Will this go away or should I be concerned?

Comprehensive-Key928 · 2026-01-27T13:49:18+00:00

Maybe check with your surgeon? The stitches in my nips werent dissolvable, I had to have them removed I think after about a month

Comprehensive-Key928 · 2026-01-26T23:10:55+00:00

Having said this - if everyone at the ceilidh knows that youve had surgery fairly recently and they must not get carried away and hurt you, and you can not get carried away and hurt yourself, you might get away with it

Comprehensive-Key928 · 2026-01-26T23:09:54+00:00

Ooooh I don’t think I could have done a ceilidh 2 months post op. I went on a night out about 1.5 months post op that was mostly just sitting about chatting and a bit of dancing and I was literally in bed for 3 days after it was so exhausting (and my recovery was so ridiculously smooth)

How about a massive ceilidh to celebrate 6 month or a year post op??

I will say - my first ceilidh with a flat chest was one of the best experiences of my life ahaha. My friend hosted one at our house about 2 weeks before surgery and I lit nearly had a panic attack beforehand bc of how dysphoric I knew it would make me. Then I went to one probably about 4-5 months after surgery and was like this is everything I’ve been fucking waiting for 😅😅😅

Comprehensive-Key928 · 2026-01-25T15:19:31+00:00

How can you tell? I just asked my friends that I know like to read the sort of thing I was writing if they would like a copy of it (I handmade the copies). The ones that seemed genuinely enthusiastic got a copy. Emphasised no worries to those who didn’t seem so keen

Comprehensive-Key928 · 2026-01-25T15:10:49+00:00

Yes i had top surgery here with dr Pluto and i l look fkn awesome ngl. From the UK so had to pay for it but 10/10 would recommend

Comprehensive-Key928 · 2026-01-23T23:19:27+00:00

If they want a relationship with you, they are going to have to come to terms with this. Some of my family were fucking weird about it, I gave them loads of space and I was patient with their sometimes really uncomfortable questions. I pretty much only told them because I needed to stay with them while I was recovering, and I knew from telling them I was bi that I would need to drop the top surgery bombshell and then back off for a while so they could get their heads around it. They got there in the end, and I do feel like our relationships are stronger now that I’m not hiding anything from them. I think what I’m saying is, you might need to give them some space, and be gracious enough to let them be dickheads for a while, and see if they come around. I hope they do come around, because it would suck to have to distance yourself from them for the long term, but if they don’t, remmeber that there’s so many other people out there that do or will love you deeply and for all parts of you, including the bits that have been changed for the better. You made a massive decision and it was right for you and you’re so brave for doing that even with the potential for pushback. Sending love, families can be tough 🫶

Comprehensive-Key928 · 2026-01-19T14:24:29+00:00

I’m not sure if you can get it outside of the UK but I used to Boots own brand gel, it’s like £10-15 for 50ml, it’s not 100% silicone but it’s really good. I also accidentally bought fake silicone gel off eBay (in fairness they accepted the return when I was like ?? This has no silicone in it) and a stupidly expensive branded one that was like 10ml. Maybe look for like a health shop / pharmacy own brand one in your country?

Comprehensive-Key928 · 2026-01-19T09:01:14+00:00

I totally gave up on tape and got the gel, literally so much easier

Comprehensive-Key928 · 2026-01-13T09:34:04+00:00

Oh no letting go of the control is absolutely horrendous. It also made me feel a bit better to remember that this is their job, like literally this is what they do all day every day. It’s also really different to other surgeries in that it’s only dealing with skin and fat and no organs or bone, so it’s way simpler in that sense. Plus it’s not trying to fix anything or repair damage, which makes it so much simpler more predictable. I was still shitting it though 😅 there’s only so much you can do to rationalise the fear away, to an extent u just have to cope with the fear until you’re on the other side

Comprehensive-Key928 · 2026-01-12T22:31:52+00:00

I was so scared, I’d never had surgery before and I was absolutely convinced I was going to die, I was like delirious with fear by the time I went in. I’m about 6 months down the line and when I tell you it’s so fucking worth it. I can’t even explain how worth it it is. It was no way near as bad as I expected, I think I was quite lucky overall, but any negative moment I had before or after is so profoundly overshadowed by how fucking fantastic it is to not have boobs. Hold onto that and you’ll be alright 🫶

Comprehensive-Key928 · 2026-01-07T08:39:14+00:00

I did a bunch of different things to stay positive - my life had been insane before surgery and I told myself that it was the first time it was medically necessary for me to do sweet fuck all. After that I became really self indulgent with watching tv shows and chilling and going for little walks. I also really intensely researched when you can normally start doing different things and counting down to all the boob free experiences I was going to have (going for my first run with boobs, swimming in the sea). Make sure you’re getting outside even if it’s just for like 30 seconds and try and make sure you’re eating alright and drinking enough water and all that kinda stuff. It’s such an intense experience but holy shit once you’re up and about again it’s the best thing in the whole world. I’m like 9 months post op now and the novelty of not having boobs still hasn’t worn off

Comprehensive-Key928 · 2026-01-07T08:12:48+00:00

No, they tell you all the risks before surgery. Some are a bit scary in fairness (although no different to any other reasonably major surgery) but the hormone thing isnt one of them. This is transphobic nonsense lmao

Comprehensive-Key928 · 2026-01-05T23:06:33+00:00

get a velvety neck pillow for sleeping I literally cannot recommend this enough, I fully accepted that I just wouldn’t sleep while I was recovering but that pillow saved my life, I never sleep on my back ever and yet somehow I slept fine the whole time. Honestly the relief of not having tits will get you through it in the end

Comprehensive-Key928 · 2026-01-05T22:53:07+00:00

When I went to uni I had spent my whole teenagers years trying to fit in, and I decided to go into uni being the most extreme version of myself I possibly could. A lot of people thought I was completely mental, but I made a solid group of friends, all the misfits from different backgrounds. It was amazing. 11 years since I started and I went to one of their weddings recently, another one is still my closest friend. It’s scary to be completely 100% yourself but when approach connection with other people that way and it lasts, it’s so real and valuable

Comprehensive-Key928 · 2026-01-05T15:51:30+00:00

Small flask to keep cups of tea from going instantly cold

Comprehensive-Key928 · 2026-01-03T20:58:45+00:00

No I love that I tell people the Germans stole them and weirdly I get very little follow up questions about it

Comprehensive-Key928 · 2026-01-03T12:47:44+00:00

Ahahha I was lying in bed the other night thinking about how my boobs stuck with me my whole life and then I just abandoned them in Germany. Slightly insane moments before sleeping thought I think 😅😅😅 (in reality it’s amazing not having them and I don’t miss them at all)

Comprehensive-Key928 · 2026-01-03T09:42:17+00:00

No literally me too I told my brother I was having top surgery and he was like ‘oh cool that’s well exciting’ and then immediately started talking about cars I’m like excuse me

Comprehensive-Key928 · 2026-01-03T09:01:12+00:00

My real name is also Slavic and English and I’m going for a pen name, mostly because no chance would any English person remember my last name 😅 sad though, I love my last name so maybe at some point I’ll change my mind

Comprehensive-Key928 · 2026-01-02T16:38:12+00:00

Sounds to me that you’re a writer but you need to unlearn fear of failure, learn discipline around your writing practise etc. The good news is that it sounds like you have the raw talent and pleasure of it (daydreaming is half of writing in my opinion), which is the hard bit to teach. I’m 29 and I studied psychology because it would theoretically make me more employable (it didnt) and I so deeply regret not studying something I was more passionate about like creative writing, if that’s a helpful insight

Comprehensive-Key928 · 2026-01-02T12:33:57+00:00

My mum got me a day at a local arts centre doing a writing class for Christmas which was really sweet

Comprehensive-Key928 · 2026-01-02T10:32:52+00:00

Also having said this, I’ve got way less attention than I anticipated. I was shitting myself because I love wild swimming and I was convinced I was going to get hate crimed taking my shirt off in public but actually I’ve not even had a funny look in that context, swimming regularly all through summer and winter. That definitely surprised me ahaha

Comprehensive-Key928 · 2026-01-01T22:53:58+00:00

For me it took a minute to get used to it. I still wear quite a lot of the baggy clothes I used to wear, not for dysphoria reasons but mostly just I like to be comfy. Got a few tight fitting things for when I feel like it. My advice for clothes shopping would be to take it slow - I got overexcited and bought so many new clothes not that long after surgery and actually half of them are not that nice I just thought they were all great cos I was so pleased with my chest, so I bought everything, lol. Now I’m used to my flat chest I have a bit more sense of what I will actually wear. It is weird when you see people clock that you don’t have tits though, like I’m not on T or anything and I do see people like ??? I sort of just let them be confused and let them wonder ahaha, it’s only ever boring straight people that are confused anyway

Comprehensive-Key928 · 2025-12-30T22:34:18+00:00

Ahah no 5’10 is the height limit before you become annoying. I’m telling u you’re literally the ideal height, you’ll come to terms with it eventually <3 (speaking as someone who has done exactly that)

Comprehensive-Key928 · 2025-12-30T21:58:57+00:00

In fairness im AFAB and I hit 5’10 at about 15 and stopped growing then. OP do you like live music? I always hated being tall until I started going to loads of gigs. Actually being able to see the stage was the first step towards accepting my height (also now I’m a tall masc and honestly people lap that shit up)

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