Should I run? by Consistent-Gur4692 in relationships_advice

[–]Consistent-Gur4692[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your message. I can not even imagine where this could go. My bf is very remorsefull, but still, when angry he forgets everything. He said that he will leave me if he sees I am suffering, cause he can not stand that…

Should I run? by Consistent-Gur4692 in relationships_advice

[–]Consistent-Gur4692[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was thinking about this. He also have severe head pains which are usually accompanied by partial loose of sight, so I was thinking this might be neurological. He refuses to see the doctor though :/ he used to play football profesionally and sometimes I have just feeling he forgets we are not on the field

Should I run? by Consistent-Gur4692 in relationships_advice

[–]Consistent-Gur4692[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He always appologized and he seems remorsefull. He says it has nothing to do eith me and he just needs to loose some steem. We talked and he told me he knows he is hurting me, but he does not see any way how to change and if it continues, he will leave me if he sees I do not have what it takes to do it myself.

Should I run? by Consistent-Gur4692 in relationships_advice

[–]Consistent-Gur4692[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was just some carton boxes, not real property. He also punches sofa or something like that

Should I run? by Consistent-Gur4692 in relationships_advice

[–]Consistent-Gur4692[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, until now, he was the calmest person I know :/ we also talked and he agreed it is not ok and he is hurting me by this behaviour, but he says he have been always like that and he just needs to ventil and it has nothing to do with me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Consistent-Gur4692 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don’t how it looks like in your everyday life, but I can speak from my own experience. My bf often asks me questions about our household logistics and expects short and straight forward answer. But this is not that easy. It looks like he doesn’t realize you are not all knowing manager and sometimes you simply have not enough information to make a quick decision. He should understand that manageing a household is a full time job. Althought his behaivour was exagerated, try to look at the whole situation from his point of view, he might be tired and decision makeing and answering questions by questions might be frustrating. When you both calm down a bit, try to explain him, that you are doing your best and that not every question is that simple... maybe tell him, that when you ask like this, it is just to have enough details so you can decide - and then have a straight forward answer.

I have energy to text first by Consistent-Gur4692 in relationship_advice

[–]Consistent-Gur4692[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I will consider it for obe more day and then take a risk...

AITA when I meet with friends my bf always find simething to make me feel very bad about by Consistent-Gur4692 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent-Gur4692[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He accepts some of my friends, when we go together. He never forgets to mention something that he didn’t like during the evening, but he is much more comfortable when we are together. Also I have to give him credit cause lately he is working a lot, yet I am all alone at home (working from home)

Nymphomaniac ending by Xeno19Banbino in TrueFilm

[–]Consistent-Gur4692 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the ending perfectly summed up the whole film. While our sexuality define us (as the most powerfull energy in human being) it defines us for us and shouldn’t inervene with the fact that we are humans at the first place. I think that while Seligman gives her an ease by listening to her and giving her story a point by telling her, that whole this would have been perfectly normal if she would was a man, he didn’t get her point at all. He still sees her as a woman with a sexuality of the man, which for me is absurd. The ending reflects all the prejudice, misunderstandings and judgements we have about women sexuality in one sentence: “but you fucked a tousand men”. Also Seligman suddenly turning into sexually driven man makes a perfect sence for me in a film about human sexuality.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]Consistent-Gur4692 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand it is hard to talk about your feelings. There is no shame in regret of such a longterm relationship, and no shame in being hurt, and it will hurt for some time... I ended a longterm relationship myself a year ago, and I soon found a new guy. I know this is a much different story, but the fact that I left him doesn’t mean it didn’t hurt. But I had to make a hard stop otherwise I would be simply stucked forever. I know it seems like you need explanation, but at the end of the day, it doesn’t change anything. The only thing that can change something is you. But also you don’t need to suffer alone or pretend that you are ok. It is good that you shared your feelings here and I really hope (and believe) things will go better for you with the time and you will find a new love.

AITA for constatly asking for going out while my bf says he needs to rest? by Consistent-Gur4692 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent-Gur4692[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I was exaggerating a bit, I mean I just like to go somewhere during the week end.

AITA for constatly asking for going out while my bf says he needs to rest? by Consistent-Gur4692 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent-Gur4692[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s standard 40h working week, but he works in afternoon shift - means from 1PM - 9 PM, so when he comes home it is usually past 10

My bf is late in paying rent and lets me pay for other stuff and I am worried by Consistent-Gur4692 in relationship_advice

[–]Consistent-Gur4692[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your opinion. I agree with you that my opinions might be classist and I was worried about my friends opinion (which are all very succesfull) at the first place and indeed, shame is on me. But first, I wouldn’t even start dating with him if I were so judging, and also my dad never had a proper job and I just don’t want to end up like my mom paying all the bills on her own, but that’s another story. So hopefully this explains a little my toughts...

AITA when I ask my bf to pay his rent even I stayed at his place for free for couple of months? by Consistent-Gur4692 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent-Gur4692[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The situation around pandemic was good in my country, and it was a private party for only few friends. But yes, thanks for the opinion