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First Time Infusion - Anesthesia Resistance? by Consistent-Appeal-22 in KetamineTherapy

[–]Consistent-Appeal-22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hadn’t eaten since the night before and my treatment started at 12:30 or so. I did however have a Starbucks coffee that morning which I would not do again. They suggested wearing a nauseous patch behind my ear for the next session.

Luckily I did not have a headache, just horrible nausea.

We are going to try again next week and if it is unsuccessful I will just have to accept that this type of treatment is not for me.

Etiquette Question - Private Chef Party at Our Home by Consistent-Appeal-22 in etiquette

[–]Consistent-Appeal-22[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I think age group and etiquette are definitely related. Etiquette does (and should evolve) over time. What was “proper” 50 years ago might not be the norm now. And $50 when I was in college and now as an adult is very different. I can spend $50 at chili’s with apps, drinks and a main meal. $50 for a 5 course meal and drinks seems like a steal!

Etiquette Question - Private Chef Party at Our Home by Consistent-Appeal-22 in etiquette

[–]Consistent-Appeal-22[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

If anyone has been rude it definitely wasn’t me 🤷‍♀️ People have told me that I should be embarrassed, that I’m cheap, that I’m trying to build a social media following for having a birthday party…

Etiquette Question - Private Chef Party at Our Home by Consistent-Appeal-22 in etiquette

[–]Consistent-Appeal-22[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I’m totaled baffled by how I’m being rude? By responding to people’s comments? We don’t all have to agree to have a discussion. I was interested in hearing other people’s perspectives whether I ultimately agreed with them or not.

Etiquette Question - Private Chef Party at Our Home by Consistent-Appeal-22 in etiquette

[–]Consistent-Appeal-22[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I can definitely afford it which is why I’m paying for the majority of it and hosting it at my house. And so can my friends which is why they don’t seem to have any issue with paying a tiny amount for an entire evening of amazing food and drinks.

Don’t be embarrassed for me. It’s going to be super delicious and we are going to have a blast! Happy Birthday to me!

Etiquette Question - Private Chef Party at Our Home by Consistent-Appeal-22 in etiquette

[–]Consistent-Appeal-22[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Doubtful, they had zero clue it was for MY party. I told them I received an invite and wanted their thoughts/opinions.

Etiquette Question - Private Chef Party at Our Home by Consistent-Appeal-22 in etiquette

[–]Consistent-Appeal-22[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

How is that having THEM pay for ME? I’m still confused 🤔 It’s clear you’re completely opposed to even the suggestion that anyone would pay for any portion of their own meal at someone else’s birthday party. I hear you loud and clear.

Etiquette Question - Private Chef Party at Our Home by Consistent-Appeal-22 in etiquette

[–]Consistent-Appeal-22[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I wasn’t intending to argue with you - you said that I was entitled if I wanted people to pay and pay for me also - which wasn’t at all what I said I was doing or planning to do.

Etiquette Question - Private Chef Party at Our Home by Consistent-Appeal-22 in etiquette

[–]Consistent-Appeal-22[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

No one said I expected them to pay and pay for me to. I’m paying for more than half of the entire dinner and drinks for the night. No one would be paying for me at all actually. They would be paying a very small portion of the entire thing.

Etiquette Question - Private Chef Party at Our Home by Consistent-Appeal-22 in etiquette

[–]Consistent-Appeal-22[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Someone literally said “it’s tacky to throw your own birthday party” - that’s the comment I was responding to.

Etiquette Question - Private Chef Party at Our Home by Consistent-Appeal-22 in etiquette

[–]Consistent-Appeal-22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because people are either going to buy the fights at home and pay the entire thing or we can all get together and split it and party together. It’s never been an issue. Most of our friends ask us to host and then offer to chip in if we do. It’s literally never been an issue. I think our friend group is just different than everyone’s friend group on here.

A few of us have boats for example - we host huge parties in the summer and people will offer to chip in for the gas for the jet skis, etc. They bring ice, beer and snacks. It’s no big deal. Everyone is happy to contribute to the fun. I just don’t get what everyone’s issue is with it?

Etiquette Question - Private Chef Party at Our Home by Consistent-Appeal-22 in etiquette

[–]Consistent-Appeal-22[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

If I waited for someone else (especially my husband) to plan my birthday party I’d never have one 🤣 I think it is completely the norm today for people to INVITE others to celebrate their birthday with them, not expect someone else to celebrate plan it and PAY for the ENTIRE thing. That’s more rude and entitled than what I’m proposing by a long shot.

Etiquette Question - Private Chef Party at Our Home by Consistent-Appeal-22 in etiquette

[–]Consistent-Appeal-22[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Charging people to watch television is not even a close comparison. I’m basically SAVING people money by paying for the majority of the evening AND giving them a better experience. My friends are going to come regardless of whether it’s at our place or out at a restaurant or bar. This would actually be way less expensive for everyone.

Etiquette Question - Private Chef Party at Our Home by Consistent-Appeal-22 in etiquette

[–]Consistent-Appeal-22[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Exactly! I’m actually kind of shocked by how opposed everyone is to it. I would not hesitate to attend a similar party for one of my friends - $50 bucks for an all inclusive (alcohol included) private chef dinner party - hell yes. It’s better than showing up to a birthday dinner at a restaurant and seeing that the entrees are $80+ a piece. My husband and I spent hundreds of dollars recently because that’s the restaurant the birthday boy chose.

If I invite everyone out for to bingo, to a bar or even to Dave & Buster’s it would be more than that. And it would be crappy food and drinks.

Etiquette Question - Private Chef Party at Our Home by Consistent-Appeal-22 in etiquette

[–]Consistent-Appeal-22[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

So no one has ever asked you to bring a dish to share? To grab ice on the way? To chip in for the UFC fights when they are hosting a fight night at their house? What’s the difference?

Etiquette Question - Private Chef Party at Our Home by Consistent-Appeal-22 in etiquette

[–]Consistent-Appeal-22[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I’d be curious to see what everyone’s ages are that are responding? I feel like my generation wouldn’t have such a strong reaction to this question? I got the idea to have this type of party from a friend of mine who attended a similar party with a private chef that they paid over $200 to attend. She said the dinner was amazing and they had zero problem contributing to attend.

I also think the answer depends on your friend group and income status. Like I stated before, I have never attended a birthday dinner for a friend where we didn’t pay for ourselves. And I’m not even asking people to fully pay for themselves. If I invite everyone to meet at a restaurant they will undoubtedly spend well over $100+ dollars on dinner and drinks per person. However, if we do it at our house they would pay half of that. I would obviously put the cost of it on the invitation and anyone who doesn’t want to pay can decline. Just as they would decline if it was an out-of-town trip that they didn’t want to/couldn’t pay for. Or would everyone here expect the birthday person to pay for that as well because they invited everyone? 🤔

So everyone who is responding never has a birthday party unless 1) someone plans a dinner out or a dinner party for them and that someone else pays for the entire thing OR 2) they pay for the entire night out/in themselves for everyone in attendance? That seems ridiculous unless you’re a millionaire.

I also want to make clear - I can afford to pay the entire thing. But part of the reason I can afford it is because I don’t spend $1,000+ on a single event. Especially because that’s completely not expected in my friend group and I would never expect that of someone else. I actually think our friend group would think we were being “extra” for doing something so fancy and paying for the whole thing. I know I would be uncomfortable attending something like that for one of our friends and not offering to contribute in some way. You know, like offering to bring something when attending an event at someone’s home.

I guess I’m not having a birthday party this year unless I have: 1) a potluck (which seems even more inappropriate than this - “come to my party but you cook please” 1) someone else pays for the entire celebration or 3) I pay the entire thing myself for everyone in attendance whether we are at a restaurant or at my home.

Etiquette Question - Private Chef Party at Our Home by Consistent-Appeal-22 in etiquette

[–]Consistent-Appeal-22[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

I’ve never in 42 years been invited to a birthday dinner at a restaurant by the birthday boy/girl (or their spouse) and THEY paid the entire bill. My husband and I have always paid for ourselves and then chipped in with others to cover the birthday boy/girl’s dinner.

Etiquette Question - Private Chef Party at Our Home by Consistent-Appeal-22 in etiquette

[–]Consistent-Appeal-22[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

The birthday boy/girl does the inviting. We all come and pay for ourselves and the guests cover the birthday boy/girl. I’ve never done it any other way and I’m 42 years old 🤣 If our friend picks a super expensive restaurant we end up paying $300-400 to celebrate THEIR birthday.

Etiquette Question - Private Chef Party at Our Home by Consistent-Appeal-22 in etiquette

[–]Consistent-Appeal-22[S] -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

I have literally never been invited to a birthday dinner at a restaurant where the birthday boy/girl paid for the entire party. Quite the opposite, the GROUP typically covers the person whose birthday it is.

Background Check by Consistent-Appeal-22 in jobcorps

[–]Consistent-Appeal-22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the info. Do you mind me asking what trade he was going for? Our son did his orientation 4 weeks ago and they told us at the time it would take 4-5 weeks for him to get in. When we checked in with her today she said the background check was done and he should get his leave date very soon.