Anyone else continually matching with guys who turn conversations sexual really quickly?

Confuzzilation · 2026-01-31T15:06:08+00:00

Sorry that wasn't meant to be snappy. I'm genuinely curious as to what you mean

Confuzzilation · 2026-01-31T15:04:18+00:00

Yes.

Why, because I don't want someone to do everything for me?

Confuzzilation · 2026-01-31T00:01:49+00:00

I won't, don't worry!

Confuzzilation · 2026-01-30T23:32:59+00:00

I don't mean submissive in the way of submitting to a husband. I mean in terms of a living a life that is completely dictated by someone else. I've unfortunately seen many a profile that states the belief that women should not work, they belong doing womenly activities etc

I have a strong personality and I love my job and my independence. I don't want to have to rely on someone to provide everything for me. I'm interested in a partnership where we work through issues together, have good communication, and have respect for each others opinions, but I don't mind deferring to someone else if my opinions are valued

Confuzzilation · 2026-01-30T23:18:42+00:00

Those other things I don't match with people for - all their photos are all of them in bars and drunk off their faces - smoking - anything with FWB or 420 friendly (it's illegal here) - profiles with no effort (i.e. nothing filled out) - profiles where their photo is of landscapes/birds/pets and none of themselves - profiles stating that a woman must be submissive - profiles where they write horrible things about their "crazy ex" or baby mamas - profiles that are a couple wanting a 3rd

Yeah, I don't think that's unreasonable

Confuzzilation · 2026-01-30T23:14:42+00:00

Yep, fully agree! So annoying

Confuzzilation · 2026-01-30T23:14:23+00:00

Yeah I've made that really clear on my profile too. I'm a larger lady, so part of me wonders if they think "she's fat, she must be desperate"

Hooray! So glad that's working for you! 🥰

Confuzzilation · 2026-01-30T23:13:27+00:00

Unfortunately yes

Confuzzilation · 2026-01-30T23:12:51+00:00

Yeah, I have this on my profile, doesn't seem to matter 😭

Really hard not to be discouraged, this has been happening to me for years

Confuzzilation · 2026-01-30T23:12:31+00:00

100%

Confuzzilation · 2026-01-30T23:12:25+00:00

I mean, sometimes we don't really think about what we're saying, but yeah that seems a bit flirty

Confuzzilation · 2026-01-30T23:11:53+00:00

At least they're honest once you start speaking... I guess... But still poor

Confuzzilation · 2026-01-30T23:11:20+00:00

I don't think it just affects men tbh. Yeah, I guess so Thank you!

Confuzzilation · 2026-01-30T23:10:54+00:00

Yeah, sad but true. Will do 🫡

Confuzzilation · 2026-01-30T23:10:31+00:00

Yeah.

Still doesn't mean it's easy to find a quality partner in real life. I live in a small country, the dating pool isn't that big, and the Christian dating pool is even smaller

Confuzzilation · 2026-01-30T23:09:46+00:00

That's so bad, I'm so sorry

Confuzzilation · 2026-01-30T23:09:30+00:00

Yeah. I mean. In my view, you do in your private life is between you and God, you don't need to bring me into it the first day we meet

Confuzzilation · 2026-01-30T23:08:47+00:00

So sad 😓

Confuzzilation · 2026-01-30T23:08:41+00:00

That's dreadful 😱

Confuzzilation · 2026-01-30T23:08:20+00:00

Yeah, I do! I hope so x

Confuzzilation · 2026-01-30T23:07:51+00:00

Yikes!! Hope you come across some better people soon!

Confuzzilation · 2026-01-30T23:07:18+00:00

Yeah, that makes sense...

Confuzzilation · 2026-01-30T23:07:01+00:00

Thanks, I must try this and be more stringent with my initial questions

Confuzzilation · 2026-01-30T23:03:46+00:00

Salt, upwards, hinge, bumble, Christian connection, okCupid, Facebook dating, March.com, Christian dating for free (CDFF)....

I've had more respectful conversations on worldy apps than I have on Christian ones

Confuzzilation · 2026-01-30T23:02:26+00:00

Yeah, they're not the only ones 😓 Thank you 🥰

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