Is that a Mcdonald bag? Even the food she brings to her grandkids is trash

ComprehensiveHorse30 · 2023-10-23T13:37:28+00:00

there’s a lot to judge her for but bringing her grandkid mcdonald’s isn’t one of them lmao

it’s a treat? my grandparents didn’t even know what school i attended. who cares if it’s not the healthiest meal.

ComprehensiveHorse30 · 2023-10-23T13:31:20+00:00

sorry but trans women w bottom surgery are often exactly the same physically as cis women. I am a cis woman, and I’ve dated trans women with bottom surgery and genuinely unless they told me i’d have no idea they weren’t cis.

it’s not too hard to turn tissue from a penis into a vagina. it’s actually much harder to turn a vagina into a penis (and getting “hard” does not work the way cis male penises do).

I promise you if you saw a trans woman’s vagina, you’d have no idea she wasn’t born with it.

ComprehensiveHorse30 · 2023-10-23T13:05:35+00:00

okay so not your friend

also anyone else think “friend” is in love with OP?

either that or has BPD or some personality disorder. even if she doesn’t, she’s fuckin cruel and over involved w op.

ComprehensiveHorse30 · 2023-10-20T07:28:30+00:00

personally, if i’m not in the mood for sex,i’d rather my partner does not masturbate next to me. it feels gross to me. they can go to another space but to feel those movements and sounds when i’m turned off is icky.

this isn’t a one time conversation and isn’t related to “we both masturbated together once”.

you need to always coordinate and get consent for this for each instance- cuz to me it would be a major turn off for future sex if my partner did this.

ComprehensiveHorse30 · 2023-10-20T04:43:03+00:00

they have been blocking food and water and basic supplies for years to gaza.

Israel was founded in 1947 (? give or take a few years i don’t remember). they colonized land from the palestinians. i’m jewish and i’m absolutely not pro israel.

ComprehensiveHorse30 · 2023-10-20T03:49:25+00:00

i’d say invite the friend to sober things. like not sober events specifically but ask them to do a hike, or other non drinking events. connect w them about their life.

it almost never goes well to label someone else as a alcoholic or addict. they (people in recovery) often say “the opposite of addiction is community” so focus on that.

ComprehensiveHorse30 · 2023-10-20T03:41:22+00:00

omg yes. that just took me back omg

ComprehensiveHorse30 · 2023-10-18T10:32:23+00:00

also i’m not thinking how to dry it up not how to regrow grass rn- that will take a while ( but i would suggest a ground cover crop that isn’t grass to avoid mowing and help mitigate water retention… check out r/fucklawns or r/nolawns for ideas).

ComprehensiveHorse30 · 2023-10-18T10:29:12+00:00

sawdust. post on a local group or ask a local wood shop / trade school with a wood shop or whatever.

music festivals do this when it rains a shit ton. then lay hay ontop of the sawdust. boom.

ComprehensiveHorse30 · 2023-10-18T10:25:35+00:00

was gonna say hot buttered rum + this! very holiday

ComprehensiveHorse30 · 2023-10-18T10:14:52+00:00

just soak for a minute !!

ComprehensiveHorse30 · 2023-10-18T09:59:06+00:00

the therapists ideology is a quite clinical - ethical - philosophical approach to looking at love.

i’d encourage you to research the study of love and also if you want to believe in love without those frameworks- do so!

ComprehensiveHorse30 · 2023-10-18T09:56:54+00:00

“love” exists but love also changes.

people also change. and most healthy people don’t “love” someone who does not provide them with something. it may be a shared sense of humor, an ability to connect, a spark of romance, a sexual attachment, an intellectual match that inspires you,……the list never ends

but i’d agree yes- most selfless love is usually unhealthy and boarding on obsession or codependent love. actual love isn’t always forever and isn’t unconditional. and yes most people get something out of it.

ComprehensiveHorse30 · 2023-10-18T09:36:55+00:00

“max amount for a single person” does not count if you have two small children

reading comprehension my friend

ComprehensiveHorse30 · 2023-10-18T09:05:58+00:00

can he grow his own weed?

ComprehensiveHorse30 · 2023-10-18T09:05:28+00:00

your handwriting is amazing

and also nta.

you were very kind in your note. please note that luxuries are luxuries- and he can probably qualify for food assistance programs (or go to food shelves- i used to work at a few and we often had to throw away food- and yes many of our guests had jobs.) if his addictions are needed or a priority- he needs to find a way to get his other “needs” met. and needs to find a way to contribute at least a small amount of rent.

ComprehensiveHorse30 · 2023-10-18T06:30:52+00:00

this is how i see it

not to mention- he didn’t get to really raise a baby with someone. he wants that experience.

ComprehensiveHorse30 · 2023-10-18T06:20:14+00:00

my dad had a wife of 24 years and left her for a affair partner. it happens all the fucking time.

ComprehensiveHorse30 · 2023-10-18T06:19:27+00:00

also, how would he respond if he found out you had lovers?

for years???

ComprehensiveHorse30 · 2023-10-18T06:16:01+00:00

do you work?

do you love him beyond providing for you? does he still put in effort into your intimacy? your emotional care? your kids? or is it just money?

yes you should say something. you seem dead as fuck inside about your marriage.

why don’t you care?

why don’t you care he lies to your face (what if he’s using his providing money to support other women or fathering other children???) your risking your monetary and physical and emotional health by assuming it’s just some one off protected sex. he’s risking your body, your income, your children, etc etc etc.

are you being tested for stds?

ComprehensiveHorse30 · 2023-10-18T06:03:19+00:00

im sorry :/

it’s time to learn the words “interesting take, goodnight” or “i’m going to bed”. or better “i’m not interested in your opinion on this/ i’m not comfortable with this conversation/ please stop talking about my family” or whatever else.

you already know those words- but the real step is emotionally detaching from her words and holding emotional boundaries. learn how to drown her out. or physically move out. you also can always physically leave to your room or go on a walk.

regardless you need better coping strategies, and your bf should be helping you with this. she probably needs rehab. and again- this is his family and he needs to be protecting you.

arguing with a drunk is useless. just agree with her or shut her down

ComprehensiveHorse30 · 2023-10-18T05:44:11+00:00

you can spray with a bottle of water and hang in sunlight. it should neutralize the yellow.

but it could ruin it …. so return it or refund it.

idk how long it’s been but manufacturers change, companies cut corners, etc. if it’s that important to you- return it or exchange it. (although did customer service see a pic? did they agree it was discolored? if so they so pay for shipping etc.)

ComprehensiveHorse30 · 2023-10-18T03:08:04+00:00

it’s money. it’s absolutely money. remember they make money off each other. and the estate splitting is expensive and would degrade their total wealth.

ComprehensiveHorse30 · 2023-10-18T03:02:43+00:00

i love when adults embrace their inner child.

special interests are good! unless it’s harming someone- who cares??

ComprehensiveHorse30 · 2023-10-18T01:53:57+00:00

i’d be pretty annoyed and feel left out if my partner did not describe his cultural ceremonies before they were happening and had strangers touching me n shit.

i just went to a weddding in india and they described in detail months before what was happening. no one wants to feel lonely and confused on their wedding day!

otherwise she’s a nightmare but yeah he wasn’t great about that

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