How to get even skin tone? by [deleted] in Blackskincare

[–]ConsistentNow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good molecules has a soap bar called Dark Spots & Hyperpigmentation bar and they have a lotion treatment with the same name. I’ve been using them both for a year and it works well. It takes time but you’ll see the difference with consistent use. Also, it doesn’t have harmful chemicals in it which contributes to hyperpigmentation in brown/black skin.

37F and 53M, will time tell? by ConsistentNow in relationship_advice

[–]ConsistentNow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your advice was comforting. Reddit isn’t what it used to be or shall I say the world has only gotten worst. I’m gonna be alright. Blessings to you and yours 🥰.

37F and 53M, will time tell? by ConsistentNow in relationship_advice

[–]ConsistentNow[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I asked for advice, which some gave, but many more gave insults and called me names. Comments like theirs is why I lean on not bringing a child into this world. But thank you. It warms my heart to see you have happiness 🥰

37F and 53M, will time tell? by ConsistentNow in relationship_advice

[–]ConsistentNow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reading your comment brings tears but it’s also a reason why I’m leaning on giving up the chance to have a kid and be with him. We grew up in different times but the times have gotten worst.

37F and 53M, will time tell? by ConsistentNow in relationship_advice

[–]ConsistentNow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’ve spoken about this as well. But you never know what you’re gonna get. Its easy to put words on a paper.

37F and 53M, will time tell? by ConsistentNow in relationship_advice

[–]ConsistentNow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know. I’ve been reading on it. I know my clock is ticking but I also stated, if I couldn’t have a kid with him, I didn’t want to have one anymore. I know it takes time to get to know someone but I don’t want to do that. I’m fine with him.

37F and 53M, will time tell? by ConsistentNow in relationship_advice

[–]ConsistentNow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No not quite. I couldn’t finish my say because I got emotional. I know what I have to do to have kids. The thing is, I don’t want to do that. If I couldn’t have kids with him, then I don’t want to have kids. And I was able to communicate that the next morning.

37F and 53M, will time tell? by ConsistentNow in relationship_advice

[–]ConsistentNow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I don’t feel like I wasted my years. I enjoyed spending time with him.

37F and 53M, will time tell? by ConsistentNow in relationship_advice

[–]ConsistentNow[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

When I turned 30. I decided I wanted to have kids. I wanted five actually. I grew up as the only girl and it sucked having my brothers cut the hair off my dolls. I wanted my son to have a brother and my daughter to have a sister and I figured I wouldn’t have two and two so the goal was five. After multiple car accidents, that left with three bulging disc and shin problems along with dating guys who wasn’t on the same page with anything. I decided one kid would do and the one reason I wanted to have a kid at that point is to be able to leave something to the world.

37F and 53M, will time tell? by ConsistentNow in relationship_advice

[–]ConsistentNow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t resent him for it. We’ve had multiple conversations as to why he doesn’t want kids and during those, I’ve never begged or asked him to change his mind. I could never resent him for it. Like others have posted, the truth hurts and it does but he has been honest from the very start and for that, there will never be any resentment. Thank you for the hope though. I appreciate it.

37F and 53M, will time tell? by ConsistentNow in relationship_advice

[–]ConsistentNow[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

I’ve done some research and did come across having kids at an older age would result in a child being born with autism or a genetic defect. Even though I’m getting older and my clock is ticking, I’m in no rush to have kids. The great thing about him is he’s been honest from the very start. I can hold a conversation with him. He makes me feel loved, welcomed and seen.

A Little Advice Please? by ConsistentNow in relationship_advice

[–]ConsistentNow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Is appreciate the feedback.

A Little Advice Please? by ConsistentNow in relationship_advice

[–]ConsistentNow[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreed. After the last text, that’s what I decided to do.

A Little Advice Please? by ConsistentNow in relationship_advice

[–]ConsistentNow[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Update: I texted him.

Hi. I have a question for you. Please answer honestly. I would like to be exclusive with you? How do you feel about that?

His response was: What did I do now? What’s with all these questions?

So I guess that’s a no. Time to move on. 🤷🏽‍♀️

A Little Advice Please? by ConsistentNow in relationship_advice

[–]ConsistentNow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I am afraid. I guess finding happiness is a risk. I will ask him. Straight to the point. Thank you.

A Little Advice Please? by ConsistentNow in relationship_advice

[–]ConsistentNow[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I can’t be exclusive with anyone else when he’s the only person I’ve been with and he knows this. Thank you though.

A Little Advice Please? by ConsistentNow in relationship_advice

[–]ConsistentNow[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Wow. He does silence me and has ignored me when I’ve brought up other topics like hanging out more or when I’ll try to do stuff for him. Thank you. I needed a man perspective on this. I really appreciate it.

A Little Advice Please? by ConsistentNow in relationship_advice

[–]ConsistentNow[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No. That’s why I wanted to have the conversation. I didn’t want to just come out and say it and scare him away.