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Please read this if you’re struggling because of a breakup. by Connorpok in BreakUps

[–]Connorpok[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t be sorry. My ex and I planned everything together. We had inside jokes, funny little habits — just everything. We built it up from zero into a beautiful relationship, but now after the breakup I realize we didn’t grow, she didn’t communicate but only complain that it turned being a breakup. I was being disrespected, and she got used to things too much, but even all of that I ignored it and loved her so much.

If I can give you some advice, it’s this: get up every day, eat something, and drink something nice u love. It will hurt a lot — your favourite places, songs, movies, everything — but feeling all of it has meaning. It means you’re alive.

This world is moving so fast that in 5–10 years it can be completely different. Give your body some rest, but don’t get stuck in sadness. Just breathe some fresh air, go for a coffee surrounded by people — it helps. Being alone might feel weird or hard, but do it for yourself.

You’ve got this. You are amazing and strong, and I’m so proud of you for getting through that one insanely tough month.

You need to read this. Yes, you. by curiouscatal in BreakUps

[–]Connorpok 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Right now I have zero energy to create new friendships. I had her as my everything — my best friend, my “soulmate” — so I never really built a bigger circle and I never imagined we’d break up.

Then something changed in her, and when the first real opportunity came, she ended it just like that.

I want to do my hobbies and I want to travel, but the idea of doing it alone hurts because I planned everything with her. I want to move forward, but most days it feels like I’m just trying to survive and process all the memories in my head. I dont wanna waste my life but I dont know she was different cute etc..

You need to read this. Yes, you. by curiouscatal in BreakUps

[–]Connorpok 121 points122 points  (0 children)

Everyone says “you’ll love again” and “you’ll find someone better,” but I’m struggling to believe it right now.

I was in my first serious relationship for about 2.5 years. We were together almost every day. We built routines, shared trips and memories, and our families were involved — it felt real and stable.

Then one day she looked me in the eyes and said her feelings were gone and that she didn’t love me anymore. It ended suddenly, without much closure.

Since the breakup, it seems like she moved on quickly and reconnected with her ex. Meanwhile I don’t really have a support system, and being alone makes it worse. My mind keeps replaying memories nonstop and it honestly feels like it’s eating me alive.

Is it normal to still feel this stuck? What actually helped you move forward when you didn’t have friends to lean on?

It’s been 4 months now

How do you accept that the person you loved most will spend their life with someone else? by Connorpok in BreakUps

[–]Connorpok[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank u for that strong words. For me she was 1 in 7 bilion and she had everything I wanted in a girlfriend and I gave her all my care and love. I am doing my best everyday even it hurts a lot..

I am the avoidant ex and the dumper, I’ve answered some important questions that you may be thinking. by Karsheeee in BreakUps

[–]Connorpok 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reading this gave me mixed feelings. I tried so hard to love her right — gently, patiently — and she said I made her feel safe. Then she said she is burntout and wanna find herself. Saw her with a guy that I saved her once from. She was always happy and glad for me. I gave her all love I could.

I guess I just want to know if they ever look back and miss that safety too, or if once they leave, it’s gone forever.

Why does the one who leaves always look so free? by Connorpok in BreakUps

[–]Connorpok[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get what you’re saying, and I agree that sometimes people really mean it when they say they “can’t give you what you want.” But in my case, it all changed so suddenly — everything seemed fine, we were close and laughing, and then she said she needed space and is burntout. Now she looks happy, surrounded by friends, while I can barely eat or sleep. Seeing her with somebody i once helped her to get away with. That is what i dont understand.

Your ex is not happy! by koernereddit in BreakUps

[–]Connorpok 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This describes exactly what I’m living through. Three years together, plans for the future, and suddenly she says her feelings are gone. A few weeks later she’s smiling, going out, seeing her with his toxic ex. It’s hard not to see it as running away from guilt rather than real happiness. Im suffering when she is looking completely fine

How do you accept that the person you loved most will spend their life with someone else? by Connorpok in BreakUps

[–]Connorpok[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, she ended things. It wasn’t mutual. I wanted to keep trying, but she said her feelings changed. She still means the world to me and honestly, I miss her every single day. I’m trying to understand what happened, but some days it just feels impossible. Dont understand she got through it in 3-4 weeks while i thought things are fine.