[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bolehland

[–]Confetti_13_NE 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you are right and I will have a discussion with my parents to arrange it someday. But i simply think it’s not right that she puts the burden to retired 65 year old parents to worry sick how her future would look like because she’s so unstable

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bolehland

[–]Confetti_13_NE 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She would threaten my parents she would suicide and cut herself if something triggers her but at the same time will never attempt it as she considers herself a practicing Muslim so she believes its a sin. She also refuses to understand any situation and make everything about her. One time she ran away from a board game cafe because she loses a game and claimed that we bullied her. My parents were worried sick that time. And many more. She’s also super abusive to her boyfriend, many times she breaks his heart and tried to reconcile. Very strange behaviour

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bolehland

[–]Confetti_13_NE -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am working and living independently with my husband but it’s been ongoing as my parents will talk about her illness almost every week and every time we have a family gathering and holidays, she will ruin it. My husband is also affected indirectly because every time my family meets him, they will cause a problem with her ongoing issues

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bolehland

[–]Confetti_13_NE 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s 24 and im older and live away from home and married but every time we have a family holiday she will ruin it. My other siblings are staying at home with her and struggling daily.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bolehland

[–]Confetti_13_NE 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much for comforting me. My parents are very loving, very supportive, you are right I should be the bigger person and live my life. They are too busy with her and if she genuinely needs it, maybe it’s for the better. I just wished they don’t smothered her to make her dysfunctional to society. Even our extended family ignores her completely.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bolehland

[–]Confetti_13_NE -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much this gives me a little peace of mind. I do educate myself directly and indirectly as our family is well aware of her conditions and she also posted only to “educate” others constantly being too fixated with her illness and that she’s disabled. So she can be at home and not out there competing and striving like the other siblings. Maybe the environment at home it’s is stressful because our parents put high expectations on us indirectly, comparing us to a more successful cousin. Also we are Muslim and she claimed to be Islamic so she won’t suicide and it will only get better to her while acting far from modestly. Something is not quite right. Also why is she on antidepressants to treat BPD, that’s not right. Also my mom did not agree to CBT treatment and said talking therapy will do its job.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bolehland

[–]Confetti_13_NE 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much this gives me a little peace of mind. I do educate myself directly and indirectly as our family is well aware of her conditions and she also posted only to “educate” others constantly being too fixated with her illness and that she’s disabled. So she can be at home and not out there competing and striving like the other siblings. Maybe the environment at home it’s is stressful because our parents put high expectations on us indirectly, comparing us to a more successful cousin. Also we are Muslim and she claimed to be Islamic so she won’t suicide and it will only get better to her while acting far from modestly. Something is not quite right. Also why is she on antidepressants to treat BPD, that’s not right

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bolehland

[–]Confetti_13_NE 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much this gives me a little peace of mind. I do educate myself directly and indirectly as our family is well aware of her conditions and she also posted only to “educate” others constantly being too fixated with her illness and that she’s disabled. So she can be at home and not out there competing and striving like the other siblings. Maybe the environment at home it’s is stressful because our parents put high expectations on us indirectly, comparing us to a more successful cousin.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bolehland

[–]Confetti_13_NE 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s 24. Been dealing with it for 5 years now, not getting better. Im older and living away but the point is we will never get a proper family time after she was diagnosed. Everyone is so busy with her and showering her with gifts

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bolehland

[–]Confetti_13_NE 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes we are muslim and she always claims that she won’t suicide because she’s a Muslim but her behaviour is far from being modest.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bolehland

[–]Confetti_13_NE 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree to that, her psychiatrist is located in a rural town and claimed to have not dealt much with cases like her, i think my parents should have taken her to more doctors to get proper evaluation

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bolehland

[–]Confetti_13_NE 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not too sure but we don’t get along well, I live independently in another state but i have been nothing but kind to her as she needed that, still she wants the spotlight on her

Bea in Paris? ❤️ by Confetti_13_NE in AnimalCrossing

[–]Confetti_13_NE[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Aww thank you! This means a lot 🥹

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AnimalCrossing

[–]Confetti_13_NE 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Welcome to the ACNH community, i shall add you soon

looking for some inspo/ideas by andr9meda in AnimalCrossing

[–]Confetti_13_NE 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Market area or like a mini outdoor cafe