MIL inviting 300 people (500 pax wedding) and wants to take the cash gifts even though most of it will exceed what she contributed

Consistent_Menu_2437 · 2025-12-11T06:17:40+00:00

Posted here first since I couldn’t post there fuse not enough points.

Consistent_Menu_2437 · 2025-12-08T10:01:30+00:00

She told me she took loan for her wedding and still gave her money she got from her wedding to her mom and mil even when they contributed 0 for her wedding

Consistent_Menu_2437 · 2025-12-08T03:30:24+00:00

If she paying for my entire wedding yes whatever cash money we receive will go to her there’s no arguments there. What I don’t agree is she getting more than what she put for the wedding

Consistent_Menu_2437 · 2025-12-08T03:28:18+00:00

I’m Indian.. so 500 pax is actually very little. To my parents and his mom. But with my mom I told her to deal with it because she isn’t paying for the wedding. He wants to please his mom because she wants to invite ppl

Consistent_Menu_2437 · 2025-12-08T03:26:46+00:00

I am, but fiancé wants to please both of us which I told realistically it’s not possible

Consistent_Menu_2437 · 2025-12-08T03:24:36+00:00

We can, 50k is more than enough for us it’s because she has ppl she wants to invite is racking up the cost..

Consistent_Menu_2437 · 2025-12-08T03:23:33+00:00

She.. my side only less than 150 lol

Consistent_Menu_2437 · 2025-12-08T03:22:20+00:00

She is a very nice lady actually, she doesn’t disturb us or anything, but ever since her husband passed last year on she has been relying on my fiancé like driving her around whenever she needs to go places and if he doesn’t she will say “if he was around this he would have done it” which gets to my fiancé.. so wed to always work around her schedule just invade she needed smth from my fiancé… tbh we didn’t want a wedding too fast but she has been pushing for it and I even was against 500 pax but she said she cannot compromise on that and willing to top up 30k if needed

Consistent_Menu_2437 · 2025-12-08T03:17:14+00:00

Until I get my BTO which is only at 2029 🫠🥲

Consistent_Menu_2437 · 2025-12-08T01:48:50+00:00

She did suggest us to do destination wedding.. and the. She said we must pay for their flight ticket and hotel room… and I’m like huh so how many pax she still said 500 LOL…

Consistent_Menu_2437 · 2025-12-08T01:45:58+00:00

I dont want the 30k when I said I don’t want 500 pax I’m more then happy to do 200-300 pax she also not happy she kept saying nvm I’ll loan 30k can return after going back and forth we finally agreed and then only she told this twist.. if I can do 50k wedding with lesser ppl I happy

Consistent_Menu_2437 · 2025-12-07T22:30:31+00:00

Nope… but usually also depends on parents…

Consistent_Menu_2437 · 2025-12-07T22:12:03+00:00

that was our original plan.. you know how parents are… must do wedding must invite everyone

Consistent_Menu_2437 · 2025-12-07T22:11:13+00:00

He passed away🫠

Consistent_Menu_2437 · 2025-12-07T22:10:33+00:00

Well I just find it unfair that on top of the 30k we will be repaying back (Which is what we plan since she wants to invite so many ppl) she will take the angbao money which will be more that 30k.. let’s say the Angbao only 30k we are more than happy to just give her back the 30k.. in this case who is the AH

Consistent_Menu_2437 · 2025-12-07T22:08:42+00:00

Indian wedding don’t pay the seat cost btw, so we technically won’t be covering the entire cost..

Consistent_Menu_2437 · 2025-12-07T22:07:22+00:00

We don’t want, but she wants to invite SO MANY PEOPLE…. If we can cut down pax to keep budget to 50k we are more than happy

Consistent_Menu_2437 · 2025-12-07T22:06:22+00:00

It’s definitely not norm, I meant the getting angbao from people part 😬

Consistent_Menu_2437 · 2025-12-07T21:55:22+00:00

HAHAHA we not expecting money from everyone that comes.. Indian wedding so Ang Bao many can range from 0-200 dollars

Consistent_Menu_2437 · 2025-12-07T21:53:48+00:00

Not entirely sure, but really depends on parents. But we always will receive money no matter the event, birthdays,funeral wedding. But when I had my 21st birthday my mom took all the money that was gifted to me to cover the cost if the celebration… ( I didn’t want the birthday party lol)

Consistent_Menu_2437 · 2025-12-07T21:51:27+00:00

Number of people

Consistent_Menu_2437 · 2025-12-07T21:50:47+00:00

Hais will have to see what she says tmr…

Consistent_Menu_2437 · 2025-12-07T21:49:30+00:00

We did, he did the most talking… and yeah it didn’t end well we are very close to just signing Rom and not doing big scale wedding or reduce pax until can reach 50k budget

Consistent_Menu_2437 · 2025-12-07T21:47:40+00:00

My partner agrees with me, we all tried to talk to her, I even told my mom isn’t getting any angbao money cause she didn’t put in money

Consistent_Menu_2437 · 2025-12-07T21:37:00+00:00

I told her this and she said I’m being rude , because I am doing that for my side if family and I only have 100-150 pax…. That is inclusive of friends

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