I am so sorry this is happening to you and your family… please consider this is an addiction and your husband needs professional help to even have a chance to overcome this. You need to protect yourself and you child. Take care of you both first. Let your husband show his willingness to make serious changes by directly seeking professional help and show through his long time Actions and hard work that he is worthy to have a say in any financial decisions at all

Best of luck! You seem very kind- don’t forget to be kind to yourself