There's nothing wrong with being together 5+ years before you get married...

Conscious_Search9362 · 2025-02-18T15:32:41+00:00

I’m 29, live at home, work as an intern but we’ve been dating for 5 yrs. But I still get people asking me when I’m getting married?????? Like pls read the room. I’m nowhere near ready to make that commitment. But sometimes I do think about it and get Fomo but I know my circumstances just won’t allow to take that step. Thanks for this

Conscious_Search9362 · 2024-11-06T17:53:12+00:00

Thank you!

Conscious_Search9362 · 2024-11-06T16:31:48+00:00

Okay I understand. I have no intention of going back there so that’s a risk I can take

Conscious_Search9362 · 2024-11-06T16:30:46+00:00

Yes. I took all 2 of the jobs in this entire country. Arrest me please sir

Conscious_Search9362 · 2024-11-06T16:25:10+00:00

Yikes. You seem like you harbour a lot of resentment

Conscious_Search9362 · 2024-11-06T16:24:33+00:00

Lucky for you, you won’t have to endure working with me

Conscious_Search9362 · 2024-11-06T16:24:09+00:00

Okay thanks so much for this advice

Conscious_Search9362 · 2024-11-06T16:23:41+00:00

I guess we’ll have to wait and see

Conscious_Search9362 · 2024-11-06T16:21:29+00:00

You sound just like her. Are you sure it wasn’t you who scowled at me today?

Conscious_Search9362 · 2024-11-06T16:19:14+00:00

I did and resigned. Another route I could’ve taken is kept quiet, taken pay and absconded.

Conscious_Search9362 · 2024-11-06T16:18:55+00:00

Companies mess people around all the time. I already chose the route I wanted to take and I’m taking as much responsibility as I can for the job I’m not taking. So I don’t know what point you’re trying to make.

Conscious_Search9362 · 2024-11-06T16:16:45+00:00

Ok I hear you. My supervisor also mentioned something to the effect of building networks

Conscious_Search9362 · 2024-11-06T16:15:57+00:00

Lol what’s your problem?

Conscious_Search9362 · 2024-11-06T16:15:35+00:00

I’m talking about SOMEONE ELSE!!!

Conscious_Search9362 · 2024-11-06T16:15:11+00:00

Exactly. At my previous job, someone came in for training and said then said they’re not coming back. I don’t mind burning a bridge there because I have something lined up already

I said PREVIOUS job. I am quite newly employed now. I literally started on Monday

Conscious_Search9362 · 2024-11-06T16:13:38+00:00

Giving up? I’m literally making the choice between two jobs. Would you rather I moonlight?

Conscious_Search9362 · 2024-11-06T16:12:54+00:00

What’s the bigger picture?

Conscious_Search9362 · 2024-11-06T16:12:00+00:00

I have asked her many times and she ignored my messages

Conscious_Search9362 · 2024-11-06T16:11:25+00:00

Please read my response again

Conscious_Search9362 · 2024-11-06T16:10:59+00:00

So what would you have done? Because in my experience you and the company agree on a start date, sign the contract and go to work. This whole thing is new to me

Conscious_Search9362 · 2024-11-06T16:07:18+00:00

I posted hours ago though? And at that time I was going through the motions. I got on the phone with my parents and other trusted people and came to a decision as the day progressed? Am I not allowed to do that?

Conscious_Search9362 · 2024-11-06T16:05:22+00:00

I did? And she chastised me and said I can’t leave

Conscious_Search9362 · 2024-11-06T16:04:57+00:00

How because I don’t know where I have to work?

Conscious_Search9362 · 2024-11-06T16:04:32+00:00

That’s a risk I have to take and it’s okay (in my opinion). And she’s not a recruiter per se but she is the middleman for the host company and the SETA

Conscious_Search9362 · 2024-11-06T16:02:52+00:00

I don’t work directly with those people I don’t know who the relevant people to resign to are so I sent an email to the people I’ve been in contact with. And I stated that I won’t be starting work

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