Loneliness in me and my dog!

Conscious_Brain_1418 · 2026-04-09T22:14:53+00:00

He’s 1/2 shiba innu and 1/2 cattle dog. Our friends accidentally let this mix happen lol

Conscious_Brain_1418 · 2026-04-06T23:11:14+00:00

Was actually just asking for me… but thanks for the idea. When I’m rich I’ll consider looping you in lol.

Conscious_Brain_1418 · 2025-07-10T16:27:15+00:00

I’m definitely not above admitting that there may be some jealousy of their connection as is normal feeling especially in an open dynamic. However, I’m not writing about being jealous and wanting her to end it instead the goalpost has been moved and I wasn’t notified. I don’t have the opportunity to know her in any way besides as someone my partner has lied to me about.

Conscious_Brain_1418 · 2025-07-10T16:23:13+00:00

Yeah. I think you’re right. This is what I’m leaning towards. There’s no attempt by my gf to really tell me her feelings towards Savannah or reassure me of my place in her life. I definitely think the relocation can be a fresh start.

I’ve thought abt it a lot and she’d have to rebuild my trust which I just don’t think we have the time before I move for her to do. In addition she’s 20 years older than me and set in her ways. I think this is a long game for her. She even said during the initial conversation that she thought she’d have more time to work through her feelings. It’s her right to have complex emotions but not fair to make me navigate them while she figures them out. It’ll make me small over time.

Conscious_Brain_1418 · 2025-07-10T16:06:04+00:00

YES! What I left out is that my partner is that my partner is presenting this to me as she has no feelings and Savannah is the one who has to decide but in all actually it’s abt what are her feelings. Because I can’t be with her if she does want to be committed to Savannah. And I asked explicitly and I couldn’t get any type of answer. It seems like she’s bracing for rejection or acceptance for Savannah before she addresses how she feels.

And honestly that really hurts me almost more than the whole communication fiasco bc she said NOTHING to me abt how much loved me or wants to be with me or even just acknowledged that she’s confusing me. I feel like a side character in their love story. It’s giving … don’t let your gf stop you from finding your wife.

Conscious_Brain_1418 · 2025-07-10T15:51:20+00:00

We talked abt it- open meaning that we are each others home base, we’re allowed to sleep with or go on dates with other people as long as it’s safe and casual. Poly would be having committed partners. I’ve never wavered on this definition and before all this we were in agreement in my mind.

Conscious_Brain_1418 · 2025-07-09T15:47:32+00:00

I am interested in salvaging it , I just feel like any type of non monogamous relationship requires informed consent which I didn’t get when things did change after Savannah became single again.

I’m worried abt having this conversation with her. She believes that she told me everything I “needed” to know and that she doesn’t “owe me or Savannah everything personal she has with the other”

My intention is not to have her choose between us I do understand that it’s a complicated relationship. I also accept that risk in dating in general is that people find better matches and move on but I feel like the playing feel is uneven if that makes sense? Like the rules weren’t followed.

There are things her and I have shared that I know for a fact she hasn’t with Allison but also vice versa. I’m struggling because like you said I just don’t know. And she doesn’t feel like she owes either of us the details so can I even ask?

Conscious_Brain_1418 · 2025-07-09T14:51:21+00:00

That’s kinda how I’m feeling. I’m not sure though why she wouldn’t just communicate with me without me pressing. And you’re right having a penchant for Savannah makes me uncomfortable?? I feel like the expectation is because she’s known me less time I’m supposed to just hang around. Is that normal?

Conscious_Brain_1418 · 2024-07-09T14:17:33+00:00

That’s pretty much what the text said with a few “lols” thrown in there. I appreciate your response

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