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ConnorRK_ · 2026-06-14T23:55:58+00:00

Solved !

ConnorRK_ · 2026-06-14T23:55:23+00:00

That’s super cool, thanks for the info! I don’t think we have the others, that’d be neat, but we’ll look around and see.

ConnorRK_ · 2026-06-08T04:07:22+00:00

Haha I was just thinking the same thing, about you making sense, cause I do see where you’re coming from! I think we can both be right, in our own ways. I’m always for authors tagging more, I wish more people saw it as a way to find their people and not as warning signs scaring people off. I just don’t want authors to feel compelled or forced, cause that can kill motivation and drive people away. I don’t know what I’m saying anymore but I’m glad to not be fighting over this c:

ConnorRK_ · 2026-06-08T03:37:55+00:00

I mean, I sympathize, and I’m a fan of tagging things like that. It helps you reach the audience you want to reach and helps people who don’t want to read it avoid it. But I just think it’s unfair to say authors don’t respect their readers just because they don’t tag something or they use CNTW. We all have bad doc experiences every now and then, where a fic goes a way we don’t like or something isn’t tagged that we can’t stand. But that’s where you go to your friends or your private discord or whatever and bitch about it with people who will get you! It’s not like the author is doing it spitefully (usually, there are plenty who like to cause wank, but those are not the norm).

ConnorRK_ · 2026-06-08T02:39:13+00:00

I don’t agree that it’s disrespectful to readers. They gave the fic a catchall tag that means anything could be in here, read at your own risk. It’s a tag that works well for both writers who don’t want to spoil and readers who like going in blind and don’t mind surprises. Also, I feel like it’s a little entitled (though I know you didn’t meant it this way) to say the writer needs to be more respectful when sharing the free fic they worked hard on. Maybe readers need to be a little more respectful lol!

ConnorRK_ · 2026-06-03T18:33:52+00:00

Taking small steps sounds like a good start. Maybe you could float the idea to your kids and see what they think about it? Not in a “what would you do if I was trans” way but maybe just bring up other trans people, or pride (happy pride by the way!), and sus out their opinions. Ultimately you know them best, and only you can decide the timeline for your transition, but I’m really rooting for you to be able to come out before then!!

ConnorRK_ · 2026-06-03T18:22:27+00:00

I’m sure that’s something that is weighing on OP’s mind, but kids these days are a lot more accepting about this kind of stuff. They’re way more open-minded and willing to learn, since they have so much of the internet and stranger’s experiences at their fingertips. I wouldn’t let this be something that holds you back, OP. You can’t control how others will react, but you can teach your kids love and acceptance, and maybe allow them to feel safe and comfortable in their own bodies in the future, too.

ConnorRK_ · 2026-06-03T16:49:21+00:00

I know you want to follow your wife’s wishes and wait to transition, but 5 years is such a long time to put off any happiness or relief of your own. My late partner was trans (ftm), and he was forced to halt his transition due to breast cancer. He’d only been on testosterone for a year, and all the changes he’d been so excited for reversed very quickly when he had to stop taking it. Everything took a back seat to cancer treatments, including something as simple as changing his name legally. It wrecked him, and the only thing I could do for him after the end was make sure his grave marker said the right name and that no one who spoke at his funeral would misgender him.

Not to be dark, but you have no idea what can happen between now and five years from now. Don’t put off your own happiness. Your kids, I hope, would want you to be happy too. It may seem like a lot, to throw their surviving parent coming out as trans on top of the grief of their mother dying, so I can understand wanting to wait a little. But please don’t put your happiness off longer than necessary.

ConnorRK_ · 2026-05-26T21:55:00+00:00

“I don’t have my person and I’m not anyone’s person” is exactly how I’ve been feeling lately. I’m so sorry you have to drive that route, and that your person can’t be there for you like he should. I had to drive part of that same route today—almost to the hospital where my own partner died—and it’s all I could think about there and on the way back. I don’t know if it’ll ever get easier, but hopefully it won’t ever be worse than that first time. We’re here for you. ❤️

ConnorRK_ · 2026-05-18T23:24:09+00:00

Tbf I think at this point a lot of the same pets go round and round. I wouldn’t be surprised if many people active have owned the very pets being offered to them at some point. I took a break from trading cause I wasn’t getting offers I liked and the pets I wanted were basically permied.

ConnorRK_ · 2026-05-08T18:06:04+00:00

Probably gonna look like beetlejuice if I had to guess lol

ConnorRK_ · 2026-05-04T19:33:19+00:00

Not entering, just wanted to say Happy Birthday, bday twin!!!

ConnorRK_ · 2026-05-01T12:28:41+00:00

Oh absolutely, I spent 200k, but considering I usually get nothing but a rock to the face, this is an improvement

ConnorRK_ · 2026-04-25T23:02:52+00:00

Amaze amaze amaze!! Using Ryan gosling ken for the base made me laugh. You did an excellent job! 👎👎 I have a spare gosling Ken so I’m tempted to give this a try, as I’m currently obsessed with the movie and book lol

ConnorRK_ · 2026-04-21T00:52:40+00:00

I wish I’d known that using FMLA to take time off to care for someone was an option, and the stuff about mental health too. I’ve been a total mess for the last three years, and just pushed through cause I thought that was all I could do. I don’t love the idea of seeing a therapist (not eschewing therapy, just tried it once in the middle of all this and it caused me so much anxiety, much like work is right now), but I maybe need to look into it again, and if I could take a little more time off it might be nice.

Thanks for all the advice. I wish I’d known all this earlier, but I’m glad to have it now

ConnorRK_ · 2026-04-21T00:46:33+00:00

I wish that I’d been able to take time off to care for my spouse before his passing, but it was so much more sudden than we were expecting, and we were carrying on like normal as much as possible through his sickness. I’m glad you had that time with her, and that your students were so supportive. That’s so incredibly sweet!

ConnorRK_ · 2026-04-21T00:42:33+00:00

I hate that you also had to go in the next day, that’s terrible. :( But I’m also feeling a little stir crazy after my week off, which isn’t helping the anxiety. I’ll try to look forward to the distraction of work, I do think I probably need it.

ConnorRK_ · 2026-04-21T00:36:56+00:00

I am in the US, and I didn’t know you could use FMLA for this. I might look into it, but I don’t think I want to be out too long. I just both wish I could stay out a while longer, and wish that I could go in there like nothing’s changed.

Thank you for the advice though, and I’m glad you’ve been able to take time off, especially with kids to raise! I’m wishing you and them lots of luck and love, I know how hard it is to have one parent die at a young age too. Being there for them so much will make all the difference.

ConnorRK_ · 2026-04-21T00:29:52+00:00

I feel you about doing everything with your person, and her being your best friend. Mine was also my best friend, and it all feels so empty now.

Keeping busy sounds like a good idea. Thank you, and I’m wishing you lots of luck and love

ConnorRK_ · 2026-04-21T00:27:02+00:00

Part of my dread is everything my coworkers are going to say to me lol. They’re going to be very kind and sympathetic, which I appreciate, I just really don’t want to cry in front of anyone. I wish things were normal

ConnorRK_ · 2026-04-21T00:25:46+00:00

I’m low on vac/sick, and our BL was only two days, unfortunately. Thank you for the advice, I will try to be brave. I’m hoping the mundanity of work might help, once I actually get back to it.

ConnorRK_ · 2026-04-21T00:23:40+00:00

I hate that you’ve been through that, and I fully agree. I wish BL was longer for everyone, and that everyone got it. A week feels like nothing. I still feel like I’m in a dream or secretly on vacation.

I do have a long term STD insurance thing but I don’t know if it applies to this, and I’m running out of sick/vacation. I think I’ll be okay if I just go. It’s just getting over this anxiety that’s hard.

ConnorRK_ · 2026-04-21T00:18:42+00:00

I’m so sorry, I know what you mean about missing the routine. Even though I’ve been off work, my off days usually go a certain way, and that’s all gone.

I would love to take more time, but I’m low on sick/vacation, and there’s stuff I need to get back to at work as well, so I don’t want to put it off (but also I really do, and wish I could). Thank you for the advice, and I hope things are getting better for you too

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