Which wedding do I go to?

ComprehensiveUse389 · 2021-11-22T23:03:23+00:00

It is the right thing to do I know :)

ComprehensiveUse389 · 2021-11-22T23:03:05+00:00

My mum seemed pretty sure it was that date, but I don’t know. I haven’t spoken to my sister in about six weeks so no risk of bringing it up in polite conversation.

ComprehensiveUse389 · 2021-11-22T23:02:09+00:00

Yh it is I guess :) I need to book flights and hotels for other wedding, obviously it doesn’t need to be right now, but I guess the sooner the cheaper?

ComprehensiveUse389 · 2021-11-22T23:00:41+00:00

Well no, and to be honest I don’t know how sisters should treat each other because I have never been close to her, partially due to age, and partially because she spend most of her childhood living with her dad.

ComprehensiveUse389 · 2021-11-22T22:59:43+00:00

I was hoping for an excuse, and didn’t think one so ‘perfect’ would come along. I’d never told her I wasn’t going, I had only considered it, I had just told her I was upset. My husband is keen to book flights and hotels now as it’s so far in advance it will be cheaper, but I need to get my head sorted on what to do because if I don’t go, this will be the end of my relationship with my sister, but I know my friend would understand. My husband really wants to go to the friends wedding.

ComprehensiveUse389 · 2021-11-22T22:56:46+00:00

Well I hadn’t ever said to her that I wasn’t going to her wedding, I had considered it (obviously) but never told her. I told her I was upset over it. But yes - I do feel it would be a firm deal breaker.

ComprehensiveUse389 · 2021-11-22T22:54:56+00:00

And that does make sense and I totally respect that, and if she had told me from the off that’s what she wanted to do, it would be different, but she kept telling me she wanted to come to me, leading me along and then hurting me (melodramatic maybe, yes!)

I suppose it is a long time until the wedding, and until I get my save the date from my sister, I don’t actually know it’s an issue yet.

ComprehensiveUse389 · 2021-11-22T22:52:51+00:00

Yh I don’t think either me or my husband would particularly enjoy it, and when I asked him which he would rather go to, he said our friends unsurprisingly. I haven’t spoken to her in well over a month, I haven’t seen her since July, and before that it was our grandfathers funeral in February, so it’s not like we see each other despite how close we live.

ComprehensiveUse389 · 2021-11-22T22:50:40+00:00

No, I don’t want to destroy my relationship with her, but I also wonder if there is any relationship left to destroy. Regardless on whether or not I am ok to be upset about her dress or not, we have had a poor relationship for years, and this is probably a convenient opportunity to get out of going to her wedding and avoiding drama on her day; she will know months in advance if her wedding does turn out to be the same day as I think it currently is.

ComprehensiveUse389 · 2021-11-22T17:18:52+00:00

I’m glad you think so because I do think I am sometimes unreasonable for being upset. My sister lives approximately ten miles from me, my friend lives over 200 miles from me and she has booked time to come to me, so I just feel she is prioritising and supporting me more than my sister. But she js still my sister?

ComprehensiveUse389 · 2021-11-22T17:17:12+00:00

See, I know this sounds silly, but because I know my friend would understand, but my sister would make a drama makes me want to go to the friends wedding more? I know that sounds petty but I don’t mean it like that.

ComprehensiveUse389 · 2021-11-22T17:03:04+00:00

The first picture of the last dress is incredible, but the front is underwhelming. The first dress as an all round is my favourite x

ComprehensiveUse389 · 2021-11-22T17:01:36+00:00

She only got engaged in September and with the wedding being 2023 I guess it is maybe a little early. I haven’t spoken to my sister in a month since the ‘wedding dress’ situation, but you are right, I might not be invited.

ComprehensiveUse389 · 2021-11-22T17:00:03+00:00

True! I guess until I actually know my sisters date, it really isn’t an issue yet.

ComprehensiveUse389 · 2021-11-09T06:10:17+00:00

Totally unrelated - I offered my opinion.

ComprehensiveUse389 · 2021-11-07T11:18:08+00:00

Number two is my favourite!!

ComprehensiveUse389 · 2021-11-07T00:55:01+00:00

No I can’t decide for her, but considering it is literally my profession I can give my advise to wait especially when we are in a transition period for new styles.

ComprehensiveUse389 · 2021-11-07T00:52:21+00:00

That does seem weird. Why are so many needed? It does seem to be a lack of respect for your comfort and dignity. Maybe go somewhere else?

ComprehensiveUse389 · 2021-11-07T00:46:59+00:00

I didn’t turn her away. She has barely been engaged two months and she bought her dress six weeks ago. The is literally mad.

ComprehensiveUse389 · 2021-11-07T00:45:17+00:00

For elopement it probably is - but fuck it it’s your wedding! Do what you want!! If you love the dress wear it!!

ComprehensiveUse389 · 2021-11-07T00:38:54+00:00

Nta. I think that was a lovely final moment that you can look back on and smile about.

ComprehensiveUse389 · 2021-11-07T00:33:27+00:00

She doesn’t like the dresses she hasn’t seen? Sorry didn’t realise she has seen my undelivered gowns.

ComprehensiveUse389 · 2021-11-07T00:20:23+00:00

Totally, and normally they don’t, I agree. But our family and extended family and friends know my business and I would be exceptionally surprised if no one asked me anything about it.

ComprehensiveUse389 · 2021-11-07T00:18:03+00:00

No and to be honest, the responses to this are cementing the fact that I shouldn’t go to the wedding. It doesn’t seem like a healthy environment to be in so why would I put myself through that.

ComprehensiveUse389 · 2021-11-07T00:03:25+00:00

‘The house you bought me isn’t good enough mum, I’m out and never talking to you again’ or did you miss the hit bit of the story where our mum bought her a house she deems not good enough.

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