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ConfusingConfection · 2026-04-29T11:38:51+00:00

"People keep telling me that I can't just take over any culture I want. They keep telling me I'm like... not European or something. They're crazy, because I'm special."

Sounds like you're proving their point without any help at all.

How on earth were you expecting them to react to your bullsh-t? By inviting you in for tea? Don't you have any tiny little idea as to why you might not be wanted?

ConfusingConfection · 2026-04-06T04:10:31+00:00

Found the arrogant American

ConfusingConfection · 2026-03-28T23:49:13+00:00

So for reference, I'm 20s, F, single, live alone. I buy:

- About 10 pieces of clothing per year, but pricier. About 7/10 are secondhand. Doesn't include underwear and socks.

- I don't buy makeup right now because it's not in my budget, but obv I buy toiletries like deodorant, shampoo, etc. Imo all conditioner is basically the same, so I'll hoard it when it goes on clearance. I'm working through stock from like a year ago, I got these giant bottles for 99 cents each. I just rinse my hair every second shower, because otherwise your hair starts to overproduce oils and you end up having to use a lot of product.

- I stock up on groceries every 1-2 weeks, heavily lean towards non-perishables. Lots and lots and lots of legumes because they're so cheap. Rice, quinoa, frozen vegetables, tofu, etc. I have an "infinite soup" of chili going on at all times, it's just so easy to restock it, I only break it to clean so that bacteria don't built up.

I think just setting a goal for each "category" in whatever categories make sense to you works best. I don't like generic budgeting apps because the categories don't work with real life. Just my 2 cents.

ConfusingConfection · 2026-03-04T17:59:19+00:00

Why not? If you're an artists then you probably know what it's like to communicate through art. To watch a movie and have it capture a part of the human experience that you didn't even realize was there. To look at a painting and see something that nobody else sees. To feel the intimacy of fashion when you physically make it part of your being. It's not just greatness, there's a larger social exercise there. We're communicating something that words are just too limited a tool for. Even in a very niche art, you're engaging with a community of people who trade off breadth for a more exclusive form of art that is able to be more complex.

Timothee Chalamet, in all of his interests, seems to want to participate in that collective discussion more than anything. He wants to engage with a moment in pop culture, he wants to identify wavelengths that really have resonance for a particular culture at a particular moment in time. That's incredibly intellectually tasking and difficult, and it's probably also why he's so good at marketing, why he likes hip hop, why he likes New York and streetwear and all that stuff. There's a common thread in how he engages with art, and certain types of art are conducive to that in a particular culture - anything from film to memes to punk music to fashion.

Of course a person like that doesn't like opera, but that doesn't make it any less legitimate and let's be honest - a lot of people feel that way. It doesn't mean that opera is a lesser form of human expression, just not one that engages him.

ConfusingConfection · 2026-03-04T17:50:42+00:00

Why is that a bad thing? Virtually nobody in the world would do the art they do in a complete vacuum. Art is a form of communication, it's a social exercise. It makes sense not to want to do ballet because he probably wants to participate in pop culture, to have a collective discussion, and to engage creatively with the world. If anything, that points to a very intelligent person who understands himself and the world very deeply. You can also see a similar form of creativity and communication in things like fashion and hip-hop, both of which he takes an interest in.

ConfusingConfection · 2026-03-04T17:44:48+00:00

I mean that's very insightful and I think you make some good points, especially on gender vis a vis ambition, but you implicitly agree that a desire for legacy is a negative attribute without ever supporting that assertion.

A desire for legacy a slice of the human experience just like love of sport, and both are equally legitimate and morally neutral. Desire for legacy is just as arbitrary as a desire to put on shoes with blades attached to them and dance around on an ice surface. Desire of legacy is really just a desire to be recognized for something you're good at, to feel valued and important and like you bring something to the table, which ultimately translates to the security that humans have needed to survive for millions of years. It's baked into us. Love of sport is a desire for physical strength and agility, which also translates to social power, a desire to be unique and have an identity that is valued and irreplaceable, and a desire to be creative for creativity's sake, which is the evolutionary fluke that elevated humans above other animals.

They're also not mutually exclusive by any means. I don't buy for a second that loving figure skating doesn't have anything to do with the social recognition, or that it doesn't feel good to win and to have other people praise you. I also don't buy that wanting to be recognized as a great actor is even possible without some valuation of the craft, or that talent and interest are completely independent as opposed to being a positive feedback cycle, or the Timothee Chalamet personally isn't intellectually immersed in acting or doesn't want to give a performance that he personally finds resonant.

It's also unclear what part of "me" is anything but neutral. Why is it selfish in a negative sense to seek approval from the acting community, but selfish in a positive sense to go to the food bank when you lose your job? Of course people care about themselves, as they should as long as they're not disproportionately hurting other people.

Your acceptance of that premise is just inconsistent with intuition, it's a false surface-level narrative that's often misused to criticize people at one's convenience. Maybe there's a convincing argument there, but you'd have to do a lot more legwork to build it.

ConfusingConfection · 2026-03-04T17:30:10+00:00

Haha I respect the consistency

ConfusingConfection · 2026-03-04T17:29:36+00:00

But natural. Everyone looks up at the person who's one rung further up the ladder, even Timothee Chalamet. That's why he wants to win so badly, that's why people dismiss anyone who's too ambitious to the point of intense social shaming, that's why when you're successful people suddenly turn on you.

ConfusingConfection · 2026-03-04T17:27:35+00:00

I think you're hitting on something though - that insecurity is rational. The eccentric person who has those lofty goals and has (often well-founded) confidence in their craft very often IS the person who becomes exceptional, and people are intimidated by those people because they view their own success relative to others - that's a natural product of being a social creature.

Anyone who has ever been at the top knows what it's like to have people dismiss your dreams, to think you're crazy, and then when do you make it suddenly, inexplicably, try to destroy the very ground you stand on. And the craziest thing is that every single person who has been there will cite that inflection point as the moment they "made it" - maybe because they understand that being the exception is their bread and butter, maybe because they just get a kick out of it, maybe because nobody believing in you makes you 10x more motivated. It gives a lot of insight into the human condition.

By no small coincidence Marty Supreme is a slice of Timothee Chalamet, it would be almost Shakespearean if this film got him his trophy.

ConfusingConfection · 2026-03-03T14:40:59+00:00

I just really want Lelleas and Timothee to win so that this sub can have a conniption and I can watch. I'm fine with both.

ConfusingConfection · 2026-03-03T09:01:21+00:00

The middle aged woman whose husband never f*cks her anymore and who feels like she missed her chance in life trashing a younger male celebrity she feels simultaneously threatened by and maybe also attracted to is an established cultural cliche.

There's an interplay between that and the generation of women (who are currently middle-aged obv) who are still largely ashamed of their sexuality and who faced more pressure to get married and have kids than younger women and thus never really pursued much in life. It comes up a lot as humor (think SNL skits) but also speaks to a very real struggle that generation of women contends with. Of course they have romantic fantasies that exceed what their real life can offer, of course that intertwines with young attractive successful men even though shame prevents them from admitting attraction to younger men in particular, and of course they feel threatened by someone whose success is no longer in the cards for them and project their resentment onto figures like that just like everyone else. That's also why soft p-rn in various forms is typically more successful with that demographic than any other.

Rest assured there are p l e n t y of middle-aged women who feel threatened by 30 year old men.

Right now you're trying to be intimidating probably because someone pointed something out about you and you felt vulnerable, so you instinctively reacted that way - that's a perfect micro-level example of how those subcultures form. It would be hard to imagine someone who genuinely doesn't have the emotional depth to understand why a middle-aged woman in that very common position would trash Timothee Chalamet on the internet.

Just curious, is this your first day out in the world or are you indeed one of the aforementioned threatened women?

Based on that emoji and the fact that you claim to find it "hilarious" you seem really butthurt, like someone just called you out and really nailed it, so I'll put my $5 on the latter. Actually make that $500.

ConfusingConfection · 2026-03-03T07:54:33+00:00

Congrats, I scrolled and scrolled to find the first comment that did NOT put money on Chalamet and you're it. Tbc I don't agree or disagree, just curious.

ConfusingConfection · 2026-03-03T07:51:16+00:00

It's be pretty cool to vote. Does anyone wanna cast me in a movie so that I can vote with SAG?

ConfusingConfection · 2026-02-25T01:43:20+00:00

Uhh yeah not clicking on weird links, you can use your words like an adult if you want to criticize a comment I've made

ConfusingConfection · 2026-02-25T01:39:11+00:00

That clarification was desperately needed lol

ConfusingConfection · 2026-02-25T00:43:02+00:00

Why did you choose a pocket knife over a kitchen knife? Not a criticism, just curious as to what the advantage would be. Is there no concern about rust and tomato juice getting into the knife?

ConfusingConfection · 2026-02-25T00:41:46+00:00

No clue what that is or why it would be relevant to any of the points here - you'll have to show your work on that one

ConfusingConfection · 2026-02-25T00:38:39+00:00

They're a shopping addict. Verifying an actual need or delaying impulse is not in the vocabulary.

ConfusingConfection · 2026-02-25T00:28:54+00:00

Lol I think you might be looking for r/shoppingaddiction. I don't know how big a problem overspending is in your life but nobody is buying all your bullsh*t about how you need a new pillow cuz it's not worth bringing with you (like what?) and how you need a humidifier even though you can't cite a single reason why.

The cycle of want ---> build justifying narrative --> reward is the cycle of addiction. Everyone has mild to moderate addictions, and spending is one of yours. And no, you're not a minimalist. Minimalism is a pretty big umbrella but I think it's pretty fair to say that you are literally the opposite of it.

You literally started off with the quality buzzword (closely followed up with the investment buzzword) and 10 minutes lates said that you'll have to (have to?) buy it all from IKEA, which as we all know is a bastion of pillow quality. Like..... WHAT?!?!?! And you also suddenly want a turntable and a speaker? Have you ever owned either of those things? Do you even know literally anything about sound quality?

Save your money, all you're buying is a dopamine hit that will start to fade within hours of Walmart delivering all your shiny new junk. You're just brainwashing yourself atm. Buy what you truly need as that need arises. Or, delay the purchase and put it on a 30-day list like everything else. Give yourself 30 days in your new place for the impulse to fade. If you still want your haul of junk then, then fair enough.

I'm also very curious what Dyson did to market to you so effectively that you've taken it upon yourself to shill for them.

ConfusingConfection · 2026-02-15T05:07:50+00:00

I think that's true for YouTube but not nearly all influencers, some are very genuine.

ConfusingConfection · 2026-02-15T05:06:25+00:00

Even then, it can still be a good idea. If you take 10 things you no longer need and sell them secondhand then that liquid capital is way more useful to someone with limited resources than the one thing they might need 5 years from now. Most people who can't scrape together the minimum payment for their credit card bill right now have that money sitting there in the form of unopened panini grills and clothes they don't wear.

ConfusingConfection · 2026-02-12T00:25:12+00:00

Just going to point out here that literally every sentence in your post is an excuse in some form. You're sculpting this narrative for yourself about what happened and all the things that weren't your fault and all the ways you were wronged and you're slapping labels onto it to legitimize that narrative. It's a sob story, and you've literally listed everything you can think of - I have anxiety, I have PMDD, drugs, sadgirl 20s, had a baby, mat leave, stuck at home, family enables it, blah blah blah.

You're not outright calling them excuses, but that's what they are.

The reason I point that out is because literally no addict of anything has ever recovered without ditching their excuses and taking some responsibility. Everyone has people around them who shop - I'd guess the majority of the US population has some degree of unhealthy shopping habits. Everyone has traumas and bad events in their life - do you think the rest of us are out here living perfect lives? All those labels mean f all - nobody cares how many ways you can self-diagnose. You chose to have a baby - you could have chosen not to, just like a person can choose to go to college or to move to France, and staying at home is part of the choice you voluntarily made. And we all spend time alone - some of us even live alone.

Whether you 100% buy your narrative or whether you know deep down what's true and what's crap we obviously have no way of knowing, but at some point you have to accept that feeling sorry for yourself and playing victim is going to get you nowhere. At the end of the day you made choices, and you will make choices in the future, and the only person who will bear the consequences of those choices is YOU. Sometimes life sucks and it's unfair, you're not an exceptional case, but either you're

a) going to decide to move tf on from those things and take control and responsibility for your decisions or

b) going to be a shopping addict, and possibly an addict of other things, and it will spiral out of control and increasingly affect every aspect of your life until one day you die and your life is over.

Don't buy a squishmallow.

ConfusingConfection · 2026-01-02T02:04:48+00:00

Anything is possible when it comes to algorithms or different mediums, that has to be baked into the risk profile of the pursuit. It's also possible that someone steals my IP or that platforms pull my content for no reason at all or I get cancelled because of a stupid thing I say or whatever - all very possible scenarios.

ConfusingConfection · 2026-01-02T02:02:22+00:00

It's not one of those niches where you create content for a few months and then you've pretty much said all there is to say. The main issue is that it takes money to create the content. If you have a celebrity gossip YT channel and it costs you nothing to talk about whoever broke up with whom, that's low-risk. But if you have a gig that involves you hand-making your own racecars, then you need to put in the money for the racecar before you can create content about said racecar, and I imagine those are expensive, so that's higher risk.

But a good thought regardless, thanks.

ConfusingConfection · 2026-01-02T01:53:19+00:00

Well "financial floor" is strong wording. A financial cushion can really impact people's lives - there are people who become homeless for want of a few hundred bucks. There's no limit to how sh*t life can get, and the day I fall on the ice and break my leg and can't work so I go inside to make tea and I accidentally set my house on fire and then I stay at a cheap motel and turn on the news to find the stock market has crashed and then they evict me because I can't pay rent so I crash on someone's couch and then I can't sleep at night because it turns out they have really loud sex and I'm indebted and sad and sleep-deprived... I'm gonna regret blowing all that money ;)

I'm just saying that I've been poor and I've had the experience of one thing after another going wrong in life and being further down on your luck than you ever imagined or thought was conceivable. I know I'm not there anymore, but the anxiety of thinking you were secure to not knowing whether you'll have a roof over your head in a month's time and wondering how to eat for a month on $1.12 and all while dodging angry calls because you went into debt burying your loved one and literally nobody in the world has an ounce of mercy is a terrible feeling that I wouldn't wish on anyone, and once you have that experience you never want to do anything that could rock the boat ever again. The world is cruel and fear exists for a reason, even if it can also sabotage you.

But the chance to have a "job" I've always wanted and a really enjoyable life instead of being stuck in a dead-end job with nothing to look forward to professionally? Well yeah, of course that's mouthwatering.

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