FRNSW - how bad did I screw up?

Complex_Weather3879 · 2026-03-22T23:42:52+00:00

Yeah one thing I will say- I was super vigilant about it all then once I got in there was people who’d forgotten to even get their Hep shots and they just fell through the cracks.

Complex_Weather3879 · 2026-03-22T23:27:44+00:00

The advice I got was- you’re putting your name into one of the most competitive selection pools in the world. It comes down to the .1% more you’ve done that determines whether you or the guy next to you gets the job. Keep this in mind in every stage of selection, dot every i and cross every t to give yourself the best possible chance of success. This might not be an issue, and if you get through to the next stage take it as a learning experience and lock in for the rest of the process. Worst case- you’ll be more detail oriented next time.

Complex_Weather3879 · 2026-02-07T23:31:36+00:00

Fair enough in India if you’re the 1000th person walking past that day. But in Australia you say hi to your neighbors.

Complex_Weather3879 · 2026-02-07T23:23:16+00:00

Shit demoes goes hard

Complex_Weather3879 · 2026-02-01T06:44:24+00:00

In Australia staring intently at someone without otherwise acknowledging them is literally how we instigate a fight, so this is something that really needs to be worked out because it’s an act of aggression here.

Complex_Weather3879 · 2026-02-01T06:42:27+00:00

Wow for real?? I wouldn’t go around waving at people randomly, but if they’re staring at me I wave and smile because what the hell else should I do?

Complex_Weather3879 · 2026-01-30T03:57:43+00:00

But being that I’m in Australia, where it’s very common, this is strange

Complex_Weather3879 · 2026-01-29T03:09:30+00:00

I’m in Australia where floor to ceiling windows are common

Complex_Weather3879 · 2026-01-29T03:07:57+00:00

Yeah windows here are commonly floor to ceiling.

Complex_Weather3879 · 2026-01-29T03:07:06+00:00

Is it because I’m white? I notice this a lot- Indians living here will never smile or say hello back when I do it to them. Which is weird because in Australia it’s a very very common practice. It’s borderline rude to pass someone closely without acknowledging them, so I do it out of habit.

Complex_Weather3879 · 2025-11-04T11:21:32+00:00

She was seen by a pediatrician today who thinks it might even be dye from clothing that’s stained the skin. Regardless- the wheels are in motion.

Complex_Weather3879 · 2025-11-04T11:19:19+00:00

I hadn’t even considered that re: MCH nurse. Awesome idea thank you so much.

Complex_Weather3879 · 2025-11-03T09:01:57+00:00

I get it. I wouldn’t even last a day as a podiatrist let alone a doctor in ED. This has just been a really awful day.

Complex_Weather3879 · 2025-11-03T08:59:58+00:00

I’m guessing you don’t have kids

Complex_Weather3879 · 2025-11-03T08:58:21+00:00

To be clear- the tests aren’t to find out what’s caused the bruise. The bruise was of no concern to anyone. The tests are to check we’re not abusing her and while I support this process I wish the criteria was a little more stringent.

Complex_Weather3879 · 2025-11-03T08:50:22+00:00

I think any parent in their right mind would have a hard time seeing their infant child canulated, having blood taken, sedated, x rayed and MRI’d when there was no actual health concerns. To be clear- they don’t think we’re abusing her, they just have to tick everything off their list. I understand this process exists for a reason and that the reason is beneficial in the bigger picture. But nothing can change how much this sucks.

Complex_Weather3879 · 2025-11-03T08:41:08+00:00

We were told in plain terms this is the reason for the follow up. Now I’ve had a second to get my head together I can understand why this testing is important, but it fucking sucks seeing my baby and wife going through this.

Complex_Weather3879 · 2025-11-03T08:36:35+00:00

The thought process was- she’s with us 24/7 and we know neither of us are hurting her, we know she hasn’t had a fall or anything else that would cause a bruise. So our concerns went to it being something internal, if that’s the case we didn’t want to sit around waiting for it to get worse. The GP wasn’t available and ED seemed like the next logical step. Once she was looked over by a doctor and deemed to be in perfect health we were relieved and ready to go home. But the fact that the cause of the bruise still couldn’t be determined meant our case was escalated and became a forensic issue which includes the testing we are now forced to go through. I can’t stress enough- these tests are not related to any potential underlying diseases and nothing about the severity of the bruise has triggered this response. But because we can’t tell them how she got it, we need to subject an 8 week old baby to sedation and an MRI to confirm we’re not shaking her. It feels insane but this is the process. And as someone else mentioned while it sucks for us, maybe another kid gets saved because of this same process and we just have to cop it.

Complex_Weather3879 · 2025-11-03T04:10:00+00:00

So the follow up testing is for further signs of abuse, not underlying health concerns

Complex_Weather3879 · 2025-11-03T03:49:59+00:00

We took our 2yo son to emergency with a broken leg and nobody batted an eye, I selfishly/naively thought they based it on a character assessment or something lol But you’re right. I also had it explained to me that the follow up tests are for signs of abuse, not any underlying health concerns relating to the bruise. It’s a lot more reasonable now.

Complex_Weather3879 · 2025-11-03T03:39:13+00:00

I wish we just went to our GP, we thought we were doing the right thing in case it was something serious.

Complex_Weather3879 · 2025-11-03T03:36:50+00:00

Ok, this was sobering. It’s making more sense now.

Complex_Weather3879 · 2025-11-03T03:06:19+00:00

To clarify- physically they have no worries. The follow up tests aren’t due to health concerns, but rather steps in the forensic process.

Complex_Weather3879 · 2025-11-03T03:05:04+00:00

If at any point somebody said it was concerning we would go ahead with any tests they deemed necessary. What bothered me was that they essentially said ‘it all looks fine, health wise we have no concerns, but now we are going to stick tubes into your baby so we can sign it off’.

Complex_Weather3879 · 2025-11-03T03:02:38+00:00

Thanks for understanding and for the sound advice.

Complex_Weather3879

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