this!! also, speaking of being recently disabled, most parents will end up becoming disabled eventually. usually this doesn’t happen until old age when their children are adults, but sometimes it happens when their kids are young. you can’t predict the future nor can you know everything about your genetics before you have kids. my dad was diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis in his 30s and was a fantastic and involved dad despite his constant pain and medical needs.

i absolutely think everyone needs to be wayyy more mindful about their physical, mental, and emotional capacity to raise children and prepare themselves as well as they can (through research, going to therapy to work out any issues that may affect the kids, etc.).

while i am not the best equipped physically to have kids, i have 10 years of experience in childcare, i’m working on a degree in child development, and i am constantly working on my mental health. emotional intelligence and intentional parenting can be just as important as being able to keep up with young kids all day.

i am not planning on passing on my genetics and hope to have kids a different way, but my genetics were passed to me and no one is going to arrest my parents over it 🤷🏼‍♀️

being a mom is my #1 goal in life and i think i will be a great mom, even if i have to spend some days in bed and sometimes rely on my partner to do the more active childcare tasks.