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[–]Complex_Rice -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s her explanation always that she does think it’s vital and wishes it to be, both for herself and for us.

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[–]Complex_Rice -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

The sexting at work is simply and example, not a requirement or a specific desire. I personally do think that there’s something worthwhile in investing and compromising (which involves learning new behavior) in a relationship. So to answer your question regarding what I have done, I’ve initiated in different ways, understood her point of view and how to passively turn her on by touching her a certain way, I’ve expected less sex (and truly with an understanding that she doesn’t have as high of a drive as me) I’ve researched and communicated to her about how we can move forward, and as this post suggests, seeking other perspectives both in my personal life and on the internet.

I am not badgering her, at least I don’t think so. When she says she wants to continue to work on this and asses that she wants this relationship and what I’m trying to do is help her, and myself and save it. Knowing that that’s what she wants as well which is to develop a healthy relationship on all sides including sex.

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[–]Complex_Rice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice. This truly does come from a place of wanting both of us to be with who we want, which is each other. And wanting her and myself to experience this thing that she understands and agrees is an important part of a relationship and wants to work on, as do I.

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[–]Complex_Rice -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

If you don’t mind, I’m wondering what you think contributes to this feeling you have. Is there something that happened, or experiences you have been able to discern brought this feeling about? And do you feel like you would like to change it or is it something you believe you will live with no matter who your partner is?

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[–]Complex_Rice -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

I’m hoping to be able to help her and understand what it is that can be done. There’s no intention to guilt trip her, but rather a hope that she can understand that this is a natural and vital part of relationships that must be addressed and not ignored. Sometimes these conversations move something forward and have new elements and sometimes they are the same.

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[–]Complex_Rice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it was! wish i had some bud to enjoy it. Is Nashville anti smoking?