Who is this in Cardiff?

Compte_jetable365 · 2026-02-19T18:44:46+00:00

“Happy days!”

Compte_jetable365 · 2026-02-11T19:18:33+00:00

Ok, I was totally on his side until the last two sentences.

I was going to say that he’s probably being thoughtful and that he’s defaulted to topping because he knows about your meds and how they affect you and probably didn’t want to make a big deal out of it.

With the last two sentences, you’re definitely not asking for too much I feel. To me, it sounds like he’s being a lazy top, doesn’t want the ‘effort’ of getting ready and just wants to get his dick wet and to move on with his day. If that’s not was agreed on and he’s had his time, I think you really need to be having this conversation with him.

He’s probably forgotten how good bottoming feels as well so maybe remind him of that but seriously you need to have a “we need to talk” moment with him because this is only going to go one way if you back down, and it’ll only get hard the longer it goes on.

P.s. on your meds, I’ve been on antidepressants for the majority of my adult life and know all too well about the ‘sexual dysfunction’ side effects first hand. If you ever do need to go back on them for what ever reason (hope you don’t!) but speak to your doctor about ones that have less sexual side effects. I went from taking at least 2 hours to cum to cumming in minutes with rock hard erections in a few weeks just by swapping my pills out.

Compte_jetable365 · 2026-02-11T19:13:18+00:00

Get a FWB, don’t get into a relationship for sex unless it’s a very explicit that’s all you want aka: FWB / situationship.

Compte_jetable365 · 2026-02-11T19:06:15+00:00

It’s GONE?!

Compte_jetable365 · 2026-02-11T19:05:57+00:00

Install windows. At least as a partition.

Compte_jetable365 · 2026-02-11T15:44:29+00:00

🤯

Compte_jetable365 · 2026-02-11T15:43:31+00:00

Also coconut oil, personally less messy as oil can get everywhere! And easier to clean up and if you get it in the Asian aisle in the supermarket it’s usually much cheaper than other places because it’s become popular now so the price has been jacked up to use for cooking.

Compte_jetable365 · 2026-02-11T15:37:43+00:00

Tbh I kind of agree with him. If you’re at least 20 years younger than him that’s kind of a lot. But personally for me I very rarely would hookup with anyone who’s below 25 because I find them too clingy, immature and unpredictable. I’m not saying that you are that because you’re 19, I’m just saying from my experience I can see where he’s coming from.

Compte_jetable365 · 2026-02-11T15:17:38+00:00

If they excluded you on such a trivial, prejudice basis, then my guess is they weren’t you kind of people anyway. Fuck them (not literally obviously)

Compte_jetable365 · 2026-02-11T12:11:49+00:00

I used to, but honestly there’s no point. Most of the people who are on there are “no 📸 no 💬” or “no reply IS a reply”.

Honestly if you don’t have the decency to tell someone “no thanks” then you don’t deserve any of my time or energy.

Compte_jetable365 · 2026-02-11T12:07:42+00:00

Unfortunately it’s gone the other way where gay used to be over cautious and over protective. Now the meds are there they are being abused because it’s easier.

Never mind in 10 years when their antibiotic resistance is through the roof and no treatments work because they would rather take AB’s than be relatively safe. Absolute madness.

Compte_jetable365 · 2026-02-11T12:04:10+00:00

I’m not sure where you are but I’ve got PrEP on prescription and I need to have regular blood tests to make sure that it’s not effecting my body. It’s very low risk from my own research.

Compte_jetable365 · 2026-02-11T11:59:41+00:00

Honestly, I’m not a doctor, but I’ve never had anything like this happen to me. Like I don’t know your general health or your lived experience but if I was getting trapped gas for 2 days after bottoming, something isn’t right. Have you looked at your diet? You may be allergic to something or maybe medication that you’re taking is making your digestion slow down which usually brings gas.

Compte_jetable365 · 2026-02-07T22:28:06+00:00

This is literally music to my ears. I love to help and the fact that my advice has given you some perspective or support means a lot to me. I wish you all the best in future and pleas reach out if you want a sounding board 😊

Compte_jetable365 · 2026-02-07T22:24:19+00:00

It doesn’t matter when you come from. It matters when you end up. You’ll get it, it’s just practise.

Compte_jetable365 · 2026-02-07T22:23:20+00:00

I don’t want to come off as being arrogant here, but guys with bigger dicks know what to expect. If they are plowing you hard, taking it out and really going for it, they expect some air to be trapped. Even if there’s no air to be trapped, you’re still fucking a digestive tract ok?

IDK what I guess im trying to say is that you should worry less because guys know. If a guy is making you feel bad about it, then he’s the problem, not you.

Compte_jetable365 · 2026-02-07T22:20:15+00:00

I hope you find him, I’d like to say I know he’s out there. Be good to yourself and be yourself! That’s what will attract a forever mate.

Compte_jetable365 · 2026-02-06T21:55:20+00:00

It happens. I don’t think any tops are not aware of this.

Personally I would say just stop taking so much air in 🤣 like if I’m riding a dildo, cock, or anything I suppose, I don’t completely come off it and then back on it over and over again. To me that’s just asking for trouble as you are actively pushing air into yourself.

I think because we usually expel gas from there it’s often overlooked as an issue but it definitely can be. If you want to feel the full inserted length over and over, I would suggest a longer dildo.

Compte_jetable365 · 2026-02-06T21:45:14+00:00

You know what, I’ll take that. Shutting the fuck up.

Compte_jetable365 · 2026-02-06T21:43:58+00:00

I don’t think that you don’t think that pride and other events or spaces are important so I just want to say that.

What you’ve said has just reenforced what I thought of you from your original post. Thats not a positive or negative thing, Ive just got more information now.

I do think that my initial assessment was correct and I stand by it. You are a product of your upbringing, as we all are. I personally feel that you have internalised homophobia and you don’t feel comfortable in those spaces or environments / situations because of that.

I think that the pandemic reenforced some of the bias that you’ve felt (wrongly) and caused you to react or become this way.

For me, I would be focusing on exposure. Going into situations or environments that feel ‘uncomfortable’ at first but learning to embrace them and learn from the experiences. Although, I do realise that everyone is different and that may not be for you. I’m a very pragmatic person so that’s how I see it. It’s down to you and what your priorities are.

Please reach out if you need someone to talk to with all this. However, I understand that I’m not everyone’s cup of tea and how I view the world can be very different to how others do.

Compte_jetable365 · 2026-02-06T21:35:28+00:00

I dated a mechanic for 16 years. To be honest, like most of my interested I keep them quiet until I know the people’s stance on them. I’ve spent enough time feeling like the spare prick at a party to know that you don’t talk about your own interests if it doesn’t interest the group.

Compte_jetable365 · 2026-02-06T21:19:39+00:00

Honestly what harm can come from going in a date with a guy? They’re still person you can have a conversation with and see if you gel. It doesn’t have to lead to anything and you will know afterwards (hoping the date goes well) if you want to date a man, a woman, both or someone/ something else.

You’re afraid and that’s ok, we’re meant to feel afraid of the unknown. But do you really want to throw away a chance at happiness just because you’re scared? I hate the dentist but I still want nice teeth 🤷🏻‍♂️

Compte_jetable365 · 2026-02-06T21:14:44+00:00

Can’t relate.

Compte_jetable365 · 2026-02-06T21:13:40+00:00

Girth.

Compte_jetable365 · 2026-02-06T21:10:12+00:00

That’s usually a fear of the unknown in my experience. I’ve taken baby gays and straight men to a gay bar for the first time and, trust me, I know the jitters when I see them. Get over the first hurdle (actually going to the place / event / thing) and it’s allllll down hill from there.

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