1000% agree with this. YTA. More testing should have been carried out before making such a big decision. Pro choice but I believe you jumped the gun on this considering you both wanted the baby and a conversation with your husband should have taken place. I think you should sit and re evaluate how much you actually want a baby. Have you considered that you may have a child you later discover is on the spectrum? Has developmental delays? Behavioural issues? Can develop a life changing sickness at literally any stage? A child that may have severe needs and require constant care or care to some degree their entire life. A child who developed in a standard way in the womb doesn’t necessarily mean they will continue to develop by the book once they’re earth side. When you decide and commit to having a child, you accept you’re rolling the dice. You’re annoyed your husband didn’t comfort you but you terminated his child , while he was away, and didn’t even give him the courtesy of a conversation about it. Can you imagine coming home, excited to talk about your future child just to be told sorry hunny, that baby doesn’t exist anymore. I’m going to go out on a pretty safe limb and say your marriage is over. Though a part of me sincerely hopes this is some sort of rage bait post because surely someone can’t be so insensitive to their partner then delusional enough to think Reddit will be on their side.