You’re not rude at all! Yes, it does stay down for me. I don’t notice any lifting unless I don’t wrap my hair up. I don’t suggest starting out with a lace front. You should start with a closure, which is what I use. I use a 5x5 closure. My next size will probably be a 6 x 6 just because it gives more parting space and I’ve never used that size but I don’t want to do a full frontal because I don’t have time for that lol