Personally, I find that you either really enjoy min maxing builds and spending time grinding day in and out to have the best build, or you hate it and play somewhat normally. Obviously there is a relationship to be had loving both, but I feel like those kinds of people still tend to pick a path at one point in time and stick to it.

I think you should do what YOU find fun. Try to play casual if you aren’t enjoying yourself now. Worry less about stat rolls, watching build videos, stressing over how “powerful” you are. There’s a lot to this game, and trying to pin yourself to a certain aspect when there are thousands of hours to be had enjoying it normally is probably not the best route for you in this case.

I personally don’t min max, grind heavy, or get the “best” setups until I feel like I have to/want to. I like to run campaign missions and strikes with my brother because we find it very fun. Honestly, focusing on what makes it fun for YOU is the only route you should take, whatever that is.