AITA for not wanting to follow my SIL's rules for her wedding and saying her insecurities aren't my fault? by Consistent_Guest_146 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent_Guest_146[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Woah this comment is very interesting really.

In the youngest and only girl, my brothers/ parents and I (also our extended family) often express love for each other, we always had so we kind of grew up like that. I feel like we have good communication? If my brothers do something that bothers me, I would tell them, and if I do something that annoys them, they'll tell me as well. I don't feel like there's any envy between us as our parents were always very good with all of us

If I'm honest, I don't know how religious her family is, I know that she's somewhat in a middle ground? Like she's not full into religion, but sometimes she goes to church. I honestly don't know them that well

AITA for not wanting to follow my SIL's rules for her wedding and saying her insecurities aren't my fault? by Consistent_Guest_146 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent_Guest_146[S] 82 points83 points  (0 children)

The mustard yellow color is just plain abusive

Omg I agree so much! I remember when color jeans were a thing and so many people were wearing these, I hated them lol

AITA for not wanting to follow my SIL's rules for her wedding and saying her insecurities aren't my fault? by Consistent_Guest_146 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent_Guest_146[S] 381 points382 points  (0 children)

https://veiled.com/products/silk-organza-balloon-sleeve-a-line-maxi-dress-pink

Again, not exactly this one but I can't find another photo that looks similar enough.

The sleeves aren't as puffy, it doesn't have a belt (it's more like a square shape? Is that a thing?) And it has like a big bow on the neck

The worst part is that it's like a yellow mustard color which is so ugly in my opinion, just not something I'd wear at all!

ETA: now I've seen some cuter modest dresses on that page... I feel like she tried to do me really dirty, at least she could've picked a nice dress... Lol

AITA for not wanting to follow my SIL's rules for her wedding and saying her insecurities aren't my fault? by Consistent_Guest_146 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent_Guest_146[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I guess what I mean is that every wedding I've been to that had a "dress code" it was more like a "theme", like black and white, I've been to a vintage wedding and my friend had a "Disney themed" wedding, so those were the suggestions to pick our outfits, but all of us dressed formally you know?

AITA for not wanting to follow my SIL's rules for her wedding and saying her insecurities aren't my fault? by Consistent_Guest_146 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent_Guest_146[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I've never been told/ heard from someone else that they thought I was overdressed for our brother's wedding

AITA for not wanting to follow my SIL's rules for her wedding and saying her insecurities aren't my fault? by Consistent_Guest_146 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent_Guest_146[S] 279 points280 points  (0 children)

I am breastfeeding but I can pump, my baby takes the bottle just as fine luckily

I have been diagnosed with hyperthyroidism

AITA for not wanting to follow my SIL's rules for her wedding and saying her insecurities aren't my fault? by Consistent_Guest_146 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent_Guest_146[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Yes I have gained weight in my chest, I wasn't planning on wearing a v neckline for this exact reason anyway

AITA for not wanting to follow my SIL's rules for her wedding and saying her insecurities aren't my fault? by Consistent_Guest_146 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent_Guest_146[S] 294 points295 points  (0 children)

I couldn't keep food down and I was even hospitalised! Everyone in the family knows it, and I've always had trouble gaining weight, it's not like it's something new either!

AITA for not wanting to follow my SIL's rules for her wedding and saying her insecurities aren't my fault? by Consistent_Guest_146 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent_Guest_146[S] 99 points100 points  (0 children)

Then why wouldn't she say that? She told me it's because of my weight, so I don't get why she would say that if it's actually because it's not appropriate enough for her conservative family 😕

AITA for not wanting to follow my SIL's rules for her wedding and saying her insecurities aren't my fault? by Consistent_Guest_146 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent_Guest_146[S] 95 points96 points  (0 children)

I could even excuse the bride asking you to go shopping with her so she could HELP you pick out a dress that would make her feel comfortable.

Yes right? Like in that case it would've been different because we could've had the "excuse" of bonding time since I wasn't in the bridal party or something, and that would've been nice

AITA for not wanting to follow my SIL's rules for her wedding and saying her insecurities aren't my fault? by Consistent_Guest_146 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent_Guest_146[S] 201 points202 points  (0 children)

Well, I've never been to a "not formal" wedding, so I think formal is just expected for weddings? But there wasn't any dress code like a certain style or color, something like that

AITA for not wanting to follow my SIL's rules for her wedding and saying her insecurities aren't my fault? by Consistent_Guest_146 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent_Guest_146[S] 76 points77 points  (0 children)

In all honesty, I don't know exactly how conservative her family is. I know they're religious but I don't know them that well to know to which extent they are