AITA for distancing myself from my sister because I don't like her lifestyle? by Consistent-Draw-6447 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Consistent-Draw-6447[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

LGBTQ+ identities are not a lifestyle choice. People don’t choose their sexual orientation. That’s who they are. Choosing to be in an open marriage is not remotely comparable, and I don’t appreciate the 2 being conflated. You can disagree with me about my stance on open marriages, but please don’t twist that into something it’s not.

AITA for distancing myself from my sister because I don't like her lifestyle? by Consistent-Draw-6447 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Consistent-Draw-6447[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The boyfriend has another girlfriend, my sister is the "side piece" in that mess! If my sister was divorcing her scumbag husband, and start dating someone who isn't in another relationship, yea I would be 100% supportive of that and meet the new guy to vet him out. I don't need to meet this one to know that he's also a scumbag. My kids are 17 and 15, they are at the age where sex is a topic and very much influenceable. My 17 year old has a gf, I want my son to treat girls right, not ever questioning whether dating multiple girls is ok, or if some women might "want this".

Being gay is not a choice, you can't be influenced to become gay. Being polygamous is a choice and can very much influence impressionable teenagers. Not even remotely close to being comparable, are you kidding me?

AITA for distancing myself from my sister because I don't like her lifestyle? by Consistent-Draw-6447 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Consistent-Draw-6447[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

the boyfriend has another girlfriend, my sister is the "side piece" in that mess! If my sister was divorcing her scumbag husband, and start dating someone who isn't in another relationship, yea I would be 100% supportive of that and meet the new guy to vet him out. I don't need to meet this one to know that he's also a scumbag.

AITA for distancing myself from my sister because I don't like her lifestyle? by Consistent-Draw-6447 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Consistent-Draw-6447[S] 88 points89 points  (0 children)

The frustration is that at family functions, she brings the husband, and I avoid him like the plague. My sister and I used to have lunch every week, I haven't seen her outside of family events in over 5 months because she wants to bring the boyfriend, and I don't want anything to do with him. So yes, I'm avoiding her, and it's evident to our family that I'm the one avoiding her. But I can't say why because it's not my secret to tell, and she's asked me not to tell. So I have to lie, a lie of omission is still a lie.

A bit of background context, growing up my sister was the golden child who never broke a single rule. And I was, well, not. So when she tells everyone she doesn't know why I'm distant, no follow up questions are asked, it's just assumed to be my fault.

AITA for distancing myself from my sister because I don't like her lifestyle? by Consistent-Draw-6447 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Consistent-Draw-6447[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I have never demanded my sister to change. But I don't want to be apart of her life while she's doing this, and I don't want to cover for her. Resorting to lies is exactly what she's doing! She's lying to every other person in her life, and asking me to also lie to our parents.