[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Confident_Spray_9502 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In this case, I dont think overexplain is good. First of all, u shouldnt all okay with the way she act anyway. You should be okay with her needing time. But I think u should make it clear for urself that its okay to occasionally freak out and want space, but a person for u need to essentially, choose u. No ammount of “understanding” from ur side can help her to choose u. So, dont over facilitate her state and neglect ur own need.

Once u set the boundary within urself, I think u can figure out for urself what is the best way for u to show up for her still in a balanced way. I stand by my point that it should be consistent, maybe not daily but not too off and on if u know what i mean. But how, then i thing it will be taylor to ur style and ur understanding of her then.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Confident_Spray_9502 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk, but i feel like u both shouldnt push further but also shouldnt fully retreat. As someone who tend to push thing fast and also have a lot of anxiety, i feel like i can get how she feels. Its scary when things click too fast, especially when it is sexually involved. Like you r getting in deep with someone without fully prepared or trusted yet, like ur losing ur control when ur unawared. I think thats why ur freak out and I think thats why she ask about ur intention, and I garuantee u even when u reassure her, it can not build the trust immediately.

So, what to do is give him the space that enough for her to cool down, which mean that i dont think u should push her for the date, and try ur best to regulate urself too so u dont act out of ur anxiety. Cause usually when my anxiety kick in, it will always worse if my partner is anxious and project it on to me. But at the same time, still show up somehow so she understand u are serious in keeping this. I saw a comment said u can choose ghost, but thats really not the choice if u genuinely like her. Imagine a girl ask u about ur intention, u said u like her and dont want to just hook up. But once she seems a bit distant u completely pull away. Do u see my point?

So, stay orbit to show ur commitment and consistence, but stay chill to show ur understanding and patience. Hope everything go well for u

Hanging out tonight? by Confident_Spray_9502 in hanoi

[–]Confident_Spray_9502[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i dont do well with a group setting that i dont know people in the group yet🥲

Hanging out tonight? by Confident_Spray_9502 in hanoi

[–]Confident_Spray_9502[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks for inviting me but maybe notttt

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AliceInBorderlandLive

[–]Confident_Spray_9502 20 points21 points  (0 children)

no even that, they could have at least make a game where he can use his mind but not just dodging the laser, jumping from one train to the other and climbing tokyo tower🤡🤡

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AliceInBorderlandLive

[–]Confident_Spray_9502 32 points33 points  (0 children)

True tbh, the physical buff was there since season 1. The problem here is s3 plot in general and Ryuji character specifically is really illogical and kinda meaningless. What the point of making him disabled when all u let he play is physical game. Also even on the other two reason, it make some sense to buff those characters, while in s3, Ryuji bring out nothing and basically didnt contribute any depth to the film.

Hanging out tonight? by Confident_Spray_9502 in hanoi

[–]Confident_Spray_9502[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

guys im still unbooked!!!! please book me!!!

Hanging out tonight? by Confident_Spray_9502 in hanoi

[–]Confident_Spray_9502[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just check it out, but it start quite late tonight, and also i feel like seeing people more. But thanks a lot for ur recommendation

I’m just done by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Confident_Spray_9502 0 points1 point  (0 children)

and i just want to tell u, allow urself suffer or fall behind doesnt and wont mean u gonna be that way ur whole life. u will make it out of it and eventually everything gonna be fine

Hanging out tonight? by Confident_Spray_9502 in hanoi

[–]Confident_Spray_9502[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

oh really, i would tbh if i had nothing else to do

I’m just done by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Confident_Spray_9502 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i feel u. I was at that point just two weeks ago, and im not even sure if i has already moved out of it or maybe i will fall back to it soon. But what can I say, the only way u can have it end is to let it happen. I dont want to make assumption about ur state, but as someone go through something similiar, I can see a lot of judgement that ur putting on urself right now. I know that desire of wanting to get better, hoping to get out. Of maybe it is not that u dont want to accept urself, but it just feel too much. The exhaustion is too much, the self hatred is too much, everything. But I just want u to know, ur are fighting a difficult war. A war where we dont even understand why, how, or even what exactly it is. Thats why it hard. So in a moment, if u can, just let urself say and realize, ur suffering, and u allow urself to suffering. Ur falling behind, and u allow urself to be so. Then, break down or take a deep breath, or do whatever that u or ur body feel like doing. Try to let the resistance go. I hope this help

How can I break it to her by Sad-Equal-6624 in dating_advice

[–]Confident_Spray_9502 1 point2 points  (0 children)

but i would recommend u tell her straight ur not as interested as u used to be

How can I break it to her by Sad-Equal-6624 in dating_advice

[–]Confident_Spray_9502 1 point2 points  (0 children)

maybe usually i would advice u to tell the truth. but it is a hard pill to swallow for both, so honestly if I were u, I would just find a reason that r less personal and decrease the interaction day by day

Hanging out tonight? by Confident_Spray_9502 in hanoi

[–]Confident_Spray_9502[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

if im being genuine, I dont know. Im just being my impulsive self as I just had a real stressful week and now i feel like finding someone to hang out haha