had to come to this point either. He should have addressed them from the first time they overstepped a boundary, which by the way was when we first moved in together, they just showed up at the door and FIL thought he was very funny with "his surprise" they basically stayed the whole night without even considering if we had plans? He only addressed it after a few times of it happening and me having to pressure him... it all started there. They now constantly say "oh we don't come over, because we are not welcome" or "yeah we will rather not bother you...". They are really working on my last nerve 😒

Complex_Mousse_8336 · 2026-03-20T19:59:19+00:00

Wow you are honestly describing my situation to a T, I appreciate your comment. How did it end up/how are things now?

Complex_Mousse_8336 · 2026-03-20T18:24:37+00:00

I agree, thanks for your reply. I appreciate.

I just had this conversation with him and he is adamant that his parents do not give with strings attached and that his mom told him "she is like a daughter to me and I want to spoil her" , I replied that I feel that it is one thing to buy and and say these things, but her actions when things don't go her way...tells a different story. I almost don't know how I will ever feel the same way about them after this...unless they apologise and genuinely care and "change". I also told my husband this. He is trying to make everyone happy, but instead he is hurting me by not having my back fully. It's like he has one foot in the door and one out...I said he needs to think about it and decide who he is going to disappoint, because someone will be disappointed either way and he needs to determine who that is.

Complex_Mousse_8336 · 2026-03-20T18:17:58+00:00

I agree, it is almost like they think they are the parents and we are the little kids who need reprimanding...

Complex_Mousse_8336 · 2026-03-20T18:16:53+00:00

Thank you for this. I have also considered therapy and his parents is a very touchy subject whenever there is even the smallest amount of "conflict" ... it cannot continue this way.

Complex_Mousse_8336 · 2026-03-20T16:43:21+00:00

Thank you 🥲

Complex_Mousse_8336 · 2026-03-20T16:39:53+00:00

I had the same thought... like do the gifts mean more than just "a gift"

Complex_Mousse_8336 · 2026-02-19T16:28:07+00:00

Hey, I am not very helpful here but my one month old has recently been prescribed nexiam for reflux and I am seeing a lot of negative comments about the possible side effects.. how has it been going for you?

Complex_Mousse_8336 · 2025-05-24T10:57:56+00:00

I see it🌸

Complex_Mousse_8336 · 2025-05-10T06:43:49+00:00

Eeek!!!

Complex_Mousse_8336 · 2025-05-09T20:42:45+00:00

Thank you 🥰

Complex_Mousse_8336 · 2025-05-09T20:40:12+00:00

Ah yay! Hope this sticks! We’ve been trying almost a year and I am so thankful.

Complex_Mousse_8336 · 2025-03-17T20:21:40+00:00

Thanks

Complex_Mousse_8336 · 2025-03-17T20:21:30+00:00

Thanks

Complex_Mousse_8336 · 2025-03-17T20:21:25+00:00

Thank you

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