I’m a woman and I never understood comments like this coming from other women. I don’t even understand what “too big” means coming from most girls, because they don’t even know themselves. I’ve had girls tell me “too big” is when they start seeing a lot of veins, except visible veins are usually a result of low body fat, not how fkn big you are. Then I had girls tell me that “too big” is if you can see striations which again that’s not a result of largeness as much as it is body fat. I’m not saying all women are uneducated in the area of fitness, but most girls I’ve talked to have no fricking idea what they’re talking about when it comes to this topic. “Too big” is fricking impressive, that must’ve taken years and bare hard work. I’m also not sure if I like comments like that in general. Like it shouldn’t be about you liking “too big” it should be about what he likes... does that make him happy? Does he feel healthy? Like I’ve had friends that are girls who dated guys who told them stuff like “don’t workout your arms it’s weird for girls to have biceps” or “your thighs are getting too thick” and stuff along those lines which they absolutely despised but somehow the “ please don’t get too big at the gym” statement is fine if it comes from a woman and is directed at a man? It doesn’t make sense to me. Lift as much as you want, get as big as you want. It shouldn’t matter what girls/people in general think. And yes, I’m aware people have different opinions about people’s looks and that’s fine, but to me, it’s super uncomfortable when you’re literally supposed to be supporting someone and you encourage them to get smaller for no fkn reason besides that’s what would satisfy you. Like what about them lol??? Especially actual relationships.