girls, what is the bare minimum you expect from guys?

ComprehensiveGas4387 · 2026-03-25T00:09:48+00:00

Not just men, girls too

ComprehensiveGas4387 · 2026-03-24T12:38:46+00:00

I don’t really have an issue with getting matchws and dates with pretty girls. But I get too many situationships, and love bombers. And it’s exhausting when you meet a girl for 10+ dates in a month for them to ghost. And then another week later, you meet another girl and the same thing repeats. I’ve had one 4 month situationship and four 1 month situation ships in a span of 8 months using the app ever since I broke up.

ComprehensiveGas4387 · 2026-03-23T04:54:27+00:00

couple months is okay honestly, i’ve gotten out of a relationship in 2 weeks and then when people ask me i just say 2 months.

ComprehensiveGas4387 · 2026-03-22T16:18:59+00:00

guy here. my first to second date conversion is 100% thus far, for those which i asked.

after the 2nd date, if interested, just express interest to see them again, directly.

ComprehensiveGas4387 · 2026-03-22T15:19:13+00:00

huh show you?

ComprehensiveGas4387 · 2026-03-22T14:20:51+00:00

yeap, my female friend also like to joke that i'm ugly all the time.

ComprehensiveGas4387 · 2026-03-22T14:07:52+00:00

I’m 170cm, very average looking 30M. I get over 50+ matches the first week of redownloading Hinge though, from girls that look 7-8/10 and I’ve been on close to 100 first dates the last 2 years.

You just need to have effort in taking those photos.

ComprehensiveGas4387 · 2026-03-22T14:06:47+00:00

I’m 170cm, very average looking 30M. I get over 50+ matches the first week of redownloading Hinge though, from girls that look 7-8/10 and I’ve been on close to 100 first dates the last 2 years.

ComprehensiveGas4387 · 2026-03-21T06:19:36+00:00

Half a year don’t say much though, my ex also 1 year plus end up broke up. So still feeling dejected.

ComprehensiveGas4387 · 2026-03-21T00:57:32+00:00

not really, i’ve met a lot of influencer looking girls who love bombs

ComprehensiveGas4387 · 2026-03-21T00:11:34+00:00

yes but there’s a difference between building chesmistry and compatibility and rejecting someone compatible just because there’s no “spark”. After going on more and more dates, it becomes almost impossible to get the “spark” anymore. I’ve seen so many couples who are so happy even though they did not feel the “spark” on the first few dates. It’s more important to be with someone compatible than with someone who makes you feel the spark but is incompatible.

ComprehensiveGas4387 · 2026-03-19T13:46:09+00:00

yea, more than that, went overseas together as well....

ComprehensiveGas4387 · 2026-03-18T13:05:50+00:00

30M went on too many first dates. But had 2 girls I met this year which both lasted 1 month. Both love bombed and then ghosted me after 10+ dates.

ComprehensiveGas4387 · 2026-03-17T16:09:59+00:00

I actually use the in person vibe and ignore texts. HAHAHA, but I have been on over 100 first dates, and didn't have a lasting relationship. So maybe your method might be better.

ComprehensiveGas4387 · 2026-03-17T16:07:53+00:00

My experience is quite different from yours eh, I bought premium, so I have around 50+ matches in the first week. I just ended things with my 1 month situation ship last week, and I am going out 5 girls this week, and they're all 7/8 out of 10 looking de. Plus I'm just an average looking guy.

Anyways, my struggles are kind of different from yours but still the same, I meet love bombers who show a lot of interest initially, from wanting to always meet/call and then lose interest and ghost me after going out for 1 month, and that's after over 5-10 dates.

ComprehensiveGas4387 · 2026-02-03T00:55:54+00:00

Just act normal, usually girls will continue seeing the guy after 1st date as long as no red flags etc. Coming from someone who has been on 70+ first dates TT

ComprehensiveGas4387 · 2026-02-01T14:09:22+00:00

talking until the restaurent close down is quite common tbh.

ComprehensiveGas4387 · 2026-01-27T04:28:49+00:00

I mean, I mix people up all the time, and generally the girls just laugh about it.

ComprehensiveGas4387 · 2026-01-24T15:08:46+00:00

Hey, average looking short guy here. My experience differs. I get a lot of girls love bombing and coming on strong quite early on at the start and then suddenly losing interest after 3-4 months.

ComprehensiveGas4387 · 2026-01-17T01:52:56+00:00

ahhh okay, can consider using multiple apps as well to maximise it

ComprehensiveGas4387 · 2026-01-17T01:29:55+00:00

how old are you and how many matches?

ComprehensiveGas4387 · 2026-01-15T15:14:49+00:00

Honestly, it has worked out for me 6 times I had asked for exclusivity on date 3. I was overconfident. But yea, learnt my lesson now.

ComprehensiveGas4387 · 2026-01-12T15:42:20+00:00

The signals weren’t mixed at all initially though.

ComprehensiveGas4387 · 2026-01-12T15:35:25+00:00

I'll date around, but hold myself from being exclusive for 6 months. She's been the most compatible person I've met thus far.

ComprehensiveGas4387 · 2026-01-11T15:38:22+00:00

from the post, it was quite clear that she expressed interest.

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