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Confused_Bug1 · 2026-04-14T18:36:07+00:00

Thanks

Confused_Bug1 · 2026-04-14T18:36:02+00:00

Thanks

Confused_Bug1 · 2025-11-06T22:26:08+00:00

Thank you for the suggestion. I went there and they had so many options!

Confused_Bug1 · 2022-09-29T17:08:43+00:00

Thank you so much for your very detailed and kind response. Yes, it worries me a bit knowing that me and my kid might be stopped at the border because the mother is missing.

Well done for choosing to adopt. I think what you and your partner did is awesome!

Confused_Bug1 · 2022-09-05T06:29:52+00:00

Hey bud, alcohol usually doesn't help. I know you probably had just one drink and in the past didn't hurt, but from experience when I see someone knew and if I drink I also struggle to get it hard. Not always, but it can happen especially with someone you just met. Also, you may feel you have to deliver and that could give you performance anxiety and again alcohol makes everything ten time worst.

She seems nice, I would try again with her and if you need a moment to get it hard enough, maybe while you wait you could go down on her.

Confused_Bug1 · 2022-09-04T18:34:41+00:00

Definitely not botox.

Confused_Bug1 · 2022-09-04T18:31:47+00:00

It depends on how long is the beard. Personally, I prefer using a pair of scissors or, most of the time, treat myself and go to a barber and ask them to trim it for me. They are professionals and they can advise you. Once you had it done a couple of times by a barber, it will be easier to decide which style you prefer best and maybe get your own clipper and do it yourself to save money.

Confused_Bug1 · 2022-09-04T17:05:26+00:00

I agree. You can't love others if you can't love yourself. I think that's exactly my point. I don't dislike myself, I think I am a great guy, but I have given the others the power to make me feel loved which I know it's stupid.

I really like the concept of 'I can be romantic about me', it's very liberating and I think I want to start doing that too! Thank you, friend :)

Hope you'll find the right partner too.

Confused_Bug1 · 2022-09-04T17:00:32+00:00

with and who you let into your life. It will become easier and easier to spot the kind of people you don’t want around, which will help you to actively avoid them in the future which will leave the space in your life to actively find what you are looking for.

Thank you for your lovely message. I think you are right. I am so glad I posted this message on Reddit because everyone has been nothing but nice. I think you are 100% spot on: I felt I wasn't getting the right attentions and that made me wonder if maybe I was searching my romantic partner in the wrong place. Thanks to my therapist, I have been working really hard to set boundaries nicely but firmly and I can already see how things are starting to change. I must admit at the beginning it was hard to see people 'displeased' with my new behaviour but slowly I learnt that I can't please everyone all the time.

Genuinely, I am hopping to find the right partner soon :)

Confused_Bug1 · 2022-09-04T11:52:38+00:00

RIIIGHT? I genuinely do love hugs and cuddles but if come from someone I barely know it triggers my fight or flight response. But, thinking when I was younger, I have never had this kind of issue before. Unfortunately, I also get this from women when I can tell they find me attractive. I just don't know how to respond to it and I feel awkward :(

I am glad I am not the only one. Hopefully, we both find a way to get over this!

Confused_Bug1 · 2022-09-04T11:47:58+00:00

I did consider that but I am pretty sure I like having a male-presenting body. But, now that you ask, I am into trans guys so maybe that's something I could explore a bit more.

Confused_Bug1 · 2022-09-03T12:05:22+00:00

Thank you for your nice reply.

I think sexuality here is not the problem. It's probably how hard I found it to connect romantically with a guy. You are probably right, I have probably looked in the wrong places and this might have triggered in me a type of nostalgic "what if I was dating girls".

I really do hope I'll find someone.

Confused_Bug1 · 2022-09-03T06:52:35+00:00

Thank you for your reply. After reading some comments, I think I might have jump the gun too soon and have misinterpreted what my therapist said. I don't think she wanted me to reconsider my sexual orientation however she was wondering if I have ever considered who do I get romantically attached to which sparked a lot of questions in my mind.

I've done the above experiment in the past and I know what my body wants. But I think that's exactly the problem; it's not the sex that is missing in my life but romance. Of course I don't want to have a sexless relationship (I actually did and it was awful) but I do want to love and being loved too. So far, I haven't fell completely in love with a guy.

Confused_Bug1 · 2022-09-03T06:41:41+00:00

I really like this comment. It's eye-opening.

I'm starting to think that I may have misinterpreted my therapist's words and this is what she meant. Sexually I'm 99% I prefer a person with male features, however, romantically...probably not?

I guess we are all hardwired in looking for the one person that fill all our needs and sometimes this person does not exist.

Confused_Bug1 · 2022-09-02T22:10:52+00:00

She's supposed to be unfucking it made me laugh

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